Why would you ask?
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- uberdesigner0
blah blah blah
Has that ever happened to any of you?
shellie
(Jun 22 05, 10:58)
-----------------------------No offense, but you seem like one of those gold digging chicks who rich guys fuck and chuck. You'd better at least be really good in bed or something.
- exador10
yeah, ...
i totally feel bad now about asking..
didn't realize....
ya know?anyhow, whatever happened, we love shellie, and thats all that matters...
now then...some doofus named textfield is talking smack about her in the thread just above or below this one..lets get him!
:)
ex
- k770
i love how you dodged the 'did he call back or not?" q. and ain't you married? haha. classic female questino dodging, subject changing. i love it.
- tonx0
Shellie I just reread your first post....the fact that you guys didn'y hook up before AND your confusion now could be a clear indicator that although there is an attraction, there may be no chemistry.
chemistry is key and hard to find, attraction is like breathing, it's everywhere you just don't think about it...
I learned this from a hooker so it has got to be true...
- Gorbie0
or married, but looking?
- Meeklo0
what if the guy, never even thought about your situation? what if this is all in your mind? what if he doesn't really care abotu what you are doing these days? what if he doesn't see that working at an Ad agency is the ultimate goal at all?
I didn't really read more than one post here, but maybe he just run out to get some fruit or something :)
- ThreeSevenFive0
Here in Scottsdale we call 'em:
"35,000 Millionaires™"
The ones with the H2's and a job at Trader Joe's.
- todelete__20
yes shellie i get that all the time. mostly cause i was voted class clowin in high school and was kind of a douchbag.
i guess it's just sometimes uncomfortable running into someone you lost touch of cause you feel like the bad guy for not keeping in touch.
a few weeks ago i ran into an ex girlfriends sister i hadn't seen in like 12 years. holy hell did she grow up. twice during the first 2 minutes i asked 'so how have you been?' cause i was so nervous. and twice she answered 'great, so how have you been?' back. it was just odd.
i think she wanted to have sexors with me. at least that's what my pee pee was thinking.
- todelete__20
yeah, ...
i totally feel bad now about asking..
didn't realize....
ya know?ditto. i felt like a jerk all yesterday. i was the first to ask, it was an honest question that a few guys got out of hand with.
sorry shellie.
- anzelina0
iDp took me out in vegas, did a good job of being a gentleman
- susan-deaux0
If he was interested, and drive is the only thing that matters to you.
I would just imagine he saw/felt it in you (that is if you didn't tell him) and eventually asked about it.
- Tara0
you're contradicting yourself shellie. at first you say you don't care what he does but then go on to say that the guy should always pay for dinner even if they make less than you. now it doesn't sound like this guy could afford to take you out to dinner all the time.
- gruntt0
i haven't had a chance to read all of your post but... are you pregnant?
- todelete__20
dude you're from scottsdale?!?
i was there years ago and want to take my girl there for a getaway. loved that place!
i worked for pro tan for a while then came back here.
- eficks0
perhaps read the thread
- tonx0
I make it a point to 'NEVER' ask a person what they do for cash.
a.] I think everyone goes through a time in their life where, regardless of the amount they are making, thay are sickened by having to drag themselves to their HATED job.
b.] I know that I am not a reflection of what I do, and or have done for a living, so asking the question amounts to small talk, I don't really want or need anymore small talk.
c.] Some people have reasons to hide what they do [e.g. drug dealer]. It amazes me that they don't always have a 'story' to offer as to what they actually do when asked [not by me]
d.] People are always spin doctoring their 'status' anyway to give the best possible scenario. We are after all humans=liars
e.] You live in LA. I lived in LA for 5 years. It's the most ego centric place I have ever been. There are just as many goldiggers as there are posers. YEECH!
- shellie0
Meeklo: The fact that i often date guys that dont make as much money as i do should tell you right there that i really dont care about how much they make. If i did I'd run in the other direction.
i do care about drive tho. lazy assholes make me vomit. if they're working their ass off for 20 bucks an hour, then job well done.
like i said. we didnt really get to far intot he conversation with him. And he asked me. I could have cared less to have that conversation right then. I probably should have just said "i had a long day i'd rather not talk about work" But i felt like he was interested enough to ask me about what i did all day so i answered. i didnt really get that into detail about what i was doing or what i do. just kinda a quickie. i never talked about money... and often i avoid that with even friends because it becomes a very weird, innapropriate subject, don't you think?
to be honest i dont complain when guys make my pay. but it does sort of peev when they show up with a new stack of records and a fresh pair of shoes and then tell you their broke. it shows where their priorities are. they'd rather spend what money they do have on themselves instead of the girl theyre supposed to be dating.
I spend too much money on my friends and family and not enough on myself. But i grew up in a family where we all shared... and they never let me be a spoiled brat about anything.
I also notice guys that insist on going dutch all the time are often an only child or an only son.
And i also did say there are acceptions to the rule. Had ne not been so psychotic about it, I would have gone on a date with him anyway. Income does not put you out of the running.
- shellie0
NO™
- brandelec0
Did he call back?
It's happened before and I wouldn't be surprised if a dude reacted that way. a few years ago, whenever i bumped into old friends, the 'what are you doing now' comes up and i proudly said 'i'm still a cook man', but now, like you said, the tone changes. humility has a huge value ya know
- shellie0
jeez guys wtf.