Dad Advice Thread
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- eryx1
My sister in law told me about this one.
When you kid is ready to have a soother at sleep time don't just put one soother in the crib, if they loose it they will be frustrated and wake up.
We put 12 in the crib all over the place, now a soother is always within reach and if they decide to start throwing them out of the crib you don't have to keep going back into the room to put it back.
simple and effective.
- Ha yep. I sprinkled them bastards of all over their beds. 12 is a good number.Hayzilla
- nipples everywhere!sarahfailin
- Excellent idea, but also be mindful of when it's time to phase the soothers out. My now 3 year old is still holding onto his adamantly.kirshar12
- And it's already causing dental damage, which will be more stress and money very soon.kirshar12
- Beeswax0
It's been two weeks since my son is born. After 10 days in the ICU we brought him home and its such a joy to hold him in my arms.
But man getting him to sleep is tough.
I hold him, he dozes off and I put him in his crib, couple of minutes later he wakes up with a cry.
Just tonight we'd done this several times. My wife had just fed him too and changed his diapers. I don't get it, why does he hate the crib?I wonder he wakes up because the crib mattress is pretty hard, but they also don't suggest soft mattress because of SIDS.
- shake his booty
https://www.youtube.…BonSeff - rtfm: he misses the body heat and your heartbeat...that's how babies work;-)uan
- there's also the plastic nipples, pacifiers. those give them the chance to find something known when they wake up, calm down and go again into sleep mode.uan
- hard mattress is ok, his body is light as a feather and built to survive on stoneuan
- my boys used to love falling asleep on my chest, i'd carefully move them when sound asleep, or just sleep with them._niko
- but don't worry, only 6 more months and you're in the clear! lol_niko
- Remember that he is blind, and don't know where he is. Spent 9 month in the womb, then sudden separation....ApeRobot
- Keep i'm close to you, like every mammals do. Do not leave him alone in his room...ApeRobot
- http://www.awarepare…ApeRobot
- shake his booty
- eryx3
My father was paying me $5 an hour for piling the winter firewood. I was doing a shit job and he told me:
"If that pile falls down I am not paying you to pile it again"
It has stuck with me to do a good job.
- DaveO1
ACTUAL advice:
1 – Breastfeeding. Its great if she can do it but if she can't, make her feel like it's okay and support her. There's so much pressu reon women to succeed in these areas and they can feel like a failure if they don'r manage to do it.First kid was a dream, second couldn't do it. Go figure. Same goes for cesarian birth vs natural.
2 – HSA account. For all those in the USA, get an HSA account and fill it up before you have the baby. It's a ball ache but you will save money
3 – Baby Carrier. Literally the best invention for getting uot and having time with you child. When they're young and naping all the time, strap them on and take a walk around the park with a podcast. I got so much exercise by just having my son strapped on walking around Greenpoint & Williamsburg on my own. When we just had one son this is the time you give to your wife to nap, and they WILL appreciate it.
4 – Strollers. Spend money on it. You will use it loads and its worth it. A good thing for grandparets to help with if they want to contribute. We got the Bugaboo chameleon and it was the best money we ever spent. Don;t think that you can out smart strollers, good gear is worth it, and with a clean up you can re-sell it. Also, when the kids get bigger, this stroller is AMAZING and fits on an in flight overhead bin
https://www.babyzen.com/en/yoyo-…I could go on and on!
- Point 1 is very important. In the UK the midwives and hospitals make you feel like you are giving your child crack if you aren't breast feeding. Cunts.Hayzilla
- And also very true in Brooklyn. We expressed milk for a while with our second son and it's SUCH a time drain.DaveO
- wanna hang out one day, DaveO?monospaced
- A dad symposium!DaveO
- Bluejam3
Never turn your back on them during a Nerf gun war and more importantly, show no mercy.
- Krassy2
Keeping our kids safe online
- bwahahahaha .. I was like I recognise that name.. I know the person who wrote thisautoflavour
- mantrakid1
Actually i wanted to post another story cuz it relates to above. I 'stumbled' across my dad's porn stash (like 2-3 magazines) as a teen, which in retrospect is shitty cuz i was digging through the drawer next to his bed. Anyways, it was like hitting paydirt. Id sneak a magazine out and put it back so many times it started to feel like mine, but one day i went back there and they were gone. I think he maybe realized I was checking it out and he felt embarrassed so got rid of it. But because nothing was ever said, i just sorta used my imagination about how he felt, etc. Having given it some thought i have no idea what he could have said to me about it that wouldn't have been totally awkward.
