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What do you know about depression?
My brother is depressed.
He went to medical school and did really well and got his dream job, and got a nice apartment. Got a six figure salary at a hospital.
Then decided his boss was an asshole and wanted a different apartment, so he transferred to a different hospital and moved to the next town over. I understand some work situations are toxic but I don't know everything.
He's still making six figures, but he's just not happy.
I think he's doing well at work in a professional sense and good at his job and I think he has some friends, but he's cold and sad when I see him.
Covid was an isolating and traumatic time for him for sure, but he was like this before and when he was in school.
He's smart too.
is your brother working night shifts? weird sleep patterns can lead to depression
suggest to start some kind of workout routine.
every single work morning I tell myself, "if I want to feel good today I have to run now."
if I skip, I get what i deserve, so I don't skip, its easy after the first couple weeks.
- aim small at first, like 10 minutes a day for the first week, by the 2nd/3rd week he'll be voluntarily adding more time/distanceGuyFawkes
- if he aims too big at first, it makes it too easy for the "inner bitch" to be giving him the excuses we all get from out inner bitches.GuyFawkes
- sounds like you don't have depressionKrassy
Should also note he goes to the gym regularly, eats healthy vegan diet and only works 4 days a week during business hours.
- maybe he just lacks energy because of the diet? not trying to get him to eat meat but everyone reacts differently to different dietsGuyFawkes
- +1 drgsGuyFawkes
- Vegan diet is a red flag - is he getting enough B12 and D vitamin omegas?shapesalad
it could be a good idea for him to see a psychologist
He's suffering (like all of us) from the human condition.
Isolation this past bit has compounded it.
Hopefully he can deal or seek help.
I wish him well.
I just don't think you can always assume that success at work, financial success, health, good diet means you can't or shouldn't be depressed. I'd be willing to bet that the paradox of those successes in contrast to the feelings of depression must weigh on him even more.
Reminds me a lot of the postpartum depression my wife went through after the birth of our children. The fact that she has this child that she wanted so much, yet it was difficult and didn't always make her happy really contributed to the depression.
But I agree with everyone who mentioned seeking help. I have in my life and while I'm by no means cured of what ails me, it certainly is positive to speak with someone who truly listens to you.
- I don't mean this to be insensitive. I find laughter to be good medicine. And the point about Bourdain is true: depression is not reserved for the hard-done-bynb
- I never really got into the whole Chapelle drama, and thought I’d be more his side, but this is pretty lazy and insensitive. Maybe that’s the point though?hardhat
- It’s out of context without the rest of the Prince bit and the foot locker story is just a story.nb
- But yeah Chapelle isn’t for everyonenb
- I don't think this is funny but he's making a very valid point about depression and how it's not attached to what most people see as success.CyBrainX
- In a way it's sadder when someone you admire is suffering. You wonder what would it take if not having the best <whatever> going for you - to be happy.CyBrainX
Have him do his own research?
Happiness is a bi-product of usefulness.
- That depends on where you place your self worth.pango
- That's not true. My brother takes pride in his job and is doing good work but just isn't happy so it could be chemical??omahadesigns
- Happiness is not a destination!mort_
- You immediately equate usefulness to a job?DRIFTMONKEY
- I understood, like the way of the samurai. I dig it.GuyFawkes
There is a difference between being depressed and having a clinical depression (not all people understand this). First and foremost, he should get diagnosed.
If diagnosed, a combination of talk therapy and possibly, but not necessarily, medication.
Meaningful activities help. Seeing loved ones helps. Working out and eating healthy food helps.
It could be a long process. Be patient with him (it can be hard for non-depressed people to understand the depressed mindset). Make him feel that you are there for him.
As others have written there could be plenty of reasons why, could be his personal life, could be not finding work fulfilling, could be he feels stuck in the rut.
Thats really only something he might know. So having a talk with him about it and hear if there is anything you can do would be a start. Perhaps he hasn't even thought about it.
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