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- microkorg8
Nairn,
You don't have to explain anything to kids,they just get it!
My wife (chinese) talks to the kids (3.5 & 1.5) in Mandarin and I talk to them in Scottish ('Scottlish' according to our eldest). They jump between the two languages naturally and depending who they are talking to. They know to speak chinese when talking to my wifes family and to switch to scottlish when talking to my family or anyone out and about in scotland.
Over xmas last year my wife and the kids went to china for 6 weeks so she could catch up with family. Our eldest went with a basic knowledge of mandarin but came back fluent. When i met them at the airport she was apprehensive about talking 'scottlish' with me and it took her about a week to relearn or get confident again with the english she knew.
She knows that my mandaring is negligible and always translates for me :) "mummy told us that we should....."
Kids are fucking amazing, their brains are little sponges that soak up so, so much!
- How did you get on with their very earliest years? I feel like I'm confusing her when I state something in English, which she's learned in something in Italian.Nairn
- Just run with it. Dont try to differentiate between the languages. Talk tothe wee one in both languages and they just get it! theyll know that daddy...microkorg
- ..doesnt understand italian. and if they want water and are saying it in italian and you dont understand, they'll learn that and workaround and communicate..microkorg
- ..another way :)microkorg
- Our youngest comes out with chinese words i dont know and when he realises i dont know he'll try to make me understand. its amazing.microkorg
- That's exactly my worry, thanks
xNairn - Same experience here. Just go with it, kids figure it outGnash
- i know couples that live in a country but are both from different countries themselves. 4 yo kids can speak three languages fluent for their age...crazyoey_oey
- been noticing this with my kids (both teens)
my wife's Indian, and she's also a french teacher.. so she's always encouraged the kids languages etc...exador1 - neither kids have gotten very good with Malayalam (my wife's parents language) but they give it their best shot lolexador1
- but I've noticed in the past few weeks, my kids have gotten AMAZING with french...
my daughter is in grade 12 and about to graduate highschool, andexador1 - it's amazing to watch my daughter just have these long involved conversations in french with her mom :) so awesome...exador1
- and my son, eager to not be outdone lol, is doing great at it too... it's lovely to see :)exador1
- Nairn0
Any duel-language parents here?
If so, I'm curious to know how you dealt with describing two (+) languages alongside each other.
My Italian is terrible, but helping her is helping me too. My Italian vocabulary for entirely random animals is quite commendable.
I try and describe every new concept in ‘Mamma's Language’ and ‘Daddy's Language’.
- She's 26.Nairn
- lol ‘duel-language’.
Fuck you, Freud.Nairn - my father speaks racist and his wife is fluent in ignorant. i cry a lot. i hope that helps.imbecile
- hahahahaNairn
- I'm portuguese, she's german. I speak portuguese with our daughter. she speaks german. we speak to each other daily stuff in german. serious stuff in englishoey_oey
- Mom makes some exceptions using portuguese words that my parents used with our daughter.oey_oey
- Why "Serous stuff in English"?
I'm so weirded out when I hear couples from different places here in LDN, speaking Enlish with each other.Nairn - I mean,it;s lovely - linga franca and all that - but it feels odd for me to place myself in that dynamic.Nairn
- I speak enough Spanish to get along in a conversation, but right now we are focusing on French, which my wife speaks. She's so young she just likes learning.ben_
- @Nairn: because of three reasons 1) fairness cause it's for both a neutral language and my German which is still good is not enough to be at her leveloey_oey
- cause she's finishing her PhD in German Studies and her job is in the Literature institute at the local University.oey_oey
- 2) My English is sounding more and more like Arnold 3) She wants to better her English and the extra reason: we need a secret language cause of our kid ;-)oey_oey
- Nairn0
After she helped me empty the washing I let my guard down for a minute or two but I've just had to say to my daughter "Dear, please don't eat the washing machine" after I turned to see her chomping on the rubber door seal. Strange child.
- robotinc25
- Welcome to child ownership!
