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In the long run things are likely to be easier with a divorce than without, especially in regards to custody. The kids need to know that you both love them, but without anything in writing it is too easy for the kids to (unintentionally) play you against each other.
eg. 'Dad, I want to stay with mum tonight, not you.' 'Mum, can dad take us to school tomorrow' etc. etc. They'll end up running the show and if they are young, just think how bad that could turn out for them when they are older.
I'm saying this as I've struggled with this situation for about 6 years. The kids are suffering character wise as they are learning to be manipulative – in my circumstances their mum lets them make all the choices even though they are both under 10. I'm working my butt off to earn some cash so that I can things sorted out and not let things get out of control. As soon as I have a little nest egg it'll probably be sucked straight into lawyers wallets and court fees, but it'll be the best thing for the kids in the end.