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  • shellie31

    Just delivered my first commercial as a writer/producer hybrid. I finally have both creative and process control of my work. I’m overjoyed.

    • Nice!! :)PonyBoy
    • Sweet!YakuZoku
    • Congrats, sounds like you’re living the dream!!dee-dubs
    • And somehow this was the easiest commercial I’ve ever delivered. No notes from a huge telecom client! Maybe its bc I was the final word on all prod or creative.shellie
    • Congrats. Waiting for "show some recent work"-post.Longcopylover
    • Awesome!Continuity
    • Grats.
      curious. the writer strike doesn't effect you? or only union members.
      pango
    • I’m not a union writer. But, I do make branded content for union shows. So all of my current pitches don't use union cast or the actual sets from the show.shellie
    • For instance: Instead of using cast I can write around fan “influencers”. And if shows go dark on strike, they’ll just play reruns and my content still works.shellie
    • Realizing I didn’t answer your Q pango. Ent studios do plenty of non union shoots for content like marketing. Ad agencies also do too. Just staff differently.shellie
    • very cool! without revealing too much, how can we see this? client's name rhymes with...Squiddy
    • nice work.. kudosautoflavour
    • What. Come here to QBN and talk about design work... so weird.

      Also congrats ;)
      jagara
    • good for you.milfhunter
    • Bravo young lady.Ramanisky2
    • Yeah giiirrrlll!!!

      : )
      ideaist
    • Squiddy I do want to share it on linkedin but i’m pretty sure the post will need to be approved by PR first. I’m going to look into that today.shellie
    • ^5s!instrmntl
  • Ben9918

    They're coming...

    QBN 1" pins and magnets!




  • HijoDMaite33

    Ok guys, he is officially a part of our community thanks to Ben!

    • nice! but don't expose him to this place, hasn't he had enough these past few years!Gnash
    • you really should create a blog or site to document this.Gnash
    • haha awesome

      VIVE QBN EN MEHICO
      moIdero
    • Muy bueno +1000!!OBBTKN
    • Lolpango
    • Epic!oey
    • I want a button Ben!!!oey
    • from one prison to anotherdrgs
    • Lol niceset
    • should be green until he's verified
      :)
      Fax_Benson
    • Hey cool :-)Bennn
    • Don't do it! he might read one comment from Yuri and walk back inside! (nice to see him smiling though)mugwart
    • drgssince1979
    • That is so cool.Melanie
    • Bienvenido!robotron3k
    • Haha..super awesome! :-) great dadsureshot
    • drgs...whatever...oey
    • create an account for him lol, PapiDJavierernexbcn
    • haha! love it!

      *certified*
      Krassy
    • +++bezoar
    • who is is?omg
  • SimonFFM37

    Half of my books are sold. With the help of my wife, I managed to pack 500 parcels in the past 6 days. It was such an amount of work. Unwrapping, signing, bubble foil, book box, labels and then bringing all this with my Peugeot 208 to the post office which basically does not exist in Germany anymore. I brought the parcels to a 10sqm supermarket "Official DHL store". They were medium delighted, but I am so stoked to have half of the circulation gone. Had been impossible without my wife.

    • Your wife is golden, man. If one day you divorce, ask me for my number ;)OBBTKN
    • Now, being serious... Congrats Simon! Hard work done...OBBTKN
    • I love a good plan with a happy ending Simon! Well done brother!Wordsworth
    • you owe her a lot :) moving fresh prints is an absolutely good workout :)sted
    • LOL.. i read that whole post thinking it was someone talking about decluttering.. then i saw who posted it.. kudosautoflavour
    • am curious what your wife thinks about your profession?autoflavour
    • Do you ever draw / photograph your wife like one of your French / German girls? Lolz.ideaist
    • Awesome team!stewart
    • Thank you, guys!SimonFFM
  • PhanLo37


    -
    My sister dropped round some kidney shaped cupcakes, it's been a year since she had a successful kidney transplant.
    Initially I was meant to give her one of mine, but lockdown meant that was delayed and she ended up getting a kidney from a deceased donor, (A young woman who was only 21).

    Her new kidney is functioning well, almost as good as 2 kidneys so she's in a much better place than a year and a half ago when she was doing dialysis 3 days a week.

    If it wasn't for lockdown she wouldn't have been at the top of the list for a transplant.

  • helloeatbreathedrive23

    As I'm sitting next to my dying father (colon cancer, triple bypass, last week 25 cm of intestine removed etc) as I type, him not having insurance for all his life, and all this stuff began almost 4 years ago, as a family, we haven't got any more real estate to sell, no more cars left to sell etc I ve sold all my private belongings (unnecesa luxury shit) only a few valueables left, still owe 6 digits on mils to banks (due to economy, inflation etc), I'm lost and see no way outta this. Because of my unlucky location, etrade and paypal is dead (due to no renewd licensing b/c of the autho government) but I'm still gonna list the last of my items I need to sell to make at least some kinda money to help out this situation, high anxiety, depr and no libido and no social life dont help, tho I'm still here to save up some 'death money' for myself when the shit starts to go down south real fast real with the banks and all. That's all I wanted to write. I'm almost 40, had an interesting tough life, hit me up if you are younger and want to hear coz I never had anyone to tell me the good and bad and the right and wrong, dos and donts in life. Ive learned the hard way, but dont want anyone else make the same mistakes. I've had it up to here. If i had to do a proper we write up, it d take too long. Sorry to take your time, all the mish mash of thoughts etc. Cheers and I'll be around.

