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- gramme0
she doesn't matter, you don't matter, only he does. 9-10? at that age he's dad's best friend and a wad of willing play-dough. now is your time to shine as a dad, not nic.
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(Feb 6 07, 12:22)All respect Justin, but I strongly disagree with that. Kids are obviously important, more so than career, friends, etc., but I think the best gift that parents can give to their kids is a healthy marriage, or at least your most rigorous attempt at this (more on that topic later). Your ability as a husband is inextricable from your ability as a father. Being a good listener, a compassionate leader and a humble man is necessary for both.
I personally believe that my own marriage would go to shit without Divine intervention. But I take hope because of the Divine. I'm so sick of people getting married because of love. It's not love that binds, it's friendship. Commitment. Conviction. Sure love is deeply involved in it (or at least it should be), but most of us don't know shit about deep marital love until we've lived it out, day to day, for years.
People these days take on and discard marriages like items of clothing. Promises don't seem to mean very much anymore...and thus we all go around looking over our shoulders because we've come to expect everyone we meet to be liars and thieves. We become expendable to eachother. The whole thing makes me very sad.