: )ideaist - Congratulations little buddha :)
And a great name too! (That or Maxwell were my options if we'd had a boy)Nairn - Congratszaq
- Nice!stoplying
- congrats!PonyBoy
- congratsutopian
- congrats!renderedred
- congrats!bezoar
- !!!!moldero
- Congrats!duckseason
- Whooooop! CongratsPhanLo
- welcome and congrats! :-)oey_oey
- bravo!api
- Congrats!Krassy
- Congrats and cool name for the lil dudeRamanisky2
- Nice, congrats bud! Embrace the infant stage, they grow so quickly! We're on week 21 - it's flown by...whatthefunk
- Max is almost as cool a name as scarabin. Congrats!scarabin
- Congratsgarbage
- Welcome to the jungle!ben_
- Watch it bring you to your shun n-n-n-n-n-n-n-n knees, kneesDRIFTMONKEY
- bravoneverscared
- Congrats!Gnash
- Congrats and welcome! It's a sweet ride. My only tip: Get a new Spotify & Netflix user.maquito
- Congrats! With luck you’ll get to sleep a full night in 4 months... I did :)dmay
- Welcome to child ownership!
- stoplying4
After last weeks tropical storm rolled through here, there's a ton of fallen logs/branches out at the curb for the town to pick up. I saw a nice pile this morning, so I sent my boys down the street with our wagon and told them to fill it up and bring it home. They did it. They actually were excited about it. We got some free firewood gang.
- fooler8
I took my boys, (Aged 9 & 5) fishing for the first time today.
Besides spending more time detangling lines, breaking up fights, and telling them not to use the net on your brothers head... we caught 5 Rainbow trout all 11-15". Can't wait to smoke them up for dinner tomorrow.
- pango12
- nicemoldero
- Fantastique !D4W33D
- dark web trigger warningfadein11
- looking good pango!oey_oey
- ❤helloeatbreathedrive
- Haha, great!SimonFFM
- Yeah. That guy is way too happy to be doing this just for his daughter.CyBrainX
- No, he's the perfect amount of happy.monospaced
- Nairn2
Partner's just sent me some photos of the bairn in some clothes my folks bought her, so I can report back to them.
Clothes look lovely, and my partner's a better photographer than I am (really, not hard at all - I suck at taking photos).
Except.. it's a photo taken in the kitchen and the floor is a bit less than spotless. Now, do I ask her to take another photo, or do I spend awhile in photoshop, clone-stamping out all the bits of glob?
I sodding mopped that floor but two days ago too - children are disgusting creatures.
Can't have my folks having confirmation of every suspicion I no doubt feel they have about our living in squalour... .
(Our daughter recently discovered the joys of soil in plantpots, and the kitchen leads right out into our wee back garden, so it's right i nthe firing line...)
- Ha! I had a friend that wanted me to PS out all the mold on his bathroom tile from this cute picture of his kid taking a bubble bath in the tub...fooler
- I told him it would be quicker and easier for him just to clean his bathroom once and awhile. It was disgustingly dirty!
I'm sure yours is fine.fooler - Your folks were once parents with young kids. They'll understand.Morning_star
- Nairn2
It only struck me yesterday how counter-intuitive it is to call my daughter a 'crazy bastard' when she started scooping water out of the bog.
- I'd lost track of her for like 10 seconds - literally. Straight into the bathroom, and apparently into the toilet. Little fucker.
It's a small flat.Nairn - Also - must stop swearing in front of childNairn
- My son is 2.5 this week. He said “what the fuck?” And meant it.monospaced
- I let my kids swear in front of me from a very early age. They weren’t allowed to swear in front of anyone else, just me. We talked about what the words meant..Morning_star
- ...and how offensive they can be, but when it was us we were swearwolves. It worked, they’re 15 & 17 and very rarely swear.Morning_star
- I like that methodology, M_s - it's kind of the tack I figured I'd take. Swear words are good for expression, so shouldn't be damned.Nairn
- That said, if she gets kicked out of school for 'Speaking French' I'm on the first train up to Brum to kick your ass!Nairn
- It’s hard to explain that concept this young but maybe soon he will understand. He knows it’s wrong because of the reactions he refeiv s from adults.monospaced
- So right now the strategy is to not react at all. Don’t even entertain it. It works.monospaced
- Oh yeah - even prior to my own kid, I was a big believer in "don't react!". Especially when kids fall down, etc. Kids react to adult emotions.Nairn
- So true Nairn. Be the adult you want your kids to be.
