It's like I don't know what a baby is...
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- must_dash
My wife has her last day at work today before going on maternity leave, and it seems what ever conversation I get into with friends etc. and it can be about anything, the reply is 'You won't be able to do that when you've got a kid' ...
aagghhh!!! Like I don't understand what a child is... it is doing my swede in.
- shitehawke0
Best get frustrated now, you won't be able to do that when you've got a kid...
- gramme0
I don't know why people feel so compelled to give depressing "advice" to new parents. It happened to us constantly around the time our son was born last year. We did our best to ignore all the input, because at least half of it was bullshit, and because we'd done our homework through a very extensive childbirth class. The rest you learn on the job, it can't be taught through advice.
It'll slow down eventually and people will one day wake up and realize that your child is neither starving, nor destitute, but in fact is quite healthy and full of personality and happiness.
- assuming you have a personable, happy, and well fed child.baseline_shift
- absolutely. i couldn't agree with you more gramme. same thing happened to us.kona
- harlequino0
Usually that kind of advice comes from parents who are miserable about something (usually no sleep or not being able to go to clubs whenever they want), and feel the need to exact some sort of revenge on others.
- ie: people that should not have ever reproduced7point34
- true datharlequino
- < agreebrandelec
- brandelec0
must_dash, i got the same thing from everyone... "oh, say goodbye to sleep... no more sex... blah blah blah". it's all hype. period.
you'll discover naps are the greatest things
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- its workingStugoo
- Jesus f*cking Christ manukit
- FUCK OFF!
Where's my reward??lambsy
- dropdown0
The best is when they ask if the baby is sleeping through the night two weeks after it was born and then when you say no, they say "Oh well that won't happen until they're 4 months anyway."
My 4 month old started sleeping through the night at 1.5 months so that shut them the fuck up.
- Jimbo820
ppfffftttt. Babies.
- harlequino0
We just made it through year one, and frankly there isn't a whole hell of a lot we did before that we can't do now. You just wind up caring less about the dumb trivial shit anyway, and you plan other things a little better.
Yeah ok, the sleep thing, blah blah. You'll get used to that and figure it out. People made such a huge gaddamn deal about that like they never got up in the night before.- Then again, I had insomnia for like 2 years prior to the baby being born, so not a lot changed. :/harlequino
- it took us 6 months before we could sleep more than 3 hours in one go... that was brutalGreedo
- +1kona
- Orbit0
I know exactly how you feel because I had the same experience, and then the baby comes along and you do suddenly realise that you had grossly undervalues just how much of your personal routine will be amputated and sent to the furnace.
When's it due?
- honest0
it's a new lifestyle entirely
- Very much, but it's not the "end" of your life, as many like to make it out to be.harlequino
- dropdown0
Nobody ever tells you what you CAN do once you've got a kid.
- delight in all the shit they figure out, and how they ape you when you say 'shit'Greedo
- ah greedo, endless hours of fun!shitehawke
- talk to all the milfs at the playground about diaper rashGreedo
- how all women everywhere suddenly smile at you when you are with the kidGreedo
- develop intricate scenarios with lego figures for the kid to play outGreedo
- like this love triangle i got going between marcy, jeffrey and roger...Greedo
- which usually takes place in a boat in the tub, and roger usually ends up in the drinkGreedo
- and then there's bert, who's garbage truck always breaks down and he needs to buy gum and spark plugsGreedo
- pre-made excuses to get out of any situation. "Oh i can't go i don't have a sitter."dropdown
- but he only has 50 cents, so he needs to work at the store to pay for it, picking applesGreedo
- "sorry, i can't help you move, gotta watch the kid this weekend"Greedo
- you get to memorize all of the kids booksGreedo
- hahaha, you sound like a great dad :)gramme
- DrBombay0
Just don't become one of those parents that use their children as an excuse for everything.
"I can't do this because of the kids..."Also, don't become a person that says things like this:
"You don't understand because you don't have kids..."It really isn;t that unique of a thing to breed.
I mean no offense to people who have children. I actually really like kids. But these two things are fucking irritating cop-outs that are used all the time.
- Orbit0
"You just wind up caring less about the dumb trivial shit anyway"
So true. I remember dreading the fact that I would no longer be free to go out and get blammered all night, stagger in at 4.00am, all over the place, setting fire to a pizza in the kitchen, barfing in the toilet, then spending the next day lying in bed feeling like death, eating junk food. Seriously, I really wasn't looking forward to losing that aspect of my life.
Now, three years later, the thought of a full on mad night out like that fills me with dread.
- Morning_star0
must_dash, for what it's worth, stay cool. Young babies are mirrors of their parents. The more stressed and uptight you are as parents the more stressed and uptight your child is.
And routine is king. Get them into the same patterns every day, feeding, sleeping, bathing etc. Babies find comfort in what they know and whilst they can't communicate verbally you'll soon pick up what their noises mean..hungry, tired, uncomfortable, in pain. It's not difficult but it is hard work at first and as i've said the sooner you relax into a routine the easier it is.
Finally...becoming a parent is awesome, embrace it and you'll be rewarded.
- must_dash0
Thanks for the knowledge :) I'm looking forward to it.
- 7point340
just be careful as kids are very interested in fire. candles, the grill, my son is obsessed with them.
your child may end up burning something.
maybe even a shirt.
- Or your pants. Then your pants'll be on fire. Fiyah!harlequino
- dropdown0
Just remember. Newborn Infants can be assholes, but they get better
- BIGGESTDOGINTHEWORLD0
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kids are horrible, get out while you still can
- kona0
our boy will be 7 weeks old tomorrow and i can't tell you how many times we heard "oh you won't be able to do that when you've got a kid". so far, fuck those people. most of the things they told us we won't be able to or have the time to do we've still done. granted it's now based around his schedule, and it's a lot more work but its' been done. the people who tell you that are most likely the type who go through life putting forth the bare minimum effort to get by each day.
it's been rather amazing what we've been able to accomplish with 2-3 hours of sleep a night. and so far i've only used the "I can't do this or that because of our son..." with the people who I really don't want to hang out with or annoy me. *hint hint*
have fun. relax. sleep when your baby sleeps. lights on during the day and lights off at night to help them establish night vs day so they don't get their sleeping times mixed up and never... ever... get your face too close to their private parts when they have their diaper off during a change. ever.
- I've been wanting to piss on you for years and that little guy beats me to the punch in less than two months!?blaw
- i made that face mistake on the very first diaper change. day 1!brandelec
- lol@blawkona
- Glad to hear your household is doing well, kona.blaw
- thanks blaw!kona
- Good advice. I got it right in the eye once.JerseyRaindog