To those of you with girlfriends
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- TheBlueOne0
A while back, right before I got married, someone who had been married for quite a long time gave me some great advice, which I will pass along to the men here, on the supposition that if you take it you will buy me a beer when and if we ever cross paths:
Men and women simply count differently. What counts as "1" for a man counts differently for a woman. Example, let's say your wife/girlfriend buys you a spectacular birthday gift - I mean she goes out of her way and gets that really great thing that you wanted. Man, for a guy that sustains shit for the entire year. Because you say to yourself as a guy - man, that woman is amazing. She cares. She can nag you about cleaning the garage or the dishes or whatever but if you stop and think about that awesome gift, well, it lessens the negativity. A-ha, you see, women don't think like that. You as a man, go out and get your woman the best gift ever - that piece of jewelry or whatever that she had her eye on, for her birthday, christmas, anniversary...whatever occasion..however, within two days? It doesn't count anymore. Simply doesn't. It's always a matter of "what have you done for me lately" - even the most lowest maintenance woman needs more maintenance than a guy by a factor of ten.
I find the above to be completely and absolutely true. The upside is you'd be amazed at what truly miniscule effort it takes to satisfy that. The total random flower, card, gift, sincere (but well timed) compliment, or little errand will take the whole edge off - and the payoff, for us men is really worth it. And I don't even mean this in a manipulative way, it's just the way it works. There's a whole lot of fun to be had, and friction to be lessened in actually being a gentleman - even in and especially in a marriage/long-term relationship - than expecting the woman in your life to somehow change behavior.
- this is sooooo true!FallowDeer
- so that's why girls like roses... it doesn't matter that flowers only last a couple days.SoulFly
- Hmmm...interesting.Jaline