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    Un-backed random thoughts of the day:

    Is fear of intimacy widespread?
    If intimacy is personal truth, and people are constantly lying because the truth is scary, then I think it's widespread. People are scared of being intimate with themselves and with others.

    In relationships, it seems sex is used to mask it, make it seem as if it isn't present and keep the mind off it.
    Why is it that the first intimate contact between two newly acquainted people who are interested in a long term meaningful relationship, is not an intimate discussion or feeling, but touch and specifically french kissing?
    In no time, they go from strangers to sexually engaged with no intimcay involved.

    It seems as if the more one represses intimacy, the more a yearning for contact manifests in needing touch.
    Also with touch alone, one can continue lying, no words are necessary.

    Interestingly, pedophiles suffer from this, maybe this has to do with circles of violence as the bellow wiki article relates to abuse victims as well -
    "Current studies show that people who have an insufficient amount of intimacy or are lonely are more vulnerable to exhibit sexually offending behaviors.[12]"
    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fe…

    Going with this rational, maybe it's not surprising that men, who are supposed to be stoic and fear more than a handshake with other men or talking about their feelings, have more fear of intimacy than women.
    https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pub…
    https://www.psychologytoday.com/…

    I assume that the fear is increasing.

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