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- jevad
about ready to throw in the towel. I cannot fight a fight that cannot be won.
Let me ask you this though - if you thought something was worth fighting for...if you knew in your heart and I mean really KNEW in your heart and mind that things were worth saving...that there was still something there to build something on - even if the other party involved couldn't see that or didn't want to...would you fight?
Would you fight to save it, or let it go and hope it came back sometime?
Or just let it go...and move on with life.
- Jaline0
I would fight, but it all depends on the situation. After a while you can't do much if the other person doesn't pull their "weight".
- Jaline0
I heart you, by the way (in case "love" is too creepy, haha).
- M0NEYCIDE0
fight? be smart about what ever it is and adjust your actions accordingly sounds better to me. Sort of like fighting just what clever people do.
- jevad0
lol
I don't mean a literal fisticuffs fight money...I mean...doing what you can to save something that you think is worth saving.
It seems to me, to be the most frustrating predicament.
Jaline...you made me smile...a rare occurance these days
*internet hug*
- edd-e0
jevad-
if you want to expose a little more info than that privately than i a think that is your best way to help yourself solve this.
you posted a lot of threads asking for help but i think help needs more info to make it happen.
if you want that i can give you what ever i can but i cant do it rightly or justly without knowing anything more of the info.
...best of luck how ever you go with this.
- horton0
are we talking work or relationships?
work; i'd def let it go.
relationship; all depends on the other person. but if they're really not there with you, and you've waited it out for so long, there's no point in fighting it... ain't healthy for nobody.
- jevad0
You are right ed...it's hard to open up fully somewhere like this. As much as I value many of the people and opinions on here, there are some things that I need to keep private..so I speak in general terms.
thanks man
- jevad0
So horton...just let it go? Give up the ghost?
- harlequino0
I did this once before. I fought, and tried, and fought, and reasoned, and compromised, and fought until I knew there was nothing more I could do. And then I walked away. To surprise, everything turned out wonderfully. I'm not saying that is always the case. And in hindsight you may feel it was not the right thing. But I would do it again, and sometimes you have to go until you get to the point where you will always know in your heart you did everything possible. After that, it's not you anymore. There is someone else in the situation. They do have a responsibility to you as well, and don't sacrifice your own soul in forgetting that. Best of luck.
- jevad0
wow harlequino...wow.
"sometimes you have to go until you get to the point where you will always know in your heart you did everything possible. After that, it's not you anymore. There is someone else in the situation."
yes.
- M0NEYCIDE0
no don't throw fists but even the proverbial 'fighting' doesn't help...sort like they say "never call me" so you wait 2 weeks then email them...instead of calling them like a stubborn fool
- tkmeister0
as long as you believe it's worth fighting for, you should keep going. i think nothing is perfect. it takes a lot of work to keep things together.
i think the real question is... what do you believe in?
- onewhoslaps0
jevad follow your heart
- jevad0
I think she's just...gone...
- bunnicula0
If there is anything worth fighting for it's not going to be someone else. Because as emo as this sounds, you are born alone and you die alone and what you do in between is really up to you but I'd choose to fight fot things in life that better me as a person and usually other people can't make you a better person, you can....
don't burn yourself.
- version30
asthenic personality disorder
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ast…
- horton0
So horton...just let it go? Give up the ghost?
jevad
(Feb 5 07, 16:41)assuming that we're talking about a relationship, and assuming that you've been struggling with it a long time (like 5 years?)..
yeah i'm totally a romeo at heart but at a certain point i know you gotta let it go.
even when there's kids involved... an unhappy home is an unhealthy environment.
- nocomply0
jevad sorry you've been down so much lately. be strong. follow your heart. do what feels right. things hurt but the pain won't last forever.
- Seff0
i think you've put in the good fight jevad. sometimes people just can't see eye to eye, no matter how much compromise and reasoning goes into it.
Have you run these issues by your folks or family? good luck brother, you can;t keep beating yourself up.
- Rand0
I don't know what I would do in this situation, but whatever happens, I'm pulling for you, old e buddy
*holds up fist like my dad did when I was at my little league tryout