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    Most advice is meaningless until the baby is here, because they're all totally different and everyone's family situation is totally different. Its likely the least comparable situation in all of humanity.

    A birthing course is helpful, so you understand what happens, and if you're the USA, be able to advocate for the things your other half will or won't want. There is such an addiction to pain medication here and they will pump up the after care with some very strong and terrifying prescription drugs that are largely unnecessary.

    A few practical things that come to mind:

    Get the car seat ready.
    Get the room ready.
    Get the wallet ready.
    Prep a load of food for when you get back from hospital.
    Stay in the room when its happening.
    In the birth, if you can handle it, look down 'there' so you can see the baby come out. You will not regret seeing life cross over to the other side.
    Don't buy every gadget you are told about (you don't need any of them).
    Don't tell anyone the name you are thinking about, you do not need their opinion. Name the kid and then tell everyone.
    Don't beat yourself up if you struggle with the transition. It can be hard to find your place in it as a father sometimes
    Don't worry about it too much, civilization has been doing this for millions of years.

    Finally, don't listen to anyone's advice, your situation is yours alone and it will be unique.

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    • "Get the wallet ready."
      lol      Nairn
    • This is all solid advice, especially the last line.
      You'll just work it out for yourselves.      Nairn
    • Exactly, that’s what I meant by “you become a parent once you have the child. Trust the process”monospaced
    • That is sound advice, cheers! I have thought of "looking down there" while it's happening but I'm really bad with blood so there's a good chance I'll pass out.pseud
    • Can comfirm, this is solid advice.Morning_star
    • even poor people can deal with the struggle of having baby's and i'm not gonna look at my ladies pussy when the baby comes out.milfhunter
    • 100% solid advice. I'm older, and my kids are 21 and 18, so I've gone through all of this...exador1
    • 1 thing that truly worked for my wife and I was 'shift work' so to speak. Since i worked at an office, and my wife was on Mat Leave, she was home with the babyexador1
    • so from the time i got home (say 5:45pm) until say about 2am, i was 'on duty' feeding, changing, whatever... I'd come in the door, and my wife would handexador1
    • over our baby to me, and i did everything til about 2am, when it was time for me to get some sleep. This way, from afternoon, til 2am, my wife could relax,exador1
    • go to the gym, run errands, whatever... just take it easy and get some time away from 'doing it all' sort of thing...get some sleep etc...exador1
    • also, that way, i could 'sleep' from 2am til the next day without constantly getting up all night for feeding or changing...exador1
    • anyhow, this way 'both' of us got time to sleep, or recharge, or whatever... both of us had 'time' with our baby, and we didn't get trapped in the endless cycleexador1
    • of 'whose turn is it to wake up' lol...
      anyhow, it sure worked well for us....
      but everyone's mileage may vary etc...      exador1
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