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emu, your analogy breaks down because marriage is not, should not be like a boat. It is not a matter of staying afloat. It's a relationship. For your analogy to hold up you would have to say that you wear a life vest in a boat to protect yourself from the other passenger. Getting a prenup makes about as much sense as going out on a date with a gun. My point is that if one is so paranoid about becoming a marital statistic, they shouldn't get married. When marriage ceases to become a "till death do us part" affair, then the beauty of it fades and people treat it like a financial contract. I'm fully aware that 50% or more of all marriages fail regardless of whether a prenup is even in the picture, but having a prenup makes it clear to all parties that trust is not a part of the relationship, and thus couples who get prenups are even more likely to get divorced than ones who do not.
In my opinion, if people go into marriage believing that anything less serious than infidelity or abuse could be grounds for divorce (such as personality differences, shifting priorities, falling out of love), they should cut their losses and avoid the almost-inevitable divorce preemptively. If couples cannot bring themselves to say "until death do us part" to one another, I think they are wasting their time.
I'd say that prenups are more like putting on life vests that are packed with lead bars.