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My German girlfriend (actually half Italian, half Croatian - but Deutsche born and bread) who happens to be the most stunning, and pure, kind, and happy, ridiculously beautiful being I've probably ever had the pleasure of meeting is having to move back to Germany for the most amazing job opportunity. It sucks, for sure, but I'm finding myself in the very odd situation of questioning my own humanity - as I feel zero emotion towards it. At all.
I'm theoretically sad, theoretically in my head it's fucking dire concept, but I don't feel it. I've had just the best few years with her, we never argue or really have any negativity ever, it's been great. She's a perfect girlfriend free from emotional trauma that mess manifests in drama on the relationship. The ideal girl. Genuinely.
I don't think I know what love really is in the sense that people use it in relationships. I tend to think what most people call love in that instance is just addiction. I have true love for this girl, but I have no sadness or emotion towards her leaving in any way. I feel like that should be weird but it didn't feel it. She wants to continue a long distance relationship but I don't see that working for any length of time, and frankly I wouldn't want to hold her back in her life over there. I know we'll stay friends at the very least, forever.
I do fear that once she's gone it'll kick in severely, and I know I'll miss her like mad, but right now I'm quite looking forward to a complete change in my life. I have lots of creative business ideas that I feel pretty passionately about and am getting to the stage with the guitar and writing that I'm looking forward to making the music that's been hiding inside me for so many years. Fuck me that's sounds lame. Life seems so positive and full of potential right now.
I guess I'm hoping that I'm indeed not a psychopath free of emotion but rather a positive realist. I guess I also slightly fear that once she's gone the dark emotional storm will roll in, but right now fuckin' happy days my lovely qbn sunbeams.
- I should really stop writing on the phone. I flow between eloquent and a Polishman in England.set
- tl;dr - don't readset
- You're being rational now, but don't confuse that with lack of feelings... maybe it's just a coping mechanism, hope you keep positive with all thisdmay
- What you describe is that your relationship is strong enough to withstand a spatial separation for some time. Be proud of what you both have achieved.mekk
- Love is a verb. A few years with this woman, where did you see your relationship heading? U don’t need to post here— i think you may find the answernotype
- Love is a verb. A few years with this woman, where did you see your relationship heading? U don’t need to post here— i think you may find the answernotype
- Love is a verb. A few years with this woman, where did you see your relationship heading? U don’t need to post here— i think you may find the answernotype
- watch this before you make that mistake
https://www.youtube.…Beeswax - http://images.huffin…pango
- follow her foolplash
- There's a chance the emotions haven't kicked in fully, and that once she's gone you'll be blubbering like a baby. I believe you're in love, for real.monospaced
- Happy days, set. Look forward to some killer trips to Germany.monospaced
- What's her number?robthelad
- -how old are you?
how long have you been dating?
-live together?
she's going, gonna play the geetar more?
wtf?
up stakes. go with her. jesus christ.exador1 - I'm thinking there's some good fodder for your songwriting... All you need is a pickup truck and dog to be complete.robotron3k
- throwing away perfectly good relationships/women are the only true regrets I have in life. guess you'll learn that lesson on your own.fourth
- ^that and life is too easy, lonely, and boring to go at it by yourself. share it with someone.fourth
- Still though... Did she ask you to move with her??robotron3k
- Of course. No way I'm moving to Germany. Life is transient. People cling on to things for dear life, it's not healthy.set
- thats not love. thats easy what you have - which is great. love is not an addiction. love is dedication/persevera... wait till shit hits the fan... thats love.umbee54
- Love is not addiction, no, but what must people call being in love is actually addiction and possession.set
- could addiction and possession also be lust and being totally smitten? in my experience, those can often lead to love, once the polish wears offmonospaced
- I agree with mono (for once ;-)).
If you have a partner like her don't let go so easily. Try and make it work, be it long distance.mugwart - Your not a psychopath if you question your actions honestly like you have (BTW).mugwart
- there are cheap flights so as long as you plan a head you can make it work and fairly regularly.mugwart
- decent people are worth fighting/waiting for.
