measuring success?
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- identity
Just curious how you all measure success? Lately I've been thinking that the way I measure success are stuck more in who I was and not who I am - the resulting feeling reaching goals or benchmarks is a hollow feeling that seems more nostalgic than satisfactory. Do you all measure success in money? Title? Family? Love?
- identity0
I hope the above, grammatical mess makes enough sense to answer. I'm exhausted and Admin still won't trust us enough to put a 'delete post' feature on here. Apologies and thanks.
- aaux0
One lay at a time
- fredddddd0
If you are happy and able to live your life the way you want, you are successful. That usually includes having a family you love and a job you like.
- fredddddd0
Romney thinks success is being rich.
- fredddddd0
Or if you're 15, having 1000 followers on Instagram and 1,400 FB friends means you're a success.
- fredddddd0
Or if you're 100, being alive is success.
- Peter0
If the Spice Girls and the Backstreet Boys have taught us just one thing it is that it doesn't matter who you were. Or where you are from. So stop benchmarking by that.
Sure, it's an easy thing to do for some quick points: just imagine 30+ years ago you were shitting in your pants. Daily. And look how far you've got.
But that sort of pondering won't get you far.Anyways, just like you, I figured you'd measure success by how close you are to the goals you have set in life. But that would suggest that success have a limit, and end of the road type of deal, and what you do on the way there isn't that much of a goal in itself. Which is complete wrong.
Frankly, judging your life seems like a lose-lose situation to me:
- If you're not successful in your own eyes you'd be either incited to do better if, you are bright, but more often than not you'd simply be bummed out. Like in your post (and I suspect the reason for posting
it here).
- However if you are successful, in your own criticizing eyes, you'd already know it and wouldn't need the measure it. You'd be happy already.My suggestion is simply to stop thinking about it all together.
- e-wo0
^ most poignant post on qbn
- fredddddd0
Just be happy.
- monNom0
Stop hanging around with other successful people and get some loser friends. Pretty soon you'll feel like a huge success.
- utopian0
What really is success anyway and how is it achieved?
• inheriting a fortune?
• winning the lottery?
• talent, ambition, grit?
• upbringing, education?
• perception?
• marketing?
• DNA?
• all of the above?
• none of the above?To be honest, I firmly believe that it is: "right place, right time", "who you know and not what you know", and "luck/fate"... Talent, perseverance and hard work are all a small fraction of how must people become and or are perceived as successful.
Don't believe the hype!
- monNom0
I read a poll once, they asked couples making 50k, 150k and 400k per year how they were doing financially.
Nearly all answered:
"Just getting by".
- fredddddd0
If you're a millionaire and unhappy, are you successful?
- utopian0
If you're a dirty homeless bum and happy, are you unsuccessful?
- hektor9110
if you are a 40 year old virgin are successful?
- drgs0
measure against goals
- mikotondria30
Sounds like you have low testosterone - I recognise that ambivalence and unwillingness to engage in the usual dialog about ambitions; detaching and unmotivated. If you go to the doctor, then they might inject you with it, which is uncomfortable a tad, but after a few days you'll be zinging along like you always tell yourself you were like. Or, you could choose to explore this calmer take on life and become more satisfied with the less acquisitive outlook that it engenders. I no longer have health insurance, so getting the shots isn't an option for me, it's a slightly blubbery, nonchalant coast into middle age - slower music, falling asleep on the couch, no interest in cotd thread. It's fun to see the young people running round 'after things', striving to better their social position - it's all for naught, they've far less chance of earning more than their parents that their parents. Find things you enjoy doing and do them, you don't have to clamour for everything that looks cool. The people with that stuff don't enjoy it as much as you think you will, serendipity and new friends will bring you more joy than anything you can buy, but keep the utilities on if you can. Find exciting new typefaces and just sketch meaningless compositions with them.