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I'm trying to be sober, as lockdown has made me more aware of just how destructive my drink and drug use has been. So far my record since April has been 3 weeks, but this weekend I had the worst slip up getting so wasted I couldn't meet the woman I'm seeing at the moment and I today I've got cold sweats. Usually it's just a beer or maybe a joint, but when it comes to class-A's that's where things get bad.
Just saying as I feel opening up about this to people (who don't really know me!!) makes a difference. I'm trying to own this shit and trying to understand what's so good about it? How do i feel drunk or high? Where does it take me?
- Take up Parkour and work your way up to jumping between buildings 15 floors upshapesalad
- https://www.youtube.…shapesalad
- The mental discipline to perform that... amazing, once you can do that, you can mentally do anything.shapesalad
- Are you a character from Viz, Shapesalad?Nairn
- I can see how being sober is important in parkourdrgs
- Maybe you have a point Shape, the mental discipline of pursuing something I love would be decent. I might just start running thoughIanbolton
- Look into Ibogaine treatment. It works.Brabo_Brabo
- My point is, those Storror guys spent 12 years training to be able to do those jumps across buildings. When you see the full movie, you see them still facingshapesalad
- the mental challenge of doing the jump at height, even though they physically know they can do it. They focus, run through it, practice, then calmly execute it.shapesalad
- So Ian here.... he's doing great. Just started the training in being sober, just like parkour, it's a mental game that you can train and excel at.shapesalad
- When you view it like that, it's less of a challenge. When you view it as a black and white, sober or drunk only problem, then it seems super hard to keep sobershapesalad
- blah blah blahi_was
- Fuck those storror guys, what a bunch of awful twatsi_was
- Guy comes on to talk about trying to get off booze, gets an argument about parkour.PhanLo
- QBN never dissapoints.palimpsest
- lol, this thread. The sweats could be helped with a vitamin B complex. Good luck, and maybe not start jumping off buildings.garbage
- Or become a great icon of parkour and we'll pool our collective talents to hoist you up in a documentary about QBN's greatest comeback kid.garbage
- Do your best @Ianbolton; I'm right there with you struggling with addiction, BUT hanging in their day to day...
...Pandemic has not been easy in any way.ideaist - @Ianbolton: congrats, admitting to yourself there is a problem, is the most important first step on the right track. I dont know about parkour...rzu-rzu
- "One day at a time" is a cliche for a reason. Go to meetings, see if that works for you. Your local NHS will probably have some talking therapy available.comicsans
- ...seems to me like a poor replacement, adrenaline instead of alcohol. I'd recommend reading books, those you always wanted to read but lacked patience or focusrzu-rzu
- AA is helpful for many. But don’t fall for their “this is the only way” message. There are different methods to battle addiction for different people.nb
- Maybe try quitting 100% for a year. It’s easier to get through a year because you can tell everyone “I’m doing a year of no drinking” & avoid some stigma.nb
- I know a few people who did a year & then never went back to drinking at all. Another friend cured his alcoholism this way & and can now drink occasionally.nb
- From my experience with this, you have to just wait it out. The sweats at night eventually fade away and your dreams stop tormenting you.monospaced
- I remember the idea of being sober all day was a bit scary. But we are made to be like that and I had to remind myselfmonospaced
- I reframed alcohol as poison, what it actually is. I did the same with food: fuel food and entertainment food. And it feels great.stewart
- At the end of the day, it all boils down to mind over matter.nb
- I gave up cigarettes after 10 yrs. What it took for me was simplifying it. I wouldn’t allow myself to have “just one” and everything followed from there.monNom
- Maybe that works with alcohol too. “Just one drink” is you subconscious manipulating you into a binge. If you don’t give in, you won’t wind up there.monNom
- ^I agree, cold turkey is best. I did the same thing with smoking. You first must truly accept the fact that you will never have it again.nb
- To truly accept in your mind, without heistancy, that you will go to your grave without ever feeling drunk or high again. If you can do that, you're on your waynb
- Alcohol is a coping strategy. Artifically feel good to avoid feeling bad. It's easier to not drink if you remember it's inhibiting u from feeling okay naturallysrhadden
- after drinking regularly you will feel extra shitty for a month or so if you stop. The hardest part is overcoming this month, after that you should feel finesrhadden
- And then the natural good feeling will be something you don't easily throw away again by drinking againsrhadden
- And keep in mind that there's no such thing as "just one drink"srhadden
- Good luck, Ian. There's a few of us in the same boat... . When my time comes, I'll just quit day by day until I feel I'm done. 'Quit forever' is not for me :\Nairn
- I echo @rzu-rzu's comments aboveKrassy
- Do what works for you. Weed helped me quit booze, which goes against the addict narrative.DRIFTMONKEY
- Talking about it is a small but a good start. Try to talk to real people you think will understand and support you.Longcopylover
- im the opposite... i can't drink by my self. so i almost didnt drink at all during lockdown.pango
- Cheers folks. I know why I do it. It’s because I like being high or getting drunk. It’s great! But I’ve taken it to the extreme now, to point of it consuming meIanbolton
- Doing it alone is the part I hateIanbolton
- Wish you well Ian. Meditation is good. Movement is good. Running sounds like a great idea. Connecting with family and friends more is good.mort_
- yep monNom - been nicotine free since Nov of 2019 had pneumonia and couldn't sleep due to sound of own wheezing - never again will I have 1 except in dreams...whatthefunk
- been years since I had a drink either, just stopped one day. Have fully embraced thc with no apologies, only puff at night...whatthefunk
- I don't think drugs are inherently bad it's more a matter of not letting them ruin your life. A bit of weed, some nootropic drugs are more my level these days.yuekit
- And also exercise as people said -- really intense exercise like walking 15 km gives me a buzz similar to getting high. I know I have an addictive personalityyuekit
- so it's a matter of channeling it into things that are harmless or even beneficial. Quit both smoking and drinking almost completely and don't miss it.yuekit
- yes, exercise, if you can - cycle. And obviously you may experience doubt, like "is it really worth it? I will drink some day eventually" yes it's worth it...rzu-rzu
- ..and if you are feeling down and really crave a glass of something unhealthy, have a coca cola or some energy drinkrzu-rzu
- I like your confessions on instagram Ian. But pls don't start drinking just to get sympathy there.You slipped and saw the big picture immediately. That's a win.Beeswax
- Yes wtf, start walking or running what you actually need is get off people around you, specially the ones who drink, you can also try a sport, badminton is wondi_was
- erful.i_was
- I play football every Tuesday, cycle and just signed up to do a dragonboat race with work.Ianbolton
- Confessions on Instagram? @Beeswax Only social media i use is Twitter.Ianbolton
- Good luck Ian. One day at a time for me worked. I stopped for 6 months which helped me kick smoking. Now if I have a drink I am its master.de4k
- Perhaps try a trip to Peru to try some ayahuasca. Apparently it helps with this kind of thing. I’m sure there will be shamans in London too. Good luck.Chimp
- For me, there is no cutting down. Your body knows what you like and usage will creep up again. Quit and stay quit.comicsans
- Oh hah. I thought you were this person fir some reason. https://www.instagra…Beeswax