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  • NBQ000

    Yesterday I saw something sad. Maybe I‘m overthinking it but... I was walking in the park and saw a young mother with her toddler. The little girl was maybe 3 years old. She was holding her mom‘s hand with one hand and in the other hand she was holding a big iPhone (her mom‘s) with her little fingers. Her head and neck bent all the way down staring at the screen. They were walking and the whole time the girl was just staring at the screen.

    Really bad parenting to allow small children get used to staring at screens even when out in nature. Her parents should be showing her things outside, talking to her, playing and not let such a young kid be glued to a screen.

    /rant

    • Before you judge, walk a mile in their shoes.Morning_star
    • Amazed you weren't checking out the mom's tits.fadein11
    • How do you balance screen time with your kids?eryx
    • The phone works as a good babysitter. I see it all the time. My nieces don't even engage in conversation anymore. Just keep scrolling.PhanLo
    • Surprised I get dv for this. You really think it’s healthy for a toddler to be glued on the screen like that?NBQ00
    • As a parent of a toddler, this also makes me sad. +1 NBQ, because this kind of parenting is oftentimes lazy and detrimental to the kids' normal development.monospaced
    • My son is not allowed to use any mobile device, and he knows it. He spends his time taking in the world around, learning manners and being social.monospaced
    • @eryx, it's incredibly easy. You figure out how much they can have, and limit it to that. There's no real good argument FOR screen time that I've ever heard.monospaced
    • I don't think anyone's saying it's healthy. However, in that particular circumstance it is unfair to come to the conclusion you did without context.Morning_star
    • upvoted.hotroddy
    • It is pretty hard to judge the situation as an outsider. who knows what happened the rest of the day for that mom/kid.akiersky
    • We try to limit our toddler's tv time, but sometimes you just need 20 minutes to get some things done.akiersky
    • It doesn't mean the other 10-12 hours of awake time aren't completely focused on the kid and their developmentakiersky
    • It’s one thing to give your kid the phone at home a little bit during the day but during a walk in the park?NBQ00
    • In my opinion, there are a ton of things you can give a kid besides a phone to distract them. Of course you can't judge without context ...monospaced
    • ... but if your kid can't be consoled without an iPhone, then that's due to parenting choices and conditioning, and nothing else.monospaced
    • I use TV time for my son, but it's not a mobile device and we are in control. He can't decide how long, or when, he watches.monospaced
    • The next generation will be 'special'. Screens from day 0Bennn
    • Agreed!
      Not in a park, not with a phone.
      Use a book or a toy when you need a minute alone.
      akiersky
    • Agreed.
      Not in a park, not with your phone.
      Use a book or a toy for a moment alone.
      -Dr. Seus
      akiersky
    • Agreed.
      Not in a park, not with your phone.
      Use a book or a toy for a moment alone.
      -Dr. Seus
      akiersky
    • Agreed.
      Not in a park, not with your phone.
      Use a book or a toy for a moment alone.
      -Dr. Seus
      akiersky
    • Agreed.
      Not in a park, not with your phone.
      Use a book or a toy for a moment alone.
      -Dr. Seus
      akiersky
    • That generation already exists. My friend's daughter just turned 10. Same age as the iPad she started using on day 1.monospaced
    • My friend's daughter just turned 10. She's been using an iPad since day 1. Her mom got her an iPhone 11 for Christmas, because she demanded it. Oh hell no.monospaced
    • It's entirely unhealthy. We let our kids (2 1/2 and 5) use our phones occasionally, sometimes in the car for my 5yo to watch a video.mg33
    • test commentmonospaced
    • Our daughter sees us using ours and wants to try them. She’s 1.5y, so naturally curious... parenting can be hard. I wouldn’t judge too hard.ben_
    • You never know what that mum has to deal with. Careful with the judging. I'm willing to bet once that girl is 5, that phone pacifier won't be required.HopefullyHayzilla
    • Btw, philosophically I agree with you. Kids should be exploring nature, learning social skills and all that. But screens are a part of their future for betterben_
    • Or worse, and like just about anything telling them they “can’t” almost assures that they will.ben_
    • just imagine the girl screaming for the last 3 hours cause her 3yr old molars are coming in, the mom trying to console her to no avail . . .timeless
    • and is heading to a lunch with her single friend w/o kids who just got promoted and now makes twice as much as the mom used to (when she didn't have kids) . . .timeless
    • and could focus on her carreer more than her career and family life. And in that moment of weakness she just needs a break and her family and support . . .timeless
    • circle is 5 hours away cause she decided to move to where her husband lives/works and knows almost nobody. Then decide about our opinion of her choice of . . .timeless
    • parenting techniques. You're getting a glimpse of a moment in time. Not the entire picture. Been there. Next time you see a frustrated mom in the market . . .timeless
    • with a hysterical kid think of this moment. Or like my wife, go up to the mom tell her she's doing it right, and don't pay any attention to the side looks . . .timeless
    • that she's getting and that being a mom is hard, frustrating work and that it gets better. Wow . . . that's it for now, I guess judging someone who can't . . .timeless
    • defend themselves really pushes my buttons.Then to even come here, of all places, to talk about it really says something about a person. </rant>timeless
    • Oh dear.NBQ00
    • Yup, oh dear. I was a perfect parent before I had kids too.timeless

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