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- locustsloth0
If you cut ties, realize that it's only for your mental health and nothing else. It won't teach him a lesson. It won't bring him closer. And you'll likely regret it once he's gone.
A better strategy is to just accept that that's how and who he is, but stay open to the possibility of him coming around at some time.
It happened with my brother- and sister-in-law. My wife's dad was out of the picture for her brother's teen and early 20 yrs. And he really was resentful of that. But now he's back and making an effort (i know he calls here at least once a week) and the brother has forgiven him and accepted him back into his life.
It's like if your hand falls asleep, like you've been laying on it for hours. you can't feel it, which is frustrating. You can barely sense it's presence. You could cut it off and get rid of the problem. Or have faith that the feeling will come back.And no, i'm not suggesting you have your dad give you a "Stranger" in order to bond