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auto's post above prompted me. My 16 year old son...he's a great kid. So thoughtful and empathetic. Also very spriitual...our family is not religious but he explored religion, meditation and spirituality at a very young age...around 10 or 11. Also super into music and plays in a band...although with COVID they haven't played much.
So he's very different to me.
He's also quite a loner. Has a few friends but I think he's happier when he's by himself. Kind of shy and awkward...but he really is a lovely boy.
But I think he believes that he doesn't really matter when it comes to his friends. That they think his presence and contributions aren't really valued. I don't think he's right there...but I sense a bit of anxiety on that front.
He's also had some OCD type episodes. Started about 5 years ago when he'd do the occasional strange little thing...kind of disappeared for a while, but it's back with a vengeance the past month or so. He'll go in and out of the house about 10 times a night even in the freezing cold. Sometimes going into the backyard and opening / closing the BBQ lid about 50 times. He says it's just something he does as habit and nothing to worry about...but I am getting a bit concerned.
He has had sessions with a child psychologist in the past which did help...thinking we may need to go down that path again.
Anyway, not sure why I'm writing this...but it's all just part of the journey I guess.
- Surely, a great kid. Maybe needs a girlfriend********
- sounds like the kind of kid who is going to live his best years as he grows older. prob just needs to find his jam to get into.inteliboy
- Get him assessed. The ocd stuff compounds — it can get worse fast. Don’t wait and seeGnash
- Also look into something called P.A.N.D.A.S. Syndrome. Especially If it can on suddenlyGnash
- My daughter went though something similar. Therapy helped in a huge wayGnash
- ^^ came on*Gnash
- It’s hard work, for everyone. I took 6 months off work to help her through therapy. She’s going into 2nd year university and doing greatGnash
- But man, can that stuff escalate fast.Gnash
- I'm with inteliboy on this, and yes, a gf will be very helpfull, take care of him, looks like a smart boy. Good luckOBBTKN
- A gf will fix nothing. His rituals will only compound without support. Don’t take the signs lightly.Gnash
- I'm with Gnash: bros before hoes.deadsperm
- Excellent summary, ds. thanks :)Gnash
- Thanks one and all. We've wrapped our arms around him...he says he's just not super passionate about anything right now...BusterBoy
- ...nothing to really look forward to each day. So we're trying to help but it's something he's going to need to work out.BusterBoy
- We've also booked him a session with his psychologist so we'll just keep plodding forward!BusterBoy
- It’s super hard.. my kid is a sweetheart but is also super sensitive .. is easily discouraged and takes so many things to heart.. even if he was 12 I wouldautoflavour
- Less concerned about porn, but 9 years olds are still such kids.. or can be at least .. porn will always be there, his innocence wont beautoflavour
- Surely, a great kid. Maybe needs a girlfriend