taking a break from your gf
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- kingjulien0
Have you tried a soothing Norah Jones CD?
- Jaline0
Don't do special stuff, space means space, step back from the whole thing.
joyride2
(Jun 5 06, 09:22)
- sevenonethree0
haha i guess that whole surpise thing only works for me =P
- sevenonethree0
then again sven,
i met my current gf from previous break. and i'm glad it happen other i would had never met this wonder girl.
yea i'm starting to lean for everyones idea. dont even bother sticking around for a month. move on...
i mean like you said since you try that whole romantic thing and all. and no results what does that tell you?????
she doesnt give a crap. i'm sure the whole spacing thing is a cover up of her on personal agenda. but who cares. take care of yourself.
goodluck
- Sven_sk0
and remember, this is your life man, take control, confidence in what you do will allow you to do it.
joyride2
(Jun 5 06, 09:14)there is definitely some great advice here and has renewed my faith in NT. thank you friends.
the journal is a great idea! i'm going to start writing everything that i am thinking down this evening with a lot of quotes from this thread.
- Sven_sk0
i'm sure the whole spacing thing is a cover up of her on personal agenda. but who cares. take care of yourself.
goodluck
sevenonethree
(Jun 5 06, 09:39)i know that she loves me as a friend and keeps says that she feels like she is hurting me and that she doesn't want to hurt me. i'm sure she has some sort of hidden agenda but i don't know what it is. she used to be so fun and happy and recently she has just been sad and depressed and i thought it was just her job gettiing to her. i miss the girl that she was when we first started dating so carefree and fun. i wish that girl would come back bc thats the girl i am still in love with.
- Jaline0
how old are you two? just curious.
- Sven_sk0
how old are you two? just curious.
Jaline
(Jun 5 06, 09:47)i'm 32 and she is 29.
her birthday is coming up in september and i really wonder if this isn't all some sort of quarterlife crisis about turning thirty and getting older. about her trying to recapture the fun and youth of her early twenties.
30 hits some people hard.
shes been going out 3-4 times a week with her friends for the last month and she says that saturday nights out with her friends are fun but all the other nights kind of blow and aren't much fun. this week she only went out twice with her friends. and says she is quickly getting over going out all the time. when she is out she says talks about me all the time and texting me and calling me when she is out telling me how much she misses me and she loves me. i have talked to some of our mutual friends that she goes out with and they say not to worry that when she is out a lot of boys will try to talk to her and that she just keeps comparing them to me and talking about how great i am and how much she misses me.
these people have no motivation to lie to me. if they thought it was over, they would tell me.
- Jaline0
i'm 32 and she is 29.
her birthday is coming up in september and i really wonder if this isn't all some sort of quarterlife crisis about turning thirty and getting older. about her trying to recapture the fun and youth of her early twenties.
30 hits some people hard.
Sven_sk
(Jun 5 06, 09:56)Hmm...that's what I'm wondering too, especially if she just changed out of nowhere.
- Sven_sk0
30 hits some people hard.
Sven_sk
(Jun 5 06, 09:56)Hmm...that's what I'm wondering too, especially if she just changed out of nowhere.
Jaline
(Jun 5 06, 09:59)the more i think about it the more i'm really starting to wonder if this couldn't be a large part of the problem, her about to turn 30 and still needing to be thought of as attractive and fun.
- spendogg0
find a girl who looks just like her - fuck her and dump her.
- version30
have sex w/ other girls, she is having sex w/ other guys
- grunttt0
i say you find a new place to live and just before you move out bang another woman in the spare bedroom while "she" is still there.
"Whats the problem baby? We're on a break."
=)
- Sven_sk0
find a girl who looks just like her - fuck her and dump her.
spendogg
(Jun 5 06, 10:17)i have never seen another girl who is as beautiful honestly. she is so gorgeous. 5"7" 125lbs. 36c-26-34
she is absolutely beautiful and will be a hard act to follow.
- Sven_sk0
have sex w/ other girls, she is having sex w/ other guys
version4
(Jun 5 06, 10:18)she really isn't though she's not the type that just hoes around. like i said she is very picky would rather just play with her toys.
- techma0
I'm no expert here, but in my experience, if you let a girl decide what to do about your relationship, she usually ends up saying no anyway. YOU take control of the situation by not taking any shit. I mean, don't be an ass about it, be cool. But don't sit around and wait for her to let you know. That's the reason that women love us in the first place, is that we are confident and believe in ourselves enough to know that we are worth a hell of a lot more than a rag to be tossed around. If she comes to her senses and decides to get back together with you, cool. But if not, you have made the best decision.
- Sven_sk0
"Whats the problem baby? We're on a break."
=)
grunttt
(Jun 5 06, 10:21)LOL. classic.
- Sven_sk0
But don't sit around and wait for her to let you know. That's the reason that women love us in the first place, is that we are confident and believe in ourselves enough to know that we are worth a hell of a lot more than a rag to be tossed around. If she comes to her senses and decides to get back together with you, cool. But if not, you have made the best decision.
techma
(Jun 5 06, 10:23)very true. good point.
- joyride0
techma knows!
Stop thinking about what her issues are. or what's wrong with her, how can I fix it. YOU CAN'T! Your in this relationship too, but you can do what's going to help you. So when she goes out on her nites out... why are you not out with your friends, or just going out (not with her). I know it's hard to do all this stuff, when you just want her back. but yourself will be so much happier later. You stepped up, took charge and got yourself going in a direction you want to go in. everyone's been where your at, it sucks. but wouldn't you rather have some control of your life?
- Visia0
I agree with TaraTara,
tell her to shit or get off the pot. If you let her prance around having it both ways then she'll get used to the idea that she can dangle you on a string as long as she wants.
You two have already decided to get married so either do it or don't. This wishy-washy taking a break shit is not healthy for either of you.