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30 something years old and i stuff my days with work and my home life consists of playing with fish tanks and or random things like painting my apartment walls alone. Not being the bar/club type doesn't help fight being alone all the time but regardless if I was that type I wouldn't spend my weeknights dropping $20 on a single drink to sit at a bar counter by myself when I can buy a $20 bottle and get plastered at home. Plus the women are usually the last type of girl i'm looking for. I've dated people in other states, been catfish'd a couple times, been relationships that could have ended in being married but usually i'm cheated on. I swear in the past 10 years I've dated 2 people and both weren't worth my time.
People tell me i need to get on tinder, POF, OKC etc. To me that shit is a waste of time (i gave it a go and its a waste of time). In my early 20s i met women from working at a Trader Joes and it was pretty solid. I left shit jobs like that to get into web development something worthy of a career but now its like i dont have time for shit anymore and i settle for chatting with people i haven't seen in ten years or people who are not even in the same state.
bitter.
- #aboveitimbecile
- You'll be fine - there's no need to get on with inhuman fuckwagon apps, just be who you feel comfortable being (somewhat socially) and you'll find Her.detritus
- ..or she'll find you!detritus
- What kind of fish do you have?garbage
- try what I call the 180 degree rule.mugwart
- what ever you think you should be doing that has done you wrong before ... do the exact opposite.
Always sets me right!mugwart - ^ https://www.youtube.…Krassy
- BTW, don't worry, pockets. Real relationships are never planned or forced; let it all be and you'll meet your sig other.Krassy
- Its important to make time for random parties. Pretty much my only source for meeting new people now day.pango
- I've lost too many friends to marriage and children... :(pango
- Where do you live, we need to hang out.Maaku
- Great read. Grocery store is a great place to meet people!Hayoth
- bars are fun but not the place to get dates... most people will remain in the clique they arrived withscarabin
- Almost 40 and this is still me. You are a complete person now. Acknowledge and act accordingly. Slmeone will eventually love you for itcannonball1978
- Usually men did all the chasing and did the gentlemanly thing and asked a woman out. Now that’s changed and we can’t be arsed doing all the chasing!Ianbolton
- I don't understand people's issue with the dating apps. You mentally swipe left or right with people in a bar. If you both like the look of eachother..set
- .. and one of you has the bollocks to make a move, you start talking to each other. Same concept with the app. It's no more shallow or empty than meeting..set
- ...in real life. I had a lot of fun on tinder years back. Met some really lovely and very interesting people.set
- If it works for you, cool. Not everyone's programmed the same though, and some find it quite ghastly, as I do.detritus
- Yea I know. Why?set
- Because I'm not programmed that way? It's a largely unanswerable query, especially in tiny little notes here - "why do you not?"detritus
- OP says he's tried them, they don't work for him and implied a hesitation to use them further - I merely provided a counter datum to let him know it's ok to notdetritus
- Yea but whyset
- I think I already explained why I do not, to be fair...set
- It's only an unanswerable query if you simply have an opinion without really knowing why. Which is odd.set
- It's 'ghastly' to older folk in the same way that shopping online is, or browsing the internet on a train is. Or sending an email rather than a postcard is.set
- That's because they're not programmed that way. But that's not a justifiable answer, it's just called being stuck in your ways without any beneficial reason...set
- If that's your reason, then fine, I get it, but don't try and pretend it's a justifiable viewpoint when you simply can't justify it.set
- I'm antagonistic even when I try not to be, but there's no other way of responding to that, really.set
- You assume too much, as often. I've always been this way — most (not all) people I've been with have been people I've known for at least a wee while.detritus
- I find that format of intamcy much more.. intimate, and therefore worthwhile. As I say, do wtf you like - not my business. Just that shit's not for all peopledetritus
- So your pushing such modes is as bad, if not worse than simply encouraging people to be comfortable with themselves and live as they wish.detritus
- You're the only pushing the idea that it's ghastly. I'm simply asking why you think that...set
- In my day it was getting pissed and going out on 'the pull' - these days there's an app for that. I'm not against the app per se, rather the base fuckery.detritus
- Knowing someone first and forming a further intimacy based on an already existing relationship is amazing, no one is denying that...set
- See? it's a pain iin the ass to try and distill a complex answer into these little notes, hence why I'd rather not have bothered. I needn't, either.detritus
- ... but you still met that person in the first place, so you can still meet a person on an app like tinder and form the same type of relationship.set
- You're the one making assumptions on what people might do with their encounters created using an app, and you're the one blanket labelling it as ghastlyset
- I think it's perfectly reasonable to ask for an explanation of that slightly odd behaviour that is very reminiscent of OAP's irrational aversion to technologyset
- An app is SIMPLY another opportunity to meet someone. What you do with that opportunity once you have it is up to you. Calling it ghastly is bonkers.set
- I'm not trying to be a cunt, it just seems like an incredibly archaic and small minded stance to take. *shrugs*set
