Dad Advice Thread
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- Krassy2
Keeping our kids safe online
- bwahahahaha .. I was like I recognise that name.. I know the person who wrote thisautoflavour
- ideaist1
It appears my eldest son has ADHD.
I was pretty active when young, BUT never diagnosed.
A bit let down, a bit scared, etc.
Anyone have experience with anything like this?
I know it's NOT uncommon AND I know if it can help him focus, learn, etc. it should be on the table, BBBUUUTTT it's still a bit much too handle on top of the rest of life.
- I'm also dealing with some anxiety / depression issue(s) as well.
This feels like negative icing on the negative cake.ideaist - Is not serious - you either focus for hours on something, or not at all, on anything you like. But you can!t plan anything, total mess. And he might be geniusgrafician
- my oldest has A.S.S. its different but in some things similar. Situations can veer out of control FAST.tank02
- Also thank God he is not bipolar, that's would've been really serious.grafician
- mail me at bart@coffeeklatch.be for longer views. qbn notes is not goodtank02
- (funny thing, I suspect a few here have ADHD by the way they hang out and post)grafician
- My 15yr old son was diagnosed with ADHD recently too. We were wary of meds but they are really helping him with school.mort_
- It’s a tough road though. His personality traits can require a lot of patience on our end, which isn’t always in great supply.mort_
- I'm also dealing with some anxiety / depression issue(s) as well.
- shapesalad-4
- Has this helped with your current situation?Ianbolton
- yep.. get out now, before kids, else she will likely destroy me in future....shapesalad
- gawd peterson looks sadder every day.pango
- shapesalad-1
- love this. your kid comes home and you tell them the market crashed.. you ate the gummy bears. great lesson there.shapesalad
- Kid should have done his own research.
This is not financial advice.palimpsest
- trooperbill0
anyone got any ideas for a home schooling regime? ive a 4 yr old preschooler and dont want it all to be play time. goal is to get him to start reading and adding up i suppose.
- Play IS learning at that age.Morning_star
- Play!Gnash
- Look up some Montessori activities, but it's healthy to be playing all the time at this age. Good luck, it's tiring.ben_
- The Bob books series are great for this age. If they can sound out simple letters and words then it's a perfect onramp to reading.mathinc
- Morning_star is right, focus on good play is critical. For reading, simply read to them A LOT. During each meal, during breaks, at nap and bed time. Always.monospaced
- My son isn't even 4 yet and the library is like disneyland for him. Books are like candy when bargaining. He's the most advanced in his class for language now.monospaced
- dbloc7
HERE’S THE ENTIRE LIST OF EDUCATION COMPANIES OFFERING FREE SUBSCRIPTIONS DUE TO SCHOOL CLOSINGS
- dbloc1
Twin boys are due in a week. What am I in for? I already have a 2 1/2 year old girl.
- ooooofpango
- They will play together and have their own language. They will keep each other company and demand less of your attention.monospaced
- They can share a big crib and will share everything. They will use each other for comfort and their cuteness will be doubled. Enjoy.monospaced
- Your daughter will adore them and be their inspiration.monospaced
- Get them on a strict schedule and you'll do fine. We used "babywise" for our twin girls. Everything was manageable. Can't imagine the chaos without a schedule.monNom
- Also, 'babyled weening' around 6mo was a great decision. Teaches them to feed themselves. We haven't held a spoon since we started.monNom
- Krassy0
- all good until a kid gets an zip in the eyeFax_Benson
- Don't be a chukkaphob.utopian
- Krassy1
Is there a smartwatch you would recommend?
Needs:
- texting
- calling
- GPSThanks!
- ...for kids :)Krassy
- and I would rather solicit personal experiences/recommen... on here than Googling :)Krassy
- What age range? We have a watch that does that. It's called the Gizmo from Verizon. $5 a month.lemmy_k
- 5 to 12Krassy
- I'll take a look at Gizmo! TnxKrassy
- Nomonospaced
- @mono ?Krassy
- Apple Watch.
