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  • jagara4

    Lost my temper with a college, who insists on doing things the most convoluted and rigid ways, while I'm trying to work smarter.

    But I'm the idiot, I lost my temper, I was out of line, I recognize this.

    However, now she calls me a misogynist. I criticized her work. I said nothing about her gender. For fucks sake.

    • You are fucked. It's an ego thing, surely.OBBTKN
    • Fucked as in trouble, or fucked as in fucked up person?jagara
    • A colleague pulled the gender card in a totally non-gendered dispute the other day, just to shut it down and not admit fault. Lost a lot of respect for them.BuddhaHat
    • In trouble. If she has brought up the subject of gender, it seems that she has no other arguments and whenever gender is discussed, things do not end well.OBBTKN
    • Or at least, the times that the same thing has happened to me. Good luck!OBBTKN
    • Well, this is Denmark and not the US, so I doubt I'm in real trouble. I'm sending her a sincere apology today, that' she'll see tuesday.jagara
    • @OBBTKN Oh, sorry, you're from Germany(?). Don't know how things work there.jagara
    • She probably can not define misogyny.
      Pulling out the gender cards mean that she knows she is the one in the wrong.
      ApeRobot
    • try and stay on topic in your apology, keep it simple and honest. Say what you mean, without being mean. Sorry you're having to deal with it thoughIanbolton
    • I had a similar thing a few years agio where i criticised the design of our companies website. She argued that I was questioning her design abilities...Ianbolton
    • in an already male dominated industry. I apologised, but i was so angry because the website was shit.Ianbolton
    • fuck that bitch!milfhunter
    • @jagara, I'm from and in the Basque Country... The Berlin thing was a joke with a friend, and that was many years ago ;)OBBTKN
    • And I was referring to "just another trouble", nothing serious. Hope it!OBBTKN
    • Ah, ok :)jagara
    • you should have Ben'd the shit out of herYakuZoku
    • I still think that you become a worse designer if one can't accept critique. You might disagree with the feedback, but at least listen. If everything ...Nutter
    • turns into "gender politics" then how will anyone ever give feedback.

      So apologize for losing your temper, but stand by your critique.
      Nutter
    • I work in non design related work these days, but it still applies :)jagara
    • To be fair, I didn’t simply criticize, I lost my damn temper. Didn’t say anything that could be considered misogyny, however.jagara
    • Did you mansplain tho?pseud
    • She womansplains a lot.jagara
    • 'All you men are the same, blah blah blah'Ianbolton

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