    • Sorry to hear that man. But don't give up. Think positive. You can always restart your life and your situation. Life is a game. Even when we're hit hard.NBQ00
    • Thanks nb, appreciate it and i mean it. I love this saying, man if i knew then what i know now...helloeatbreathedrive
    • "I'm still here..." You said it, man. Some days, that's enough.DRIFTMONKEY
    • Exactly, just washed him and put him to bed. Gonna go smoke a ciggy then rest. Thanks @drift and nbq fellas.helloeatbreathedrive
    • Stay strong!!!utopian
    • That's tough. Sounds like you're up to it though. Hope it gets easier soon.Fax_Benson
    • You’ve got more reserves than you can imagine. sorry to hear about your father. Good you’re by his side...notype
    • Don't go down... Life is this way sometimes, but you know it better than me. All the best!OBBTKN
    • this shit pisses me off, why should you and your family have to go through this hell when your country could easily afford free universal healthcare?_niko
    • hang in there dude. Sounds fucking rough. arrogantly speaking for all of QBN, post away if you need to rant/ support. We'll help you through best we can.mugwart
    • thanks for sharing. stay strong.hotroddy
    • Hope you have someone close to hug. I lost my father over 20 years ago. Life sometimes has to fall apart for it to start over. You got this. *hugsea_sea
    • I went through a similar situation with a large amount of debt due to 2 dying family members that eventually did pass. Even though they had insurance it wasshellie
    • impossible. It took a very long time and im no spring chicken anymore, but im starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel. You can get through this ifshellie
    • you dont wallow in despair. Also, you really cant talk younger ones into making the same mistakes. thats when you cant tell them nothin cos they know everythingshellie
    • Hang in there.Mattjanz3n
    • I can't imagine the amount of stress you are having to deal with, while also having to cope with your father coming to the end of his life...PhanLo
    • Going through the same thing with my wife’s parents. Step dad just died mom had a stroke and her dad (she’s adopted) was being fleeced by a conman.BH26
    • It’s been a long 1.5 years. But we’re starting to get through all the insanity. Things will improve. It’s an honorable thing you’re doing.BH26
    • Hard bit of information to share, thank you. stay strong.bezoar
    • thanks for sharingpango
    • Hang in there brother.Ramanisky2
    • I wanna thank each and every one of my brothers here, your support and words mean alot to me. One day I will write it all down. Thank you all.helloeatbreathedrive
    • will you enjoy my comment of show me the intestine or GTFO? I'm a bit of cynic and stick to the culture of proof over emo.deathboy
    • but to hedge it ill say. Dude, that sucks! With empathy towards the idea of it being me. But knowing that is life also thinking you are better off indeathboy
    • comparison to others... but still acknowledging comparison is really #relative... im gonna go feel shit about a homeless dude spendin 20 on gasdeathboy
    • My dad died of cancer 12 years ago, at age 67. It's difficult. I don't know you, but stay strong, and much love.jagara
    • It's awesome when people share things like these. It conterbalances the constant stream of vapid self-promotion.jagara
    • thanks @jagara, when first diagnosed w stg4, they've given him 6 mths max and its been almost 4 yrs this year, tho it took almost evetyhng from us as a family.helloeatbreathedrive
    • & i donot wish this type of illness/my situation to not even my worst enemy tho ive none. i stay strong & we all live parallel lives no matter who/where we are.helloeatbreathedrive
    • @ram thank you so much. we most dont know each other but even a good wish goes long way, and im here too if anyone else is down for any reason whatsoever.helloeatbreathedrive
    • It’s a shitty situation...I wish you the best.BusterBoy
    • Just an odd personal observation, both my parents died very suddenly in their 60’s. I never got the chance to say goodbye to either of them.BusterBoy
    • As horrible as a slow painful death is, in a perverse kind of way, at least it gives those around a chance to offer support and say goodbye.BusterBoy
    • But horrible all the same.BusterBoy
    • Buster mate, that must'd been unbelievably tough. Esp not being able to say goodbye. Sorry for your loss :(helloeatbreathedrive
    • life can be hard on us. health care should be an universal right. anyway life is so unexpected and balancing on the other hand, so be strong!api
    • It seems you are very sad for yourself, your stuff and money and things, than your father's state, which you mention briefly. May God have mercy.robthelad
    • This post gave me the urge to call my mom and ask how she's doing. I'm sorry you're going through this, mate. Sending love.Gucci
    • Sorry to hear. I've been there. It's a hard state, but just take one day at a time. One breath at a time. It will get better.Melanie
  • sarahfailin21

    comments in COTD are getting kinda rough.

    it destroys any hope that we might appreciate images of women without devolving into sexually violent misogyny.

    get your shit together you apes. or else lets do away with the thread and make QBN a friendlier place for women.

    • +1i_monk
    • I now supervise a team of three young women and can't imagine pointing them to QBN.i_monk
    • yup i felt those last few comments have gone beyond irony as well.hans_glib
    • some if the girls barely look as old as NBQ's mental age (approx 13). Grim.Fax_Benson
    • +1pango
    • *ofFax_Benson
    • -1drgs
    • but jesus hot dog...renderedred
    • Wow so you attack me when my comment was a sarcastic critique of the “feed her a sandwich” comments some others made?NBQ00
    • I can’t stand these “she looks malnourished, feed her something” comments myself.NBQ00
    • I never check it, just did. Yeesh.garbage
    • 'but jesus hot dog'...

