Career vs. Friends
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- identity0
Whitewolf,
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be
it. The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by
scientists whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable
than my own meandering
experience...I will dispense this advice now. Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth; oh nevermind; you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded. But trust me, in 20 years you’ll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked....
You’re not as fat as you imagine. Don’t worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind; the kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday.
Do one thing everyday that scares you. Sing Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts, don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours. Floss. Don’t waste your time on jealousy; sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind...the race is long, and in the end, it’s only with yourself.
Remember the compliments you receive, forget the insults; if you succeed in doing this, tell me how. Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements. Stretch Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life...the most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives, some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don’t.
Get plenty of calcium. Be kind to your knees, you’ll miss them when they’re gone. Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t, maybe you’ll have children, maybe you won’t, maybe you’ll divorce at 40, maybe you’ll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary...
what ever you do, don’t congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself either – your choices are half chance, so are everybody else’s. Enjoy your body, use it every way you can...don’t be afraid of it, or what other people think of it, it’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own..
Dance... even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room. Read the directions, even if you don’t follow them. Do NOT read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly. Get to know your parents, you never know when they’ll be gone for good.
Be nice to your siblings; they are the best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future. Understand that friends come and go,but for the precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle because the older you get, the more you need the people you knew when you were young.
Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard; live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.
Travel. Accept certain inalienable truths, prices will rise, politicians will philander, you too will get old, and when you do you’ll fantasize that when you were young prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders. Respect your elders.
Don’t expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund, maybe you have a wealthy spouse; but you never know when either one might run out. Don’t mess too much with your hair, or by the time you're 40, it will look 85. Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it’s worth.
But trust me on the sunscreen...
- lovely advice, you should turn it into a song ..lukus_W
- LOLTheeOtherJuan
- whereRI0
move to new city and make new friends and new life. u always have old one as fail safe...
- i_monk0
Who are you living and working for, yourself or your friends?
- d_rek0
Be realistic. Your friends sound like losers.
- fredddddd0
move to a city and make some new friends
- Khurram0
those are your only options?
kill yourself, faggot.
- OSFA0
I take it you're not down at CPB here in Miami anymore...
- Stugoo0
home is where the heart is. I get homesick all the time.
You can always go back... but what you mind find is that once you move you might not be able to go back.
I would say move and get bigger and better experience.
- TheBlueOne0
Stay there and create a good savings, grow at a small firm with good people. Make it a two year thing. At 27, get the fuck out.
- bigtrick0
which would make you happier?
- Fuck "happy". Chasing happiness is bullshit. It's like chasing "angry"TheBlueOne
- I pray I never end up like TheBlueOneblogger
- the Blue One is right about this. Do what's right and happiness will follow, along with anger, sadness and the rest in their timenuggler
- desmo0
Stay in your small town for 2-3 years. Save up some cash. Continue to build your portfolio. Try to make some contacts. Then bounce to a bigger city.
- TheBlueOne0
I think in this economy, based on the fact you just said your savings are zero and you are employed by a good firm with good people and your only 25, fuck, take advantage of that. Put some ka-ching in the bank. Live small, stay hungry. At least get some savings in the bank...I mean why blow your money on women, drugs and beer? You're not 18.
- I say this having woken up at 32 with no money in the bank blowing it on women, beer..TheBlueOne
- So i'm bitter old guy waving cane. But by 42 it's all worked out. So what the fuck do I know.TheBlueOne
- ..you know what, fuck it..blow your cash on friends, women and beer.TheBlueOne
- whitewolf0
I've had alot of fun the past few years and haven't really attempted a savings. Basically going from freelance project, get paid, go travel and repeat. Then took and internship in Miami, got some great work out of it and have been getting some cool interviews in cities i'm really interested in, but barely had the cash to even get there.
So I took this gig back home, trying to save up. I'm open to "taking responsibility" and working a job for a year or 2 but it'd be nice if I didn't have to drive an hour or 2 every weekend to have a good time.
- harlequino0
Save money now while you are not taking care of anyone else. In another 5-10 years, if you wind up with property or a family, you will need that money. You will truly regret wasting that time having fun, when you one day decide to build something, whether that be a house, a company, or a family.
- cannonball19780
Why not put in place what you think is missing.
- PIZZA0
Don't go somewhere just to work in a coffee shop, fucking loser work that.
Go where your friends are if you can find a proper job
- fyoucher10
You're only young once. Go out, have fun with no regrets. Seriously. Move to a city. Work at a young, hip, ad agency. Build connections. Be smart with your money. NYC would be an amazing experience.
You'll be 30 in no time.
- bigtrick0
Wait, you're the dude that came back from somewhere horribly hot and rural, right? Ethiopia?
Staying in your hometown for a year or two to get some money in the bank and some work in your portfolio sounds like a good idea. But don't get trapped into the idea that a marriage, two kids, two cars in the garage, white picket fences, etc. is the only way to grow up. There are a lot of things out in the world that you can do - and the suburban american dream doesn't necessarily have to be what you do.