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just made out with a friend of mine who happens to be married...
we were always good friends and actually we get pretty good together with no signs whatsoever this would happen.
I find her attractive but never tried anything cause that's two different things, finding someone attractive and interesting and wanting to have something with someone.
I fantasized once or twice about her but that was it.
She's married and I had a girlfriend and we were friends and that's all pretty normal.she told me one day she would like to have other experiences and try other kinds of relationships and that she kissed someone and tried to talk with the husband about it but he was not open to it.
she came to me cause I've been in open and poli relationships and we talked a lot about it but I decided to distance myself cause I felt tempted somehow at one point and I found it a shame to waste a friendship.
tonight after six months not seeing each other we talked like for four hours only about relationships, feelings, I things work when in certain relationships, etc...like pulling the hair and spanking when having sex in doggy position.
she became touchy and outside in the cold when we said goodbye we just kissed and rubbed our bodies against each other like...you know...
I don't feel guilty cause I actually wanted it and she felt good because she did what she felt and wanted instead of repressing it.
well...I totally can imagine myself having real wild hard sex with her but I'm not into more than sex.
but still I would prefer just to be friends.
though I really would like to have sex with her.a couple of weeks before she asked if I wanted to go with her to some exhibition in another city but actually it's not worth going just one day...you know, it would actually be better to stay for two days.
we talked about that and she said that nothing had to happen between us but after tonight...tic toc tic toc...
I'm not asking for advice I just need to put this out and I don't think I can talk about it to anyone I know right now.
- "..how things work when in certain relationships"oey
- she is married, walk away.sted
- i mean from the toughs you got :)sted
- There's a man, who is a human with emotions and pride, against everything that you're planning to do. This should be a bit of your concern but mostly hers.Beeswax
- ah1 i forgot to mention that he changed his mind and he knows he can't change the way she feels and he's actually sort of okay with it.oey
- I'm not asking for any particular kind of advice but I hear you and thanks!oey
- oey, no doubt you're a stud but she's still troubled and married. Stay away or get in a triangulated relationship with her and her husband and it wont end well.robotron3k
- triangulation explained http://jonsi-jonsi.b…robotron3k
- I'm not a stud rob...but I know what you mean.oey
- and I know that fueling this is playing with fire...oey
- Bowchikabowwow~~pango
- I know you're not asking for advice bu ima give it to you anyway. Get everyone to make up their mind!! Get shit clear!! Is all I'm saying.pango
- thanks pango! I'm actually giving it a proper thought and try to understand what my needs really are and what i first of all don't want.oey
- you're in a tough spot. what will you regret more, trying it and fucking up your friendship or not trying and wondering about it the rest of your life?_niko
- probably fucking up a friendship and getting headaches that's for sure.oey
- you probably should have started the romance slower by sending dick pics first...robotron3k
- robo explained well... But you're not looking for advice...OBBTKN
- i had the same experience and it turned into a 14-year relationship. one of the most frustrating but fulfilling periods of my lifescarabin
- i'd have a talk with her and make damn sure what each other's intentions are and where lines are drawn, if any. you will reach those lines eventuallyscarabin
- also, if she wants a relationship and you don't but you have sex with her, it's only going to fuck her up and as a friend you don't want thatscarabin
- exactly scar.oey
- You must feel alive thocannonball1978
- what scarabin says! Your both adults and can understand the consequences so do what you all feel is "true"mugwart
- Just have a wank about it and forget it. Long run you ruin her marriage and your friendship just for a bit of biological feel good.shapesalad
- It's curious why humans put so much energy into mating with no intention of having offspring. Clearly it's a combination of feel good and filling emotional needshapesalad
- RESPEKT DA WAHMEN! Also, don't be a dick.robthelad
- Her intentions are pretty clear, she's curious about other experiences. It seems she's not ok with being only with this person for the rest of her life.Maaku
- ^ yeah... the fucked part of this history is this girl's husband, prob. knows a shit about her feelings and their relationship is already deadOBBTKN
- actually she says she's happy with him but not happy with herself not living more er desires.oey
- I can assure you guys that I'm a very caring, respecting person and I'm not into having sex with the bigger amount of women possible. no.oey
- though I wrote I was not asking for advice I appreciate everybody's input and I'm actually trying to read and analyze the stuff you write and how it does applyoey
- I'm not a dick, I'm not a stud, I don't want to fuck everything.oey
- shapesalad, your last phrase probably resumes it. at least from a certain perspective.oey
- I don't see why people should have sex only to procreate though...oey
- Maaku you are right, she told me she can't imagine having sex for the rest of her life with the same person.oey
- I don't want to lose a friendship and I don't want to have problems cause of someone else problems and become her husband's and relationship problem as welloey
- no I don't want any relationship. and I also think like that scar. if we want different things then surely it's a no go. it's actually already sort of no go.oey
- Well you could just set a limit to it. 1 night of passion to get the intellectual curiosity and tension out of your systems. Then back to friends.shapesalad
- Now that you're both on the same page, expect that booty call within the next 2 weeks.Maaku