      lol... aren't you cute?
      PonyBoy
    • +1
      We need a safe space for posting pics of naked broads. qbnwoke.com
      deadsperm
    • I don't even know who is being sarcastic in which direction these days.garbage
    • Perhaps it is time to kill this thread once and for all, as a majority of members seemed in favor of not long ago.Moderator
    • This reeks American PC. Senile, sentimental snot chewing. Only thing missing are the transgendersdrgs
    • Men on the internet are posting nude pics and leaving salacious comments? Which part of it was surprising?drgs
    • Kill it. Purge the pervs.
      Jesus Hot Dog FTW.
      Nairn
    • Team Hypocrite®... Assemble!!!PonyBoy
    • As I understand it, the pics are OK it's the comments about the ladies' bodies that's the problem (#slimshaming).
      Leave the thread and block comments.
      Win-win!
      deadsperm
    • you sure it's the 'slim-shaming' or the comment about 'feeding someone their cock'? Give me a fucking break, guys.PonyBoy
    • and what the fuck is 'slim shaming'... did you just make up that drivel?PonyBoy
    • OK, it's not only the body shaming but also the sexual nature of the comments.
      Either way they should block the comments.
      deadsperm
    • Yes, I did just make up slim-shaming. I thought 'skinny' was too violent.deadsperm
    • If you don't like the thread—don't click it. Or—please start moderating and be sure to moderate everything. i_monk's 2nd comment hits home.
      #MQBNGA
      PonyBoy
    • @i_monk i tell girls about qbn a lot, when they ask me what my username is whichever you guys' nick is first in my mind i give it...renderedred
    • I kind of agree with PonyBoy on this, just don't partake in the thread if you don't like it - after all it's generally the same people who make themselves lookben_
    • like idiots in there. At least it somewhat contains their creepiness to a place where we can expect it.ben_
    • The battle, if there is one is when these retards starts preaching their misogynistic shit in regular threads.ben_
    • i miss chukka, he kept cotd in tipy top conditionrenderedred
    • The moral outrage police activated.Hayoth
    • nahhh im just there to make art statement.pango
    • NBQ does have the mental age of 13, i've noticed that. Other day he was wanking over the thought of a female QBNr watching porn and harassing herKhurram
    • Comments are revealing; useful for us women to distinguish the men, the boys, the brats. Also helps me put in context their other, non-COTD postsBustySaintClaire
    • stfu robomonospaced
    • Wtf Khurram, why are you spreading lies? I was never waking over another female here and certainly did not harass her you moronNBQ00
    • So many pussies in here. Toughen up and stop making false statements and spreading lies. Or you'll see more members leaving this placs. Fuck this blog post.NBQ00
    • It's unreal how many here don't understand sarcasm or jokes and get triggered easily. PC cry babies.NBQ00
    • Nah, mate. Everyone speak their mind. The only thing more discouraging than me posting a pic I like and having it ripped apart by a "hater" is...zarb0z
    • ..bellends defending themselves for being such tossers in the comments. You don't like it, move along (or don't visit). No 2 ppl will have the same opinion.zarb0z
    • And having a sexist wank is not PC, snowflake, cry baby whatever you want to call it, it's a lack of DECENCY.zarb0z
    • It's not even about the COTD. It's creeps like NBQ that make women uncomfortable. There's one or two of them around here. We should get rid.Khurram
    • It's like gamer gate all over again. Do you remember what happened then?Khurram
    • Fuck off Khurram, you know nothing about me. Who are you even? It’s the first time I see you here. And just chiming in finally to attack me?NBQ00
    • *eatingpopcorn.gifautoflavour
    • For what it’s worth, I don’t visit that thread that often anymore but I don’t think it should be deleted. If u don’t like it, don’t visit.autoflavour
    • I think it’s a bullshit argument to make that deleting this one thread will make qbn a woman friendly place. Not to mention woman appreciate naked woman alsoautoflavour
    • "She looks malnourished. Need to feed her my dick"
      not to target one person but its literally the first example i can find lol
      pango
    • Naked pictures of women not a problem as much as the pics of skinny kids and violent comments. Not unreasonable to object. Usual hissy fits in response.Fax_Benson
    • yeah pango, it was a sarcastic remark because of the previous "she looks thin" or "she looks malnourished". Jeez. You guys are idiots.NBQ00
    • lolpango
    • i was being sarcastic! couldn't you tell?pango
    • Its threads like that, that make qbn not a viable place to make money for theres owners and for us. It could be $ or perks for all of us if we behaved.shellie
    • *the ownersshellie
    • Ahhh, "She looks malnourished. Need to feed her my dick" is sarcastic because you have no dick? got it.kingsteven
    • make money? huh?NBQ00
    • Hmmm everytime I peek in that thread, it looks like Maxim magazine or something. I'm less offended by the misogyny, than by QBN's boring taste in women :)yuekit
    • NBQ00 doesn't realize he's part of why this site is such a sausage party and will never be more than a garbage forumnb
    • And so he shouts that we're all idiots and that we're too sensitive. Completely unaware of himself.nb
    • NBQ is QBN in a dimension where everything is terriblekingsteven
    • Eh, me posting a silly sarcastic comment in the COTD thread doesn't mean it's the reason why so few women hereNBQ00
    • I didn't create the COTD thread. And there were always so few women on this site.NBQ00
    • Generally, women don't participate much in forums. It's mostly a sausage fest no matter what site it is.NBQ00
    • god damn it! i said not to target one person!pango
    • What are the expectations exactly? "They went deep into themselves and out came a voice of pure heart and soul"?drgs
    • Or do we pretend like we hang out at an intelligent design resource?drgs
    • the latterpango
    • Every time someone calls NBQ00 out the response is the same. "you don't know me" "I was being sarcastic" - then the same people circle the wagons in support...ben_
    • I really didn't start the "feed her...". I actually wanted to make a point with my sarcasm but some of you are too dumb to get it.NBQ00
    • of the same misogyny but insist it's just good fun and not to take it too seriously. I'll admit I have no idea who you (or most people on here) are, but at...ben_
    • read what I just said. jeez. unrealNBQ00
    • it's supposed to be a design and creative forum, so honestly, fuck yourself if you can't take the criticism from people who aren't blatant anti-female.ben_
    • I'm the least misogny guy in the universe. I love women. But some people can't take a joke and get triggered by smallest stuffNBQ00
    • I'm sure you're just really misunderstood. For what it's worth, you're not alone in being the "least misogny guy in the universe" around here.ben_
    • NBQ00 since 2018 certified by drgs = piece of shiti_was
    • Really, so cool of you.NBQ00
    • It seems as if I triggered world war 3 or something. What a cry-baby fest in here.NBQ00
    • I was actually trying to make a point with my sarcasm and yet I'm the only one being singled out and attacked here.NBQ00
    • All this reinforces to me is that many Americans are terrible at sarcasm. Not that I believe that nbpoo was for one pico-second trying to be sarcastic.Nairn
    • Really, you now attacking me too?NBQ00
    • didn't you cause a similar shit storm a while back? not that I'm that bothered, shitstorms and meltdowns are certainly morefadein11
    • entertaining than the COTD thread.fadein11
    • You love women??!?! That's what pedophiles say about CHILDREN! You fucking creep!Khurram
    • It's in no way just you NBQ00, but you do a pretty decent job showing up as the poster child for it.ben_
    • maybe it's all the sarcasm.ben_
    • Notice it's the COTD-defenders lashing out in anger; so easily triggered.i_monk
    • Indeed, i_monk.
      The original grievance was either missed our derailed from reading the comments.
      deadsperm
    • Nobody loves women more than I do.NBQ00
    • Damn! 82 comments! A new high score for me. *End thread*sarahfailin
    • NBQ has binders full of women.i_monk
    • Actual women, dessicated, deboned and folded into tiny parcels of grim testamentNairn
    • XD Comments.
      seriously its not just one person. guys.
      pango
    • lol nairnfadein11
  • nb32

    I was so stressed when I lost my job earlier this year due to Covid, but with intense persistence I had two offers within six weeks.

