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era404, you've put this woman on a pedestal way beyond anythign imaginable. In your mind you've already mapped out this perfect little life for you two, with your perfect relationship and the perfect things you two are going to do together.
era404, you have played these scenarios over in your mind a MILLION times. You've projected onto her a personality that she can't possibly live up to.
era404, you put so much pressure on her and made her feel so anxious due to your own anxieties, that every time she meets you, she is scared and nervous, cos she knows you don't know what you are doing. You make every meeting with her feel uncomfortable.
era404, you are so terrified of losing her and terrified of messing it up, that she feels that she has all these "relationship" expectations of yours to meet in just getting to know you, which can't possibly fulfill.
era404, you have lost sight of the fact that she is a sexual being, as are you, and are trying to "win" her over as a dickless man.
era404, you have made an error. Dismissed.
- wow. ouch. there may be some validity to your point, but I told her no pressure. We could be friends until she decided if she was ready.era4O4