Was this rude?
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- mikotondria30
What you said wasn't rude from your telling of it, of course we only have the actual words, and a little background on the emotional context. Body language up to and during the encounter would have been a big factor, eg was there good eye contact up to this point, was everyone, including the waiter relaxed enough for this humor to be (a) a bonding moment, or (b( more easily interpreted as a form of subtle aggression based on the server/served heirarchy ? It seems that you intended it to be harmless or (a), but it was taken as (b), which may or may not have been outside your control.
Either way, you can reasonably most encounters like these to be taken as (a) because you're the bloody customer, and it would have been obvious by all the exchanges surrounding your joke that it was harmless and that to deliberately misinterpret it was just being a dick on his part.
People come into a restaurant and joke around all the time, you have to suck it up and give people the benefit of the doubt unless they are obviously being rude which you weren't. That's your job, that you voluntarily go to everyday - if you don't like it, get another job is my advice to this server.
I don't think how you behaved was, according to your telling of it, rude - and I wouldn't let this incident stop you trying to be lighthearted in the future.- And I was really apologetic afterwards. I meant to be playful and it came across as a bit rude...TheBlueOne
- Long-winded but +1Sandman_1982