    Now, a few months later, I'm getting a few unsolicited direct messages coming in from hiring teams at other agencies.

    I've said it before and I'll say it again. Spend a few dedicated weeks on making your portfolio and your LinkedIn better than everyone else's you've seen and things come your way.

    If you're struggling out there, I feel you. Keep looking. When you get discouraged, just keeping going. When you've absolutely had it and have to scream: shut your computer down, lock up your phone, take a walk, have a beer in the tub and go to bed. Get up tomorrow and start again, it's fine. You can do it.

    • positive vibes 2020bezoar
    • Effort should be: 90% portfolio & L.I. 5% applying for jobs. 4% interview practice. 1% learning to deal with a steady stream of rejection.nb
    • I'm 11.5 months into job hunting, and I'm ready call it a day, frankly. I'm dog tired of this.Continuity
    • Great to hear. The idea of building an updated portfolio and resume seems like an overwhelming task.monospaced
    • ^ Very much this!grafician
    • Continuity, hang in there, u've done the hardest part.
      Mono, 2y ago I got through rebuilding my portfolio (which led to work) by watching How I Met Your Mother
      spl33nidoru
    • ^ mindless good vibe shows while working can do wonders to shut up doubts and discouragement ! Get in the zone !spl33nidoru
    • Yeah you gotta accept that you need to be in the top 3 portfolios if you want an interview. Best if you're leagues above the others. This is obviously hard worknb
    • Being a likeable well spoken person with good experience goes a long way too :)monospaced
    • It does! But it's just so hard to even get an interview. Once you get the interview, personality goes the rest of the way.nb
    • Same for me. Unemployed in Sept. I've taken a position i really wanted. and days later 2 agencies, Disney and Tiktok reached out. Just stay persistentshellie
    • with everything going remote and no end in sight, Sr level talent like most of us are in demand.shellie
    • so agencies and clients are like women? they're chasing you only if you're taken? lolgrafician
    • ^ a little bitshellie
    • yeah funny, but it's actually the law of attraction or something, small wins attract bigger wins and the ball is rollinggrafician
    • It’s true.monospaced
    • 25% Day Trading. 10% Qbn. 20% lino print making. 5% linkedin. 40% portfolioshapesalad
    • Took me good part of 6 months to get my portfolio website together: designing, coding it, creating new work for it, finding best ways to present works.shapesalad
    • In my last job, my portfolio was best the boss had seen out of 300+ websites, they'd already made mind up to hire me before interview.shapesalad
    • How you present your work can go a long way to getting a job. Even if the work itself is tired and old.shapesalad
    • Guess I've got to spend another 6 months updating it now...shapesalad
    • Thanks for the words of encouragement. Been looking for work for almost a year now. The battle continues.desmo
    • Ugh desmo, I feel you.Continuity
    • And this is why we still come here, great post.fadein11
    • I'm always open to e-coffes with anyone who wants resume feedback or book reviews. I'll be hiring freelancers soon.shellie
    • Actually, shellie, I might take you up on that.Continuity
    • Tony Robbins ain't got shit on you!Projectile
    • My last job was in August. Can't say, I am unemployed as I worked freelance all of my life.SimonFFM
    • I always cry at the end of Field of Dreams. Makes me miss my dad.OP31
    • Hahaha wow I replied on the wrong post.OP31
    • Just had to do this. I signed up to linkedin pro and got access to videos of good answers to common question:
      https://www.linkedin…
      SlashPeckham
    • Just got an offer after 6 weeks... best subscription I've ever paid forSlashPeckham
  • monospaced17

    I'm getting married today.

  • cannonball197830

    Smoked a bowl and am sitting in the dark listening to Fleetwood Mac, listening to my old dog pace the room.

    Wish’m I had onea them fake ceiling starlit sky projectors.

    • PM me when you do coke and kill a hooker.palimpsest
    • PM me when you drop acid and try flying off the edge of a mountainIanbolton
    • PM me when you do heroin and sink into the sofa in a pool of vomitoey_oey
    • Dis posts needs more upvotes.palimpsest
    • Sad life.shapesalad
    • How is this any different from putting on Zuckerbergs VR headset and entering the metaverse?shapesalad
    • haha. What should people be doing with their sad lives Shape? wish you'd enlighten us allIanbolton
    • @Ianbolton, he reckons we should all be racist straight-edge vegans that get paid our meagre salaries in sinking crypto, and suck all the oxygen out of funContinuity
    • @palimp, yes, yes it does. Ergo, have an upvote cannonball, my man.Continuity
    • Proper friday post.palimpsest
    • https://www.youtube.…garbage
    • PM me when you're addicted and Shape's advice is making your life so much more tangibleIanbolton
    • vegans? Lol, certainly not.shapesalad
    • Fleetwood Mac, really?mort_
    • Fleetwood Kak, more like.zardoz
    • (unless it's Peter Green era)zardoz
    • this post needs to be on a T-shirtKrassy
    • Had this on? Mum and Dad on the Grog
      https://open.spotify…
      inteliboy
    • Fleetwood Mac? How high were you? Do you even have a dog? Fleetwood Mac?Fax_Benson
    • Ain't nothing wrong with Fleetwood MacYakuZoku
    • ^ I fucking love a bit of the MacNairn
    • Fleetwould.cannonball1978
  • HijoDMaite30

    Just upvote if you're stoned right now.

