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- FrdmOfSpch0
be a man,
sleep with her best friend.
- Ginja0
I just spoke to her and he isn't coming over as far as I can tell.
- chossy0
let her invite the cunt over then kick the shit out of him then throw your lady out the house :D
- Jaline0
Sounds like one immature and selfish girl if you ask me.
Don't get me wrong, but you might want to prepare yourself with the thought of breaking up with this chick. She obviously doesn't give a damn about you.
Good luck man.
jox
(Apr 28 07, 23:44)I agree.
If you have expressed your feelings about this guy, then it looks like she doesn't respect you. Talk to her again and make sure she clearly realizes your feelings, and then if she continues her behaviour you should probably think about leaving her.
- Jaline0
Also, I agree with everything para posted.
If you two don't figure out how the relationships in each other's lives work, then maybe you should reconsider the entire thing.
- Jaline0
I just spoke to her and he isn't coming over as far as I can tell.
Ginja
(Apr 29 07, 05:16)Interesting...is it because you expressed yourself?
- Ginja0
I expressed myself last night about it and I guess shes just realised.
- joyride0
ughh... why is this the normal situation between a lot of couples.
First, you're in the worst place possible. If you demand she cannot see him, you're the bad guy, she'll just sneak around it anyway.
Second, when you talk to her about it, you're showing jealousy.
- OSFA0
this might sound rude but based on your info, that's the typical behavior of somebody that's cheating on you. BREAK UP WITH HER and move on.
- joyride0
damn, it chopped off the rest... =(
Anyway, jealousy is bad bad bad. it's a weakness for many people, and if you show it you show a lack of confidence.
Third, you need to change it up. Make her step up her game. You should go out with friends, flirt, get numbers (let them give them to you!), etc. Let her know that you're the catch, not her. And if she wants to keep you she needs to prove it, because it will be obvious you can replace her.
Is it a bit crazy to play these games, yeah! but it's part of the game. you don't want to be the bitter jealous bfriend that tells her who she can hang out with and is going through her phone etc. Those never turn out well if you think about it.
And just have fun, that is what a relationship is for, fun, if it's not, move on.
- FrdmOfSpch0
the first rule of fight club is, don't ask for relationship advice on an internet forum.
- cacoe0
Wow, I swear I'll turn into the guy you want to punch soon. My girlfriend split up with me, she still desperatly wants to be friends, I'd really like to get back with her but she doesn't want that. We still talk all the time even though I reluctantly want to move on and yes I act like a dick to her sometimes. I feel sorry for the other guy! :O
Good luck other guy!
- cacoe0
OK, not so helpful actually...
- Jaline0
I like to make it clear when a relationship is over, particularly because I don't want to lead anyone on (despite what friends may say about trying it out again or that "he's a really nice guy").
I think it's important to have that straight-forward communication, even if it doesn't happen that often in some relationships. It's good that you talked to her about it, and it seems that she understands somewhat.
Let us know what happens after the get-together, if you want.
- Jaline0
^ to explain further, I don't mind being friends with someone who is into you, because it can be a nice relationship as a platonic thing. However, I also really hate leading people on, so it's important to make that distinction. Anyway, sometimes it doesn't matter what you say, that other person will always think you're into them.
- jevad0
Thats all I wanted, someone to agree that I'm right in thinking he is a prick and should not be there. Why the fuck does she not see this....? Oh I forgot to mention she also used to date the guy.
Ginja
(Apr 28 07, 23:15)at the risk of sounding crass - drop her like a hot potato before she does teh same to you and you end up getting hurt. this has drama writted all over it
- OSFA0
^ to explain further, I don't mind being friends with someone who is into you, because it can be a nice relationship as a platonic thing. However, I also really hate leading people on, so it's important to make that distinction. Anyway, sometimes it doesn't matter what you say, that other person will always think you're into them.
Jaline
(Apr 29 07, 08:35)ya' heard jox!!!???
- jox0
ya' heard jox!!!???
OSFA
(Apr 29 07, 08:48)Wait, what'choo mean?
- jox0
Ooh, I hope you're not referring to that time I accidentally slept with my friend when I was supposed to comfort her... That has expired man, haha
- bcline0
Sounds like one immature and selfish girl if you ask me.
Don't get me wrong, but you might want to prepare yourself with the thought of breaking up with this chick. She obviously doesn't give a damn about you.
Good luck man.
jox
(Apr 28 07, 23:44)agree with above, my advice, dump her....she ain't worth it. shes got issues, and its only gonna get worse. You've only been with her for few months right? Don't let get to a few years, I can see the aftermath and doesn't look good. Duck out while you can.