Jevad
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" You could also counterfile for 'separation'"
I did not know about this. I am still reeling that she has actually started on papers without even talking to me.
her judgement in my opinion is being clouded by the way she feels right now and I firmly believe that given time - 3. 6 whatever amount of months, that she will 'see the light'.
to that respect I have decided that I will not be signing any divorce papers that she may want me to.
We still need to talk - we havent spoken since sunday - but I need a lot more time before I can do that
jevad
(May 17 05, 14:19)*****************
Absolutely... when I went through mine, in my state, there is a 45 day 'cooling off' or waiting period, so couples don't do this while they are emotional or irrational. No one can force you to do this... your life may be miserable, but she can't force a divorce on you...
I think, as you say, take some time, get some clarity, think about the future and what you want, then arrange a time/place to meet and talk. She may realize what's really left to pick from out there, and want to reconsider.
When you do talk again, stay positive, discuss only the future and how it will be different from the past. She loved you once enough to marry you... she could be going through the same thing, we just don't know.
Take time, take care of yourself, think about what you want, then after some time, arrange to talk about it,
This ain't over yet by a long shot...Best of luck, man...