Women these days.
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- exador10
uh, sadpanda.....you new?
qbn/newstoday has ALWAYS been like this.
folks have been baring their souls and posting all kinds of personal shit on here since the day the doors opened, well over a decade ago.it's kinda cool, in the weird sense that many of us have been chatting with each other for years and years here...so even if we don't all know each other that well, there is a pretty tight sense of community...especially amongst those that have been around for a long time....
it's that sweet spot of having a fair amount of anonymity, plus people kind of knowing you through what you write under your screen-name...TL;DR - 'when did this become a platform for feelings etc?'
--- about a decade ago....
- ohhhhhsnap0
Love yourself first blah blah blah, but no... seriously.
The second commenter had a great point.
7 years of marriage. ...go on a Vapassana retreat for 10 days after that. It'll change you (in a good way).
- sea_sea0
how did i miss this?! is sadpanda still winning?! :)
- CGN0
- oey0
I actually think this is a good thread.
Even if I can't agree with some perspectives, very interesting opinions came up.
lot's of crap, including mine is always healthy to clean the thoughts.
And I totally relate when Sadpanda says she sometimes doesn't understandf herself (how was it exactly?) if I establish a relation with what Scarabin writes and how sometimes I am.you can be rational about things, even emotions, but sometimes you can't really think in the moment and you go all heart.
both ways still being yourself.
also, I think searching is not good at all, personally I like when I bump into someone or if someone starts to be object of my attention because the way they are (are in Portuguese can be two different but related and important things).
if not like that I don't care about girls at all.
sometimes occasional things happen because of a possibility in a specific moment called "the moment of it's now".sometimes girls say things that are really a good moment to suggest something alternative just as an excuse to go to some other place and walk and talk...
whatever man, I don't have game.
it's just sometimes is one thing other times is something else.some women you're just gonna (hopefully) sleep with, other women are to date or to live with...or not.
i bet if you have habits, if you go to a specific bar, someone notices you and sometimes it take time.
it has to be between two full moons.
- oey0
Roses are grey, the sky is grey...let's fuck.
Doggystyle...- hahahasadpanda
- hair pullingmonospaced
- hair pulling with your elbow in their back to make them curve more.oey
- nice touch oeymonospaced
- very nice touch indeed. believe me.oey
- trying it tonightmonospaced
- go! go! go!oey
- Oh you're hardcoreali
- oey0
you also have the moment called "moment of it could be now" but it's always better to continue a nice conversation and wait for the confirmation sentence that precedes a moment of silence and leaves no doubt that maybe you could do something else and by that I don't mean necessarily sex.
then you have to make your move
- mikotondria30
Don't go to the shitty-sounding places you've been going.
Where damaged girls who are younger than they look and act are floating around trying to hook up with an over-built emotional-dwarf with a better can than them, so they can be bought things, misunderstood and then dump him as to be in control of a self-fullfilling victim cycle.
Don't look at girls when you talk to them - listen.- *...better CAR than them...mikotondria3
- Listening is maybe the most important thing. Without ears too.oey
- i liked it better as "can".johnny_wobble
- haha, yeh, true.mikotondria3
- zoozoo0
now I see what sad panda is talking about:
here is the revision:I am single again after 7 years of marriage.
It seems that women IN THE SINGLES SCENE do not like to be complimented or treated "special" in any way.
Is this a correct observation?
Was Slick Rick ahead of his time when he said
"treat em like a prostitute?".
Any insights will be helpful.
Thanks in advance.
- doesnotexist0
try talking to one
- sea_sea0
ok, i kinda read the thread..
and going back to your original question zoo, here is my opinion.yes there are girls that want to be treated well, those are the ones that are looking for the same things you are. all the rest either don't know wtf they want or maybe they do, it's just not in synch with you.
you're clearly "looking" and that's when all you'll find is a booty call. if you're out thinking you're gonna find a meaningful realtionship at a bar, well that shit don't happen. especially because alcohol is involved. most likely the girl that you'll end up having a true connection with, you will meet in a total random way, when you least expect it. or better yet, you already know her, and you haven't seen that yet. ;)
and i say this because it sounds like you want a relationship and not just a booty call. am i wrong?
figure out what you want in a partner and make sure you can find those qualities within yourself. as humans, i believe we are wired to naturally want a partner, no shame in that. and if you were with someone for 7 years well that says a lot about you already. so maybe take some time and work on yourself first and once you feel good, i bet everything you want will follow.
does that make sense?btw, this happened to me, i broke off an 8 year relationship with a guy that i thought i loved, but in reality we we're just friends. it was tough, but once i managed to do that, i spent some time working on me, getting my head back on straight and shit. then out of no where, when i felt good about me (cause don't forget we project that energy) i started talking to a friend, someone i already knew but never saw in that light. now we have the most amazing connection, we both are still kinda in shock, we didn't expect it at all! that my friend is the sweetest kind of love there is. and yes, he is super creative and romantic, treats me with respect and love, like i should be treated, and I fuckin' love it dammit. i expect nothing less at this point.
- scarabin0
seriously, all you have to do is look good and act like you don't give a fuck. show social proofs like having other girls around you. don't hang with groups of men. don't compliment them. keep them guessing about whether you like them or not. treat them like you would a kid sister, not a lover. be funny. be confident. tease them. make yourself seem busy/in high demand even if you aren't. don't act like you're thinking or analyzing the situation/relationship too much.
blah blah blah
stop thinking about girls as challenges you have rise to. you're shopping. they're there for you to choose from, not the other way around. be a hunter not a beggar
- works for me!monospaced
- great advicemonospaced
- I'm sure sea_sea would agreemonospaced
- My girl friends over here tell me the same. Now I believe in specific cases.oey
- being put on a pedestal just makes them feel awkward and makes you look lonely/lamescarabin
- exactly scarabin. what I wrote before doesn't mean necessarily that you have to treat them like godsoey
- they want the pedestal thing in the relationship part where they can brag to friends, not in the beginningmonospaced
- right mono.oey
- but in Brazilian girls case, they are the hunters and you the preyoey
- wait! why would I agree mono?! LOL I get it sarcasm. ;p it better be. lolsea_sea
- CGN0
woman just want to get ahead and when they don't have their own means they just climb the latter. Don't be a tool. Treat em like a prostitute. lol
- zoozoo0
I would want a booty call mixed with a caring i got your back and will help you type of thing.
not looking for steady work if you know what I mean and I mean having a long-term stressful relationship.