There aren't "options".ideaist - Don't skimp on your lineage,
Just kidding / FUCK it's hard to justify purchases for ME, let alone my GDMF son(s).ideaist
- BusterBoy1
Was bored the other night at home...watched a bit of Pornhub. Incognito window...stupidly, accidentally left the window open hidden behind some other browser window. I think my 15 year old son may have stumbled upon it as he often uses my PC. Have never felt so ashamed in my entire life...god knows what he thinks of me right now. :(
- This is a perfect opportunity to have a frank and honest conversation with him about porn. Don’t let this passGnash
- You can turn it aroundGnash
- No idea what to do...BusterBoy
- man oh man :)renderedred
- "research"ok_not_ok
- "my friend sent me a link"bezoar
- perhaps I'm overreacting...think I'll just leave it.BusterBoy
- dude its just pr0n everybody does it, he probably just remembers to close the window/delete history/cacheArchitectofFate
- Virus. Son. This is what computer virus do.pango
- “Son, why have you done this?”futurefood
- my keeps asking me to remove the toolbar and virus stuff on his computer that are 100% coming from shady porn sites.mekk
- That's a good way to get your kid to never use your computer again. Clever.Nairn
- Agree with Gnash here. Try to spin it into an opportunity for him (and you) to learn. If you try to cover it up you'll just continue to feel ashamed.ben_
- *caveat, that depending on the category you were browsing you might be a little fucked. good luck!ben_
- My Dad used to ask me to show him how to clear the internet history, this was back in the IE days before incognito windows. I never thought less of him.mantrakid
- We all gotta wankmantrakid
- No worries.SimonFFM
- just do: https://i.kym-cdn.co…renderedred
- Dude, don't sweat it, remember when we found our dad's porn stash when we were kids? coolest fucking thing in the world!_niko
- My first thought was.. He's probably found a new site to watch now and has now shared it with his buddies. No shame, just an opportunity to have a talk maybe?sea_sea
- blame the dog.pango
- Your son will not think less of you. Don't feel ashamed! We all found our dads collections and everything worked out fine.eryx
- talking opp. agree with the gnash. nothing to be ashamed of. nerve wrecking i'm sure, but good way to spin some good out of it.umbee
- Thanks for the words...BusterBoy
- The big question is what were you watching that he stumbled upon? Anything crazy like hentai bukakke or just some old fashioned, mom-and-pop fucking?elahon
- Incest porn! Lolpango
- If you get a nice looking cup with the logo of Brazzers, you know where it's coming from.Maaku
- mantrakid1
Actually i wanted to post another story cuz it relates to above. I 'stumbled' across my dad's porn stash (like 2-3 magazines) as a teen, which in retrospect is shitty cuz i was digging through the drawer next to his bed. Anyways, it was like hitting paydirt. Id sneak a magazine out and put it back so many times it started to feel like mine, but one day i went back there and they were gone. I think he maybe realized I was checking it out and he felt embarrassed so got rid of it. But because nothing was ever said, i just sorta used my imagination about how he felt, etc. Having given it some thought i have no idea what he could have said to me about it that wouldn't have been totally awkward.
- tank020
Respons to err:
No need to freak out man, my son is 4 months old and everything sorts itself out. Parenthood is great (I had some freak out issues too when he wasn't born)
I run a business together with my wife so we had also some trouble with work. But those first months, in general, daycare is not option I think. Kids just to young. My son starts daycare in september. 4 days a week.
But here (Antwerp) we have some supergood options by the city. Check out his daycare:
- I'm super excited about our daycare, but I'm still jealous of this. That, and just generally speaking how Europe handles ma/paternity leave & care.skwiotsmith
- Well, i'm self employed so i didn't even got one day off. But for the rest, yeah all is taken care of in excellent way. I really don't get why a portion of ...tank02
- ... Americans are against this.tank02
- Against what? Daycare? Daycare is a huge business in the US.Hayoth
- Welp that was 8 months ago I now have a 3.5 month old. And you were right! It worked itself out. (with a lot of prep) He's going to daycare next door to us!err
- @hayoth, he meant mat/pat leave. Americans don't seem to get much if any on average.ben_
- skwiotsmith1
Dad's to be—a couple of thoughts for you...
My wife & I just had our first. My wife read a number of books, two of which are definitely worth reading: Mindful Birthing & HypnoBirthing. Did she follow everything to the t? No, but the breathing & meditation techniques alone are worth their weight in gold. Yes, there was pain involved, but she also was calm.
Hire a doula. Yeah, we would have made it through without one, but having that support person there was crucial to us, and it would have been a very different experience (not necessarily for the better)...
- Or just be tight with your wife and roll with the punches.BonSeff
- @Bon, I agree. We didn’t do anything like what skwiot did, and all was good. We found having help AFTER the baby was born was most helpful.monospaced
- Yeah, I can understand what you're saying. For me personally, both were extremely helpful. We were 100% in this together, but having these resources made...skwiotsmith
- a huge difference for us. Probably the most important thing I realized is—like every baby—every birth is different. Our's was a crazy whirlwind.skwiotsmith
- Everything was cool in the end though :) And thankfully both our families are able to help now that Lilia's here!skwiotsmith
- I like the name! I have a Lily and a Lydia.BonSeff
- Our birth was nuts and it was the 2 of us with nurses who wandered in and out over the 20 hour span to make sure she was ok. It was unreal, but totally doable.mantrakid
- We had a doula as well who taught us plenty of proactive calming techniques that came in handy and made the process much smoother.ben_
- Krassy7
- if only they made toys for kids, thanks a lot toys r usjuanluisgarcia
- DIY goodnessdocpoz
- montessori?ArchitectofFate
- my dad made something just like this for my son...he LOVED it ...kept him busy as a toddler, that's for sure...exador1
- #defcon #toddlervillageprophetone
- Someone just told me to make one of these!instrmntl
- Latch boardinstrmntl
- Made one based off this exact picture, my kids really enjoyed it.kirshar12
- this is great, kids would rather play with things they're not supposed to play with. Ours, anyway.ben_