  • whatthefunk33

    I recently lost my father and after having lost my mother about 10 years ago I'm feeling a sense of loneliness I've never experienced before. We were extremely close, honest, and respectful of each other and I desperately miss talking with my friend. He too was a solitary man who enjoyed his own company and always counseled me to be sure I liked myself and to be confident in my own decisions as I have to live my life as I want, as he's living his, and others theirs. I'm fortunate to have experienced such a bond.

    Grief is a solitary pain and this one cuts deeply.
    So it goes, the wheel keeps turning.

    • that's a fortunate experience, even more fortunate perspective. not everyone had your positive interaction. sharing helps other maintain hope. celebrate him.imbecile
    • I can assure you that good food and drinks work miracles sometimes. Some dick will always appear, ignoring them is enough ;)OBBTKN
    • ^Argh! Sidenote for previos post, sorryOBBTKN
    • Sorry for your loss :(OBBTKN
    • With time, grief has the capability of becoming lighter. What a beautiful bond, thank you for sharing. <3sea_sea
    • <3Horp
    • HugsSimonFFM
    • Very heavy read, I’m so sorry for your loss.Ramanisky2
    • I feel you whatthefunk... I lost my dad about 8 weeks ago, and I'm having a hard time wit it too.exador1
    • Sending love. Lost my pops back in April. If you ever need to talk, hit me up.stoplying
    • The fact that you called him a friend is what cuts deep. I'm so sorry for your loss, and you aren't alone. So it goes.garbage
    • <3 Thanks all, sincerely!whatthefunk
  • Horp24

    Loneliness.

    I learned quite a lot about myself through the experience of becoming a parent.

    Many years back... the 90s really and maybe the first part of the 00s... I was very social, always out, and I always needed to be the crucible for a great time - that was my social role. I had a long stint as a hedonist. Mild hedonism but always full throttle and out every single night.

    When that all stopped for parenting reasons, I came to realise that that aspect of my personality was fake. Manufactured. I had a kind of shtick as the party person that I felt obligated to embody because people expected that of me.

    It felt like a relief to stop. After a bunch of years though, once my kids were too old to think I was the premium knowledge and entertainment centre of the whole universe, a sense of loneliness and isolation kicked in. Nobody "needed" me any more and I had no desire to start drinking hard and dancing every night to resume my old role in life.

    I got into old cars for something to occupy my time, and I loved that for a while. But there's a scene, and the scene is social, and I found myself in that scene.

    But it didn't help much ultimately, because I just felt no sense of common ground with the people in that scene.

    The classic cars people were all ludicrous caricatures of a stuffy conservative preservationist Britain.

    The Hot rod guys who should be cool as fuck were all fat little boors arguing over who had their carburetor set right.

    The muscle car guys were all absurd one dimensional tough guy personas learned from the movies, but in the bodies of Hobbits.

    The entire ecosystem of old car people was a game of one upmanship and a battle to be regarded as the most bestest ever expert, and almost all of them, racist as absolute fuck.

    Was it better to be part of that scene or better to just be by myself...

    I did make one friend, very local to me, who seemed a bit less absurd than most other people who devote their entire lives to obsessing over some car from 50 years back. John. He seemed okay, and we struck up a friendship.

    But man he would not fucking leave me alone. If we went for a beer one Friday evening, as far as he was concerned we were going to do that every Friday evening from then on. If there was a car thing, we HAD to go together. He'd get all pissy if I said I didn't want to go for a beer, or if I worked on my car and didn't tell him, or if I just quietly decided to go to a car thing and didn't mention it to him. He'd be really irritated because it was breaking his rules of the friendship. I'd find myself having these absurd long text based arguments with him, like we were teenagers in love.

    He would also knock on my door at almost any fucking moment, unannounced, and say he was just dropping in for a cup of tea. The longer time passed, the more he did that. It became almost daily, and some days he did it twice.

    John found himself on my ex list, and eventually, he got the message, but he doubled down on all of his bullshit until the penny finally dropped.

    I joined a local BMX social group for first gen riders like myself. Old blokes, who mostly had original 1980s BMX. We'd meet up. It was so amazing to see all those bikes I coveted in the 80s, which I had never once laid eyes on back in the day.

    But same thing there... man could they fucking argue and bitch and quibble and get upset with each other because of Araya rims on a Profile hub or Hutch beartraps on a Skyway or whatever. It was fucking ridiculous. They just fell out with each other constantly.

    better to be part of that social group? or better to learn to use my own time in a way that benefitted me and gave me enjoyment.

    Doing contract work in agencies, you get the opportunity to join in with socialising with the company.

    Some lovely people in many of those places, but you go out for drinks after work and what do people do? They fucking bitch about work and everything that's wrong and who is to blame and how frustrated they are. The more drunk they get, the more into it they get until I find I'm just sat there politely absorbing somebody else's anger and frustration and negative energy, and nodding and sympathising and offering perspectives AND BUYING THE FUCKING DRINKS TOO.

    Is that better than solitude?

    Eventually I learned to enjoy the solitude I had.

    I don't want to feel connected and socially engaged with people. I want people to leave me the fuck alone.

    Learn to master and appreciate solitude. You don't need to fill it with humans, you need to fill it with things you like to do.

    • Fucking great share and read, thanks Horp. Your description of the car crowd mirrors my experience of car ppl in Oz, but you have a way with words I do not.BuddhaHat
    • I share little in common with the party groups from my youth, though I do still see them from time to time at birthdays ending in 0.BuddhaHat
    • I agree with your sentiment about finding things I like to do and want to learn more about. The cure to boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity.BuddhaHat
    • "There is no cure for curiosity"