If you do find yourself on the way up here let’s go axe throwing instead to settle it.Morning_star - https://www.myabando… ?Nairn
- https://whistlepunks…Morning_star
- I'd lost track of her for like 10 seconds - literally. Straight into the bathroom, and apparently into the toilet. Little fucker.
- BonSeff23
- Awww :)Gnash
- The best.monospaced
- *squints* I think it might be a forgery.
Watch out for her.Nairn - AWWWWi_was
- Nice.
I think I'm getting two painted rocks.stoplying - what kind of hat are you wearing?utopian
- paper crown
https://www.youtube.…BonSeff - congrats and... https://sketchok.com…tank02
- You better frame it!!pango
- stoplying7
Since working from home with this virus, I've set up my guitar and bass and will record some little jams/ideas in between doing work. Yesterday we got some blank CD-Rs so that I can make some mix CDs for my boys to listen to on their boom box. My 6 yo asks if he can have a cd of all of my "songs". I was shocked since I didn't think he even heard me playing, but apparently he was paying attention. Then after he was in bed trying to fall asleep last night (was crazy hot here), he walks out in his pokemon pj's and lays on my chest on the couch and thanks me for making him a cd. Was a really nice moment :)
- microkorg4
So proud that the day doesn't start in our house until we've watched and sung along to "Fight for your right to party" and "Intergalactic" by the Beastie Boys.
(3yo girl, 1 yo boy.)
- whatthefunk42
Our daughter Mia weighing in at 8lbs 4oz and 20" long is in perfect health! 3 days old and I'm already wrapped around her lil' finger. After a few days of being sequestered in a hospital room while wearing a mask 24/7 it's great to be back home with our new family. We couldn't be happier - here we go!
Cheers to all and I hope everyone is well!
- Great news!~stoplying
- Congrats, that’s great!robotinc
- Congrats!!PhanLo
- Welcome to your new life!eryx
- x!Nairn
- ++!!moldero
- Welcome to child ownership @whatthefunk!!!
: )ideaist - Covidgrats!utopian
- Congrats and welcome to parenthood!microkorg
- Absolutely beautiful. Good work, and may she bring you all the joy in the world.monospaced
- Welcome to this crazy world MiÆ-12!fooler
- Congrats!Krassy
- Mazel Tov!ben_
- Congrats!Gnash
- congrats man!renderedred
- just look at the little funkerfaxion
- Congrats!aliastime
- Congrats!!bezoar
- Woohoo!! Congrats.aslip
- Awww Mia, she's a beauty mate. Congrats and take rest!! Best wishesOBBTKN
- That is one adorable looking babyhotroddy
- Glad you three+ are safe—what a time to be born!jaylarson
- Congratulations!nb
- Congrats.. cute as a buttonautoflavour
- Cute, congrats :)NBQ00
- what a cutie, have fun :)sea_sea
- Welcome Mia!67nj
- Congratsnecromation
- Congratulations!SimonFFM
- CONGRATS!
from the proud dad of a Maya, to you, the proud dad of a Mia :)exador1 - Aww shucks everyone :o
Thank you so much!whatthefunk - Such a beautiful pic to see on the qbn landing pagerobotron3k
- Congrats. Cute kid. Normally Babies are a mess.BH26
- dmay1
- mg3310
My 5 year old daughter finally rode without training wheels today! She has been trying to get up the courage and skills for the past couple of weeks since we took her training wheels off, and after she used her little brothers balance bike she had a much better idea of the balance she need it. All it took was some encouragement and advice from two of her friends and she had it figured out immediately. I did not even have to hold onto her seat and let go of her. She just did it. Such a proud dad moment.