Crappy New year
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heliana, i understand your pain. i've been there and many here have as well, or will someday, and then will understand. this is just the substance of life. the phrase 'shit happens' wasn't coined just because it has a nice ring to it, but because it's something we all experience. i know the darkest feelings of despair when nothing in life seems important, when you can't muster the motivation to do anything, much less exist. i know the feeling of investing years into a relationship and one day lose it all. it's a horrible pain and a tough hill to get over. sometimes it takes months, sometimes years. what's important is to realize that you only live once and that you should make the best of it. your first step is to nurse your wounds so you can get on with your life. i've found that the best remedy is to just talk about your problems to friends. talk until you're sick of hearing you feel sorry for your pathetic self. when you can't talk to people, keep your self busy. watch funny movies and work out. do both at the same time. it's amazing how you start to feel alive again. after all, depression is only a chemical imbalance. you can change the way you feel, your emotions by changing your habits. get a new haircut, get your teeth whitened. get out and meet new people, work with the homeless, under-priveledged children. think about what life will be like when you've found your new love. you'll wonder why you ever grieved for the last guy for as long as you did. before you know it, you'll go days and then weeks without feeling depressed. it's a gradual process, but it's something that everyone in life goes through. you're not alone! i've got a few friends myself that are going through the same thing. one more thing, don' t look to anonymous people on the internet for consolation. most people don't want to hear the problems of a total stranger. so venting here will only frustrate you more. get out and meet people. you can do it. 'this to shall pass'
good luck!