      So true!
      Horp
    • (To be fair, not ALL of the car people were awful, but there were enough awful ppl on the car scene to make it not worth being engaged with it)Horp
    • :)islandbridge
    • I feel you man. At 47 I have come to accept that I only have one good friend. The rest of my time I spend at work, at home, or out with my wife somewhere nice.HijoDMaite
    • And that’s ok. I enjoy my hobbies and sharing them in some sm groups. That’s enough stimulation for me nowadays.HijoDMaite
    • thanks for sharingmilfhunter
    • Funny. I just noticed that with my car-friends I don't really talk that much about cars. More about everything else. And with my workfriends I talk about cars.Longcopylover
    • I think it's the mix that makes it fine for me. But I feel you, I also like to be on my own very often. Just with my rides, thoughts and nothing/noone else.Longcopylover
    • As I was reading this (a great and very personal read) I enjoyed the mystery of who wrote it. Horp, enjoy that solitude, I know I enjoy mine.Ramanisky2
    • Wise words, I'm not a fan of unannounced visits. Yeah needy cunts like John can fuck off :)mrAtor
    • Great words Horp, enjoyed reading it, and put on an accomplice smile in my faceOBBTKN
    • Am older, you will know fewer people as you get older, that's how it is. Distinguish between needing some company vs desperate not to be alone....comicsans
    • The 1st is normal, the 2nd is a problem. I enjoy solitude, possibly too much, was never that gregarious.comicsans
    • I think its awesome you are into old cars and vintage bmx. We share that passion.
      I have a 51 chevy and now I restore old Japanese dirtbikes from the 80s for fu
      BonSeff
    • fun. But in terms of the groups, just enjoy them for what they are. Maybe recalibrate your expectations. No reason why you shouldn't enjoy yourself in such aBonSeff
    • cool scene. Let the douchebags be douchebags and roll with it.BonSeff
    • I think you've aged into Holden Caulfield.hotroddy
    • Very well written post. This line got me: "once my kids were too old to think I was the premium knowledge and entertainment centre of the whole universe.."stoplying
    • ^ Not looking forward to that day at all.stoplying
    • Hahaha Hotroddy

      Stoplying: it comes anyway, whichever way you choose to look. *hugz*
      Horp
    • Horp and John: https://www.hollywoo…_niko
    • Great postdee-dubs
    • Solitude is something that I crave! Maybe someday I'll miss people but at this stage of life/work, I just want to be left alonemisterhow
    • Niko, re "Horp and John" so funny but when I watched that movie that's what I thought. Doesn't cast me in a good light but yeah, it was like that.Horp
    • Had to read it again with a bit more clear head after a rough morning. I can relate to this on so many levels.islandbridge
    • Solitude have always been my life companion and place for reflection and change, but lately been darker place than usual. Thank you!islandbridge
    • The more time i spend with people the more i like animalsscarabin
    • Hey if it feels like it's getting darker then you ought to habe a consultation with somebody. Talking therapy is good, better than pills.Horp
    • the more time i spend with animals, the more scratches i have on my hands.pango
    • ^
      scarab... remember, humans are animals too
      OBBTKN
    • upvotedCalderone2000
  • Gardener32

    Busy afternoon painting the sign above the local charity shop, it's very fiddly but I have a steady hand, and no it's not finished!

    I am doing this for free - though they pay for the paint, not that I have any agenda but doing this is a magnet for more work as I must have handed out a dozen cards to folks wanting (paid) painting work done.

    • Good stuff manPhanLo
    • https://colourcontra…shapesalad
    • painted signage is very much back in vogue down here in LDN, which is great - whilst I cut a lot of plastic for a living, I hate most plastic signage.Nairn
    • How did you do this, btw? Not all freehand, surely?!Nairn
    • I do but need glasses for close work and I have really nice handwriting so I think that helps! Folks talking to me walking past is the worst distraction tbhGardener
    • Looks great!instrmntl
    • lovely®utopian
    • hope you are doing a behind the scenes video, would be a great marketing tool.Hayoth
    • beautiful work.BuddhaHat
    • ps. you must have rock steady hands for doing that on a ladder lolBuddhaHat
    • Looks clean!HijoDMaite
    • A kid walked by and called me brave for being so high, but then a group of girls walked past making loud noises to try and scare me, I'm made of tougher stuff!Gardener
    • The sign painters in Edinburgh would usually charge between £500-£1000 for some letters like that. They got a bargainPhanLo
    • Make the logo bigger.CyBrainX
    • You're a good man Gardener!whatthefunk
  • Nutter26

    I met someone, we had three lovely days together, and then they went back to the US. First time I met someone where I felt it really could develop further.

    We still write and I plan to go visit once they have settled in after a year abroad. Lots of thoughts though, is it just me who has all these feelings? What if they are reciprocated? Would I be willing to move to the US, or would they be willing to uproot and move here?

    Guess its small steps for now and see where it goes (if anywhere). But at least I now know I can develop feelings for someone else after my partner passed away.

    • wish you the best manpango
    • thank youNutter
    • they?oey_oey
    • That last sentence is heavy, and quite honestly brave. You know who doesn't make it through what you're going through?garbage
    • People who are afraid to ask these questions. Stay strong.garbage
    • That sounds wonderful, Nutter! Take things as they come, and if nothing develops from this, be kind to yourself. You're coming off a really hard period ...Continuity
    • ... in your life, and it's normal to be feeling like this. You can definitely be proud of yourself for coming this far, though! It's great to see that you'veContinuity
    • ... not forgotten to live your life.

      <3
      Continuity
    • who is we? Are you into a polygon relationship?milfhunter
    • oxoxcanoe
    • pics?drgs
    • I'm with oey and milf... They?? I've lost something ;)

