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I'm single again. Seems to be a popular site.
Anyone on here use it? Do attractive women actually reach out? Or do you have to approach them?
I used it. I met a lot of girls from there, and only a few were crazy. It seems to be filled with big girls who have cute faces though.
Go for it.
And yea you have to pursue them.
Been on there. Met some really cool girls on there. Met a couple not so good ones, but no real horror stories. Out of the ones I met they were all pretty cute too. I did have to do the pursuing mostly, but that is normal.
Also, do a lot of girls want to get dinner like a traditional date, or are more open to something more fun?
I tried to do more fun stuff like walk around a bayfront or check out an art exhibit. Some were cool with just drinks, but I think the majority understand if you don't want to shell out a lot of money to have a first introduction. Plus, dinner gets a bit stuffy if you are really compatible and you are forcing conversation.
I like free stuff on the first date. A walk around the park was my go-to. Or maybe meet up for coffee.
Do something besides movie and dinner.
Yeah, the movie thing is totally counter productive. You can't even talk during a movie. I'm lucky enough to have a lot of cool stuff to walk around here in San Diego, so it was always easy to get that free first date out of the way and get to know the girl. Most of the time it started as a walk somewhere and then led to a couple drinks.
if you're single again then enjoy it or a while...
try it out, I used it for about a month before meeting a girl in reality. Some people have luck with it. But the only girls I ever met off it were fucking snoresville.
i hear okcupid is a good site... what do you guys send the girls initially to get responses?
you gotta read the profile and just toss out anything that the mentioned that interested or affects you. I have gone on dates because we like the same food or music and I have also gone on dates because i told a girl that we could never be friends based on being 99% enemy on OKC.
^ this. Just talk about common interests, music, food, whatever. Being a little self deprecating works too.
Just don't be all "yo ass look sexy in yo pics gurl."
Be wary. I've wasted a ton of time on there, and even more time going on dates that were a complete waste of time. Spare yourself a lot of that time by doing coffee dates, rather than dinners/lunches.
this is a way better website than plenty of fish. they actually put effort into making it fun
I've had a few relationships from plenty of fish. lots of wading through shit profiles and unattractive people though.
is it pronounced "okay cupid" or "occupied"?
Drinks or coffee. I like drinks, you can stay longer if things go well, go to another place, grab a quick appetizer.
No dinner on first dates, too much pressure (not to mention you'd spend a fortune, after wine, etc.)
Girls tell me how they use this site to get free food when they're low on cash. They have some clever name for using dating sites to find guys just to buy them dinner. Something like the cupid diet. Apparently they can save several thousand a year doing this.
- Is it common in the US for the guy to pay for everything?qTime
- yes qTime, it is, unless you want to be known as a cheapskate scumbagmonospaced
- i even pay for female friends that i'm not dating, but i'm a sucker like thatscarabin
- I do the same. It's a form of chivalry, I guess.monospaced
- that's why i don't do dinners for the first few dates. It is way too expensive. A few drinks is my limit on the first date.capn_ron
- dating for free food? hoorsebertzjaw
- 'cause it's a cheap way to make me feel like a manscarabin
Are you guys getting laid?
It sounds like all your experiences are just buying girls drinks. Cool or wacko, that's just hanging out.
- Taking a girl out for drinks is commonly known as a date, all in hopes of getting laid.monospaced
- buy a girl a 'lady drink' in a thai bar and you can finger her.ebertzjaw
- $3 for a stinky pinkyebertzjaw
- lol @ stinky.fredddddd
- if you want laid. there's other sites.akrok