- For someone who claims to be so open minded, you seem to find it hard to accept that people are allowed their own countering viewpoints.detritus
- I think some stuff is ghastly — so fuck? I'm not demanding anyone else think that, I'm just giving my opinion on the matter. Not everyone thinks as you do.detritus
- And, again - i couldn't fuck about the app per se - meeting someone and fucking them in one fell stroke's as old as time. I just don't see any value in it.detritus
- ..personally.detritus
- hah, I didn't see your last "small minded" note - sorry, I tend to view you as small-minded - you have a hard time accepting opinions outwith your own.detritus
- And you have a high capacity for polarising inputs wihilst at the same time muddying output, which is ..well.. tedious to engage with.detritus
- Damn you're defensive.set
- Some people use it to meet and fuck. Others use it to meet and form very meaningful relationships.set
- I only have a hard time accepting opinions that differ to mine when the person is unable to properly explain them. Saying 'I'm wired that way' is like...set
- ...answering with 'because'.set
- Well, you're mostly offensive.detritus
- You're welcome to think whatever you like is ghastly, and you're welcome to have no reason whatsoever for that, but you're acting as if it's an opinion based...set
- ...on sound reason and rationale. Yet you're unable to provide any of that rationale whatsoever.set
- I haven't been offensive at all. I guess you take offence to someone who doesn't accept 'because' as a reason for such a strong opinion.set
- I wasn't going to respond again, but - I did answer, but you're too self-involved with whatever pointless ego-inflating crusade you're on today to have noticed.detritus
- Uh, listen to yourself. You replied, and I COMMENTED ON IT, and said that you can have those exact types of relationships having met through an app.set
- You're the only one totally missing things because you're too blindsided by your idea that I'm a just an antagonistic cunt.set
- You're making assumptions about the way the app can be used, mainly that it is only used for one thing, which is ridiculous. It's just another way to make...set
- ....initial contact. What people do with that is infinite and wonderful. Grandad's shitting on the internet again.set
- Offensive: "pertaining to offense or attack, used above in direct response to your use of defensive. Do keep up.detritus
- "I'm antagonistic even when I try not to be" - set, above, not 20 minutes ago.detritus
- See how you expect inputs one way then output in exactly the same fashion, yet don't see the total disconnect?detritus
- Perhaps I am making certain assumptions about the way these apps are used - but the apps are indeed mostly used for quick leg-overs. Personally, mi no gusto.detritus
- Now you're focusing on something else because it's been made very obvious that your opinion on these apps is small minded and archaic.set
- Some people use it as a quick leg over. A guy in this office went on one tinder date, bought a house with her and had a baby last month.set
- I know of plenty of people who have deep meaningful relationships that met on a dating app. It's JUST another way of making initial contact.set
- To call that ghastly because some people use it for a quick shag is fucking archaic, small minded and reminiscent of OAP's opinions of the internet.set
- Just admit it.set
- I don't know what the focus is here other than you and your constant need to espouse your youness. It's quite dull, but here we are.detritus
- Actually I have the constant need to expose and correct small minded bullshit opinions.set
- Which yours obviously was here, and the fact you're now trying to focus on anything but that, simply shows you're very much aware of it too.set
- I'm sorry that my opinion on how I live my life and how I view life is wrong, set.
You win?detritus - or by admitting false defeat am I denying you further opportunity to self-aggrandise and belittle strangers on the internet?
You win?detritus - I'm sure all this is helping pockets, regardless.detritus
- lol. I'm sorry you feel belittled 'cos your opinion on something that changes and benefits so many people's lives as being ghastly was exposed..set
- ... as being small minded, bullshit grandad mentality.set
- Not only that but you were warning people away from it. Now that's ghastly.set
- I don't feel belittled by you — but constantly calling people 'small minded' is inherently belittling.detritus
- Now, read back through this mess and tell me who's defensive? Tell me who is unable to accept opinions other than their own?
You win? What, exactly?detritus - Calling dating apps ghastly because you incorrectly think they're mainly used for one night stands is incredibly small minded. Facts is facts.set
- I think tindr is ghastly.
Am I wrong?detritus - ..and warning people away from something that could change their lives for the better, simply because you have an archaic viewpoint on it, is ghastly...set
- You're clinging on for dear life when you really should have admitted you were being small minded towards it at least 25 notes ago.set
- ok.detritus
- ANYWAY... good luck to pocketscannonball1978
- lol, yes.set
- This guy sums it how to be single and happy nicely https://youtu.be/PlT…robotron3k
- most side notes ever. atleast people feel the same way...somewhat. just makes me bitter at times to think about.pockets
- bitter.pockets
- Maaku: I'm in the Pasadena,CA areapockets
- Online dating sucks, worse for good women. Just be polite, filter well. I met some lovely women online, inc future wife...shapesalad
- mix online with all other interactions and chances. don't depend on it. otherwise it'll get you down.shapesalad
- this guy, can't tell if dodgy or not, but some of his videos really help me and my realtionships, this one esp: https://www.youtube.…shapesalad
- https://media.giphy.…fadein11
- Truth.set