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I'm going to assume by [ again ! ] you mean she's dealing with alcoholism to some degree, so have some first-hand advice:Stop covering for her. Don't make excuses, don't try to bargain, don't downplay the seriousness of it. And don't be quiet. Talk to your friends about it. Talk to *her* friends about it. The sooner she's exposed, the sooner she can start getting treatment for it.
The alternative is to leave and let her crash and burn. Until she wakes up in hospital with a broken leg or gets fired or something, she won't accept there's a problem or consequences or that she's not in control of it.
I got my bf into addiction sessions a year ago but his drinking only got worse over the summer, and the withdrawal symptoms came faster and harder, so I finally stopped covering for him. I felt better being able to tell people what I was dealing with, and his friends sprang into action and we got him into AA. He's been sober 60 days and it's almost like the last two years didn't happen.
- "talk to your friends about it" this is what QBN is great for. Amazing advice monk. way to step up and offer wise words for a fellow member_niko
- It sounds stupidly obvious when you say it, right? But my instinct was to help him hide it.i_monk
- And every "what to do when your ___ is an alcoholic" site I checked had to spell out the importance of it.i_monk
- Yup agree you need to put your problems out there for the universe to respondrobotron3k
- appreciate the advice i_monk._me_