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Dude, finding out that your girlfriend or wife has been cheating is probably one of the most horrible things you can go through. Totally feel for you man. I've had the same experience with a long-term girlfriend too and have absolutely no tolerance left for it.
I don't quite understand your fear of talking to her. If she's explosive, she's got no right to be at all. Is there a moment when the kids are away you can do it? Or via letter? Maybe have a break from seeing them for a bit after you tell her till the dust settles.
My advice from my own experience:
1. Definitely confront her and stand your ground.
2. It can be really damaging to your self worth - read up lots about keeping it at a healthy level.
3. Remember not all women are like this. You'll learn to trust again even though that might feel the opposite right now.
4. Physical exercise is really good to relieve all the negative shit it brings out in your body. You don't want that stuff brewing in you.
5. Accept the fact you're gonna feel shitty for a while and just allow the feelings to work themselves out naturally. You'll feel free and amazing soon.
6. The best revenge (not that I recommend revenge) is for her to see you in a happy contented state without her.
7. In the long run understand she did it out of her own unhappiness and forgive her and move on.
You've got a great new start ahead of you man. All the best with everything.
- some really sounds advice right there. If i could, SunSunSun, i would buy you a beer for being a good person.capn_ron
- aw, thanks dude. : )
Beer is actually an excellent idea.SunSunSun - Great advice.Jaline
- Good stuff.barbara
- What happened to QBN?!!
Sounds too reasonable to be posted here.******** - thanks man. good stufffml
- boom. the last one is key but tricky. great stuff.sofakingbanned