      But srly. I'm happy for you, take time, you deserve to love and be loved again, hugs.
      OBBTKN
    • They?crazyprick
    • Don't overthink. Enjoy and let it develop.Longcopylover
    • I'd definitely say this stuff to her. Assuming you're my age, life's too short to ignore true love/passion.monospaced
    • good for you. hope it works out or, in the least, helps you find your waySquiddy
    • Yooooooooooooo!necromation
    • Sounds nice. But process everything first. My ex partner lost her husband to cancer and we got together 2 years after. A lot hadn't been processed. Not beingfadein11
    • negative, but it's a very complex situation. As I'm sure you know.fadein11
    • sorry, I'm lost is it they as in a couple, a person with a child or a they as in the pronoun?oey_oey
    • If it's a pronoun I will laugh my black ass off.crazyprick
    • I think he met a girl, but she was married, so after their fling they (her and her husband) went back to the US_niko
    • But it sounds like the husband’s into it since they might be willing to uproot and go to wherever nutter is. Juicy stuff!_niko
    • For those who are fixated on pronounce. Why do you care?pango
    • @pangz You're not meant to take crazyprick seriously. Ignore the little boy in the room.garbage
    • Its nothing as juicy as some suggest. But I'm glad I'm not completely dead inside.Nutter
    • garbage, you faggy prolapse, I'm not the only person who asked about "they". You got owned like a little bitch.crazyprick
    • flol, faggy prolapse? Is this what happens when a 14 year old has writer's block?garbage
    • Your unintentional comedy is that it's great to watch you flail and try so hard in a place where nobody likes you.garbage
    • It would be different if this were some subreddit, but this a small community that you've gone out of your way to find people that don't give a fuck about you.garbage
    • It's hilarious to me, so please keep going. You've still not made that youtube channel, btw.garbage
    • That last sentence really makes all the difference in this post. I met a couple of those 'maybe' girls while travelling. I hope you find happiness.BuddhaHat
    • Garbage, you lost a long time ago, but keep on being an embarrassment. You will always be a talentless loser nobody smelly cunt. Remember that.crazyprick
    • It takes 5 seconds of my day to occupy your mind.garbage
    • Remember thatcrazyprick
  • colin_s28

    i rescued a pair of kittens

    orange brother: richter
    black sister: key

  • oey7

    I'm so angry and so pissed right now.
    Today when I woke up after hearing the alarm I let the telefon slip to the floor.

    Thing is it didn't fell in the floor but in a pee jar (for the night) from my girlfriend that was next to the bed and NOT under the bed...

    I was like fuck!

    She immediately said she has nothing to do with it.
    She constantlz leaves things in the florr laying around and one has to be very careful where one steps specially in the dark.

    In this aspect we are different as night and day.
    I'm über angry!!!

    Six months ago she threw me a glass of water that landed on my computer...I couldn't save it and had to buy another one.

    She said it was nothing to do with her...

    This are things that if I was single and living alone wouldn't happen and we are not in a very good phase right now...and now this.

    I feel like telling her to pack her stuff and leave me alone cause for getting fucked like this I prefer to be alone.

    I know that I'm exposing myself but I really need to vent.
    The thing that makes really annoyed is that I don't have money for a new phone right now, I have other plans that I've been delaying...

    So I decided...I'm still with a overheated head...not to have a phone until Xmas!

    • funny story. do you share the bathroom with other tenants? is that why she pees in a jarhotroddy
    • we are 6 in the apartment. she does it out of comodity and also not to make noise during the night.oey
    • pee jar?fadein11
    • yeah man who sleeps with a fucking pee jar? are you 60s hippies?mekk
    • do you get to use the pee jar as well, or it is only for herdrgs
    • anyway, not her fault, as I see itdrgs
    • Pee jar or not. She's not to blame.sureshot
    • Is the phone really dead? Try to dry it first, there are a ton of tuts in net...

      and not her fault, relax and cool your head before making decisions
      OBBTKN
    • fucking pee jar lolsinjun
    • Pee jar. Pee fucking jar. Cannot unseeset
    • Never mind the piss jar, but 6 people? That would drive me fucking mental.face_melter
    • why are you 6 in an apartament? sorry about your phoneernexbcn
    • I was in a destructive relationship when nothing was her problem & I was constantly at a financial lost. It grinds you down deep into depression and destroys ..mugwart
    • ... your confidence. What I've read seems like the first steps I was in. Tread with care. It might not be her fault for you dropping your phone but the ...mugwart
    • situation should have her feeling some form of 'tenderness' towards your situation.
      Don't enter the same relationship I did. Nearly killed me. Not worth it.
      mugwart
    • This the one about your landlady, mugwart?detritus
    • ha no I've a history of being drawn to abusive people - this was my ex wife. Mother was the worst ;-).
      Lessons learnt, I'm in a good relationship now though.
      mugwart
    • Never mind pee jar or six people, why would anyone ever throw a glass of water, the likelyhood of that going well is slim to noneterry_cloth
    • Shit man, your priorities seem unbalancedrobthelad
    • Seems like she is trying to destroy your life via the use of various liquids. I would be afraid of what is happening next.yuekit
    • why is the pee jar on your side of the bed...ArchitectofFate
    • oey, please write more storiesdrgs
    • Pee jarset
    • yes @DRGS, we need more stories, for... contextrobthelad
    • pee jar, lol.ApeRobot
    • would pics be asking too much?Gnash
    • assume theres a plumbing problem and all 6 are using the pee jar. you drop your phone in it -- is everyone at fault?
      discuss
      drgs
    • If an smartphone falls in pee jar in the middle of a forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound? does it work again after putting it on rice?ernexbcn
    • this post is a hidden ad for iphone 7drgs
    • lesson to be learned is pee jar should be kept in the corner of the room away from the bed.microkorg
    • pee jars should be designed with a funnel shaped top that narrows to a diameter smaller than the average telefon. (this should be in the million-$-idea thread)Gnash
    • is she that loud in the bathroom?monospaced
    • tatami walls?ernexbcn
    • Who cleans the pee jar in the morning?MHDC
    • is this girl worth it? is she mother material? make list of what you need in a relationship and compare. i dont think i could handle a pee jar unless it was ayurimon
    • "I'm so angry and so pissed right now." – A Man, A Woman and a Pee Jar. (Based on Actual Events)MHDC
    • off grid living situation.yurimon
    • A pee jar? OK. That's weird. Proceed as everything is normal.Hayoth
    • Is she a great aim? or does she 'she-pee' ?robthelad
    • Doesn't that stink?monospaced
    • Come for a quick trip to Brazil and relax a bit my friend :)Fabricio
    • A FUKEN PEE JAR!!! LOL
      ya why is the pee jar by your side of the bed?
      pango
    • throws a glass of water at you, breaks laptop..'not my fault'...leaves a fucking PEE jar next to your side of the bed 'not my fault'...exador1
    • i think you can see the signs as well as anyone else here can oey.exador1
    • love and emotions can cloud us all. but if this happened to me? I'd be fucking tail-lights out the door.exador1
    • what's the old phrase? lawyer up, hit the gym, delete facebook.exador1
    • in your case, it might easily be 'move out, delete facebook, hit the gym...exador1
    • and there are 6??? 6 people in the apartment? what the fuck dude? what kind of situation are you in?exador1
    • Look man, it's just a phone... and it's just a laptop... material possessions. DO YOU LOVE HER? Be honest.robthelad
    • I swear I read this in a comic booksince1979
    • Is your girlfriend your hand? Would explain quite a lot to me.Longcopylover
    • I'm bemused by the "OMG YOU LIVE WITH 6 PEOPLE?" comments here. Some people live differently. Shocking, I know.detritus
    • I live with 6 people. (That's not even including the voices in my head ;-) !). Be it 5 more than I want to be with. Normal in London.mugwart
    • trainspotting 2dorkKn1ght
    • You are literally pissed with all that pee on your phoneletterhead
    • Our cat uses this clumping liter that absorbs odor and it smells really nice. When she's done, she scratches the little rocks to refreshen the landscape.omg
    • The only problem is the little rocks get stuck to her feet, and it follows her when she jumps out and the rocks get all over the place.omg
    • But maybe your girlfriend can put cat liter in her pee jar and you won't have these problems anymore.omg
    • "Hey Ricky, can you take a couple of these piss jugs when you leave"section_014
    • What does she do if she needs a dump?Kiko
    • "There's gotta be better system than peein in jugs"
      https://www.youtube.…
      dorkKn1ght
    • LOL @ Kiko...oey
    • "She constantly leaves things in the floor laying around" that's a big no no for me. She seems like a messy type and she didn't even apologize.Beeswax
    • WHY THE FUCK IS THERE A "PEE JAR"? USE A TOILET LIKE A NORMAL HUMAN.sublocked
    • Is this is some Howard Hughes type situation going on?sublocked
    • Actually she doesn't have to apologize Beeswax, it's her way. We're surely different in that and sometimes it pisses me off. We have separate rooms actually.oey
    • And this was in mine. But she still has stuff around has this room used to be hers until one month ago.oey
    • LOL @ sublockedoey
    • Gotta get a pee jar for the crib now.BrokenHD
    • Who throws a glass of water in the general direction of a laptop? Was she dropped as a baby?instrmntl
    • who throws a glass or water at allterry_cloth
    • good pointinstrmntl
    • Whatever, I've got a jizz jug under my bedscruffics
    • Beat the shit out of her, be a man.i_was
    • Lol at Jizz jugset
    • My phone capitalises Jizz. Prioritiesset
    • How can she respond "she has nothing to do with it" when it's her jar and her pee?whatthefunk
    • Oh my.garbage
  • kona27

