Looking for advice...
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- vaxorcist0
okay.... away from the netbanging and amusing randomness....
1. It's a no-fault state, so whatever you feel is not part of the law.... whatever you feel is between you and the primal scream therapy.... a mountain range hiking trip while screaming it all out may be a good idea...
2. the "fuck this shit I just want to find the exit" moment is very dangerous, especially when you have kids... my lawyer warned me about this... .but it was too late, I'd already agreed to some completely impossible conditions my ex wanted me to do, I talked to her while in my moment of just wanting to be done with it all... then it dragged on annother 2 years, so remaining civil is good, but just trying to make it all stop by hitting the "exit button" and "signing whatever it is" can be a recipe for being talked into things you cannot actually do, then facing hard consequences of not fulfilling the impossible and the court does not like this.....
3. try NOT to use your lawyer as a shrink.... my ex did, I didn't, her lawyer ended up costing her 5 times what mine cost me for the same case. My lawyer said some lawyers business models is to just keep the client on the phone while the billable hours rack up....
4 try to remain civil, while I don't totally agree with it, there's a book called " the good karma divorce" and it's an interesting read....