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  • vaxorcist0

    This does suck..... I had a slightly similar situation a few years ago, but no kids.....

    Note that seeing the WRONG therapist can be terrible.. .was for me at least.... and seeing a couples counselor can be an odd minefield, as my ex and I had TOTALLY different ideas of what to discuss....

    The vanishing of respect is a HUGE deal, and your kids will probably figure this out even if you try to hide it from them.

    Her tendency to explode is a manipulative tactic she may not even be aware she's using. My ex was like that. She ended up in a hospital once thinking she had a heart attack, when it was really just anxiety.... this happened after she once finally got me to "tell her how I really feel" as I'd been reluctant to for years, knowing she'd freak out, and she did, so I stopped telling her how I felt.... lesson learned, even if she kept screaming at me for "never telling her how I feel" all the fucking time even after the hospital freakout....

    good luck.... my ex finally apologized after 2 years of divorce proceedings, at the next-to-the-last court meeting, and it finally seemed like she really meant it, but for me, it was too little too late.

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