- monNom1
My two bits of advice for any new dad's, but especially dad's of multiples: SLEEP TRAINING
We got our girls on the sleep training routine at about 2months old, and after about three nights, they were sleeping 12hrs through the night. Every night. It's been over a year. They never wake up!
We used the babywise system, as that was what was recommended to us. Dunno if there are others but the basic idea is don't let baby oversleep during the day, and cram them full of food so they don't wake-up hungry in the middle of the night.
Second bit of advice: when people offer to help, get them to make you a meal that you can freeze and heat up easily. Lack of sleep and proper nutrition are the biggest factors in how you're going to handle the extra stress. Good meals ready to eat makes things go just that much smoother.
- Funny for me that you post this now. I was 'discussing' this with my partner at 3am this morning, as we've had a few days problem getting lil'un to sleepNairn
- Lil'un's 6 months and for 3 months had been fine.. just these last few days've not been good. I think we need to be firmer getting her to bed earlier.Nairn
- At 6 months things start happening. She could be waking up because of teething or more active dreaming. Or growth spurt fluctuations.monospaced
- You can also look into the “dream feed,” which worked wonders for us starting at about 5 months.monospaced
- ApeRobot1
How do you tell a 3/half years old that mom and dad are gonna separate?
This is stressing me out.- been there its tough. Be honest and supportive.mugwart
- my experience its not the telling but the conditions. Your going to get it rough, but find a solid place to live and grow.mugwart
- due to finance and london prices I had to room hope and that was the worst thing.mugwart
- but be loving and supportive and try and give them a childhood (toys, safety, warmth) and use QBN to stress out.mugwart
- also it gets very raw after you leave. Make a plan now of places to take your kid and schedules etc before hand so if you do crash you can go into auto pilotmugwart
- Thanks mugwart, it's really tough because i don't have any real family support. I'm gonna have to start from scratch and carry the whole thing on my shoulders.ApeRobot
- Not seeing my kid on a daily basis anymore is fucking me up. I got to deal with me losing my wife after 18 years, and being separated from my son....ApeRobot
- Same but I was 10 not 18. Fucking sucks man. Not going to lie to you. My advice, write a list of all improvments you want to do on yourself (diet, health, art,mugwart
- etc). The days away from your kid focus on those. Improve your life at your worst.
Been there so chime in if you need to. I can give my email if you need.mugwart - thanks mugwart.ApeRobot
- helloeatbreathedrive1
Listened, followed, and partnered. Penniless at 36.
- < snap. Buying a house is now out the question.mugwart
- https://youtu.be/FRP…notype
- Beeswax1
This thread is great, I'll check it back in 5 months once ours come out.
In the meantime I guess I don't have much to do as an expecting dad except making money.- get lots of sleep for the next 5 monthszaq
- Go out with your friends and sleep in!Mattjanz3n
- microkorg0
Muslin Squares/Cloths!
You can NEVER have enough of them.Put them over your shoulder when holding baby - stops you getting spew or slavers down you.
Put them over furniture to help protect too when sitting the baby down.
Use on changing matts to take the chill off them and also to dry their bum when cleaned.
Use them to mop up spew, wipe faces, wipe surfaces ......
ENDLESS uses!
- Krassy0
- all good until a kid gets an zip in the eyeFax_Benson
- Don't be a chukkaphob.utopian
- tank020
No advice, just a story. 1,5 year old fell during running in the living room, chipped a part of tooth of.So much blood, it looked like a horror movie. And ofcourse I'm home alone at the time. Next day, first time at the dentist way sooner than expected;) He is alright now ofcourse.
- ok_not_ok0
- the cut at the end is perfect timinghotroddy
- he's the father?? he looks like he's 30.sarahfailin
- ArchitectofFate1
when, not if, when you kid stuffs something small up their nose like a hama bead or a pea, close the unnaffected nostril with your finger and blow air into your kids mouth.
Saved us hours at the hospital.
Also, if it's small enough to swallow, it's small enough to poop out.
- dee-dubs2
For when one of your kids accidentally sticks something small up their nose and it doesn't come out remember to google "mothers kiss".
Also, anything of value to you...nail it to the ceiling or its gonna get fucked at some-point.
- shapesalad-1
- love this. your kid comes home and you tell them the market crashed.. you ate the gummy bears. great lesson there.shapesalad
- Kid should have done his own research.
This is not financial advice.palimpsest