Parental issues again
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ah Jaline, It's not about your safety - deep down they're worried your independence might lead you to running off with a white boy or, *gasp, a negro! Bring shame on the family.
Listen up, I know what you're talking about, sub-continentals are all the same.
It might SEEM like they'll disown you, but trust, when push comes to shove, they wont.
I have sisters gone through the same thing, dating outside their race, religion, culture, and they too had this paranoia at being disowned. It was all unfounded, But my psycho mother is very good at the emotional blackmail thing (still love her tho!).
Honestly, they will NEVER disown you, no matter what you do. Tho the idea of shame and honour is made out to be the be all and end all in south-asia - really, its a load of bluster. Most of the time anyway.
Yes there will be drama - but you HAVE to deal with it. You're 20. Assert your independence. Do NOT be worried about beind disowned. That wont happen.
But maybe do worry about your parents crying and going psycho "we have no daughter!" crap - but in the end, thats all just talk and drama. You're mum'll still end up cooking you a big fat curry at the end of it all.
:P