Then again I'm a tad romantic goth with Welsh heritage!mugwart - Hehe, good points mugwartset
- "could addiction and possession also be lust and being totally smitten?" mono, yes I think so, for sure..set
- Hey set, I live in Germany. Give her my contact. You can visit us later pal!oey
- Now seriously, I totally feel you and I hope you manage. I would be glad to have a cunt of a kind as a visit here ;)oey
- You are in some sort of denial apathy maybe. It will probably kick hard as soon as it really gets on you.oey
- I can relate. I feel guilty when I don't feel/react emotionally, exactly as expected in the moment. Sometimes it hits me hours or days/weeks later. Hard.monospaced
- If and when the dark emotional storm does roll in, then write some music, make art, drink a little. ;)sea_sea
- And I'm talking about big things, like this, or a death in the family, a major breakup, or insanely huge fight. I feel like that detachment can be a good thing.monospaced
- You are likely able to act abnormally calm during emergency situations, when most people start to panic. Step away from emotion, think, act.monospaced
- Yea, I've never really dealt with emotions in the same way as most people. I certainly have them though. I know I'm no psychopath...set
- ... Though I definitely have sociopathic tendencies.set
- Get some duct tape and barbedwire. Then you pray Stockholm syndrome kicks in sooner than later.pango
- I can be like this. In a highly emotional explosions I'm normally very calm and can react and think clearly. When things are trivial I can be panicking...mugwart
- people react differently. doesn't mean we are sociopaths.mugwart
- set you REALLY seem to care about your points, you don't seem to be sociopathic at all. I'm from the upper class narcissistic cunts. You don't seem to be this.mugwart
- Hang in there set.garbage
- Set. you might just be the hero we need. Study shows people who are detached enough are more likely to jump into fire to save another life.pango
- On the contrary. People who has strong empathy r less likely 2 risk their own life. Something 2 do with feelin other people's pain which makes them having 2ndpango
- ...Thought.
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We need more characters...pango - Is this a trend? People not having expected emotions? I feel like it's a trend.pango
- I live in Germany, too. So where is she moving?
P.S. I just saw you with Jesus in the thread above your post :-)SimonFFM - Pack your shit and move with her to Germany already!dyspl
- Terrible adviceset
- I live in Brighton which is the best place in the world for me right now. So much going on. Happy, creative, open minded people. I have lots of friends here...set
- .. Which has taken years to get to. I have plenty of personal and business ventures that I'm highly inspired to get on with. I'm 100% happy hereset
- Moving away from all of that because of a girl is insanity. We'll stay close friends at the very, very least. All is well!set
- Are your business ventures depending on you being in Brighton? The friends thing... meh. It's not just the girl, it's also moving to a new country,dyspl
- Potential new people to meet and opportunities that wouldn't have happened otherwise. But that's up to you :)dyspl
- Your girl seems to be worth trying the whole distance relationship thing tho.
Reading you, you might even find some pleasure in itdyspl - Your girl seems to be worth trying the whole distance relationship thing tho.
Reading you, you might even find some pleasure in itdyspl - As your life goes on, you still enjoy being with the one you love while having a lot of freedom regarding your time and own personal endeavors.dyspl
- Thank you for the advice but I've spent the last few years settling in to Brighton. It's one of the most amazing places in the world as far as I'm concerned.set
- Building a life and a solid group of friends somewhere takes time, and I've only just managed to do that. I'm so happy in Brighton.set
- Moving just because of a girl would be CRAZY right now. Not an option. Plus there are beautiful and interesting women EVERYWHERE in Brighton :)set
- Have to agree with you on Brighton. Fantastic place. I've always wanted to live there (don't worry it's not going to happen now haha, I've bought a house here).fadein11
- haha, I'd totally be up for a pint. But yes, moving to there was one of the best decisions I ever made.set
- -toset
- She left you for a job. TIme to move on.robthelad
- ^ oh you can read?set
- Because yes, that's exactly what I said.
Well done.set - Fucking numpty, lol.set