dad questions
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congrats! :) i'm not a dad, but i had one once, the best thing growing up is how he made me feel safe and loved. i probably took him for granted but he was a kind loving figure, not afraid to be affectionate in public, something i grew out of as a teenager, but i wish i had today.
i remember i could here his old ford truck coming around the corner so i would drop everything and run outside and literally jump up and down with my hands in the air. my dad loved that. i have a dog that does that for me now, so i kinda get it. LOL
my dad was also an alcoholic for many years, so i clearly also remember the fights between my parents. the screaming and domestic violence that came from a catholic mexican family was brutal. every day i got hit by my mom with a leather belt, at least 3 good wacks or it didn't count. my mom was insane and neurotic thanks to her unhappy marriage i'm assuming now.
my point is if you and your partner aren't doing well, one or the other will fuck up your kids. the kids know when you're upset at each other, please try to handle your differences knowing they are watching. my mom would make me choose between them and talk shit about my father, the whole time i hated her more and more. don't mean to bring this thread down, just sharing because imo it's important to learn from others parenting mistakes as well.