Major advice needed.
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Sorry to hear about this, Stim. It's a tough time to be looking for a job anywhere. You said you don't know a lot of people in Philly. Could anyone put you up for a while, provided you buy your own groceries and maybe pitch in for utilities? I've done this before, it's humbling but sometimes the best option.
Secondly, Look for jobs in Chicago. While doing this, pound the pavement and pick up some freelance work in Philly. At your rates, which are the same as mine btw, you could design a single ID program and have plenty of dough to finance a move, and then some. Chicago is the best bet for your wife and for your career. The midwest has thus far been less affected by the economy than any other place.
I think it may be time also for your wife to bite the bullet and wait tables or bartend. I hear you that her experiences have been bad; I don't doubt that, but when people make vows of marriage, implicit in the agreement is a promise to do one's part in making ends meet, even if it is uncomfortable. She can at least help relieve the stress. I respect you for being willing to pull your weight and then some, but it's time for her to pitch in...especially with the bad news about your apartment.
Finally, I have been in a position before where my life truly fell apart before my eyes. I've been fired without given reason. I've had to bail on a brand new lease without having spent a single night in the place. I've had to face being laid off from my first design job, days before my parents (i.e., place of residence) packed up and moved to St. Louis. I've had to move out here where I never wanted to be, with only the gear that could fit in my car, totally dejected, broke and humiliated.
Three years later I'm married to the woman of my dreams, I have a great job, a new house and my first child, a boy, will be arriving within a couple months. My point is that sometimes God – yes, God – lets shit fall apart on you, because he's trying to get your attention; because he has something better planned for you that you would not otherwise seek out.
I don't say this to preach; I say it to offer hope. God bless.