    A little update on a Tuesday afternoon while I sip coffee outside on our deck.

    I was let go on a Wednesday, had 3 interviews Thursday, 3 on Friday, 2 more on the following Tuesday. By Wednesday I had landed a freelance from home job for 40hrs of my time. By Thursday I had accepted an offer at a household name company 15min from my home.

    I busted ass and finished the freelance job so this week I get to relax and finish a few small to-dos around the house while I wait to start my new contract on the 18th.

    I guess I didn't realize how shitty I felt working at my last gig. I was irritable, restless, anxious,... now, I'm a totally different person and I feel absolutely amazing.

    Bonus point... I still get 6 more weeks of severance while I get paid for the freelance and new job. And yes, I'm enjoying watching my old company drown. :)

    Cheers.

    • CongratsHayoth
    • Although, painting our new closet turned seating area is straight bullshit and I'd rather pay some college dope to do it for $50 and a case of Bush Lightkona
    • Thank you Hayoth!kona
    • nice!monospaced
    • nice job kona. things sometimes happen for the better like right now for you.capn_ron
    • sweet!pinkfloyd
    • awesome! well deservedGnash
    • Don't worry... you'll feel shitty again in a few months! (just kidding maybe).BK
    • great!!sureshot
    • Now is the part where I get to say "I told you so!"nocomply
    • Selling candy, getting money.jaylarson
    • damn bro...couldn't be happier for you!!!!exador1
    • I, for one, am glad to your old gruff but lovable self!robotron3k
    • *you're backrobotron3k
    • nice - congrats!pedromendez
    • Nothing's beats watching them fall.
      *cuz "drawn" is a bit too soon...
      pango
    • fucking a - well donemugwart
    • Congrats.Longcopylover
    • thanks all!
      I just got the box of my stuff after 3 weeks and I open it to find quite a few pieces broken and pictures bent... fuckers
      kona
    • kept my jambox and iphone 6 too. time to throw a flaming bag of poo at their officekona
    • right on man. congrats.fyoucher1
    • Loving your selfrobthelad
    • Nice one Broham! Knew you would land on your feet! You have come a long way from the hobo stabbin days!spendogg
    • awesome Kmoldero
    • I shouldn't be, but i'm actually genuinely annoyed on your behalf about the treatment of your personal items.
      Assholes!
      Glad to hear you're feeling the benefit
      detritus
  • utopian15

    I buried my mother in the pouring rain today...hands down the saddest and longest day of my life. Go hug, call or tell your mother that you love her for me.

    • You're a good guy, Ute.
      I mean, you're a dick, but we all are too.
      xx
      detritus
    • alrightsince1979
    • condolenceseryx
    • that's heavy. hang in there.inteliboy
    • Take care manbezoar
    • My grandmothers recent funeral was in the pouring rain. You can't help but feel the earth is mourning with you. Thoughts are with you and your loved ones.sofakingback
    • thanks utopian. mothers day will have an appreciative perspective for me.hotroddy
    • <3PonyBoy
    • strength from across the pond.sureshot
    • m♥momg
    • Lost mine 3 years ago, my heart goes out to you and yours - rough shit to power throughwhatthefunk
    • my condolencesernexbcn
    • condolencesloool
    • my condolencesCalderone2000
    • Condolences from UK mate xfadein11
    • sending hugs. My sincere condolences.sea_sea
    • This has been extremely painful and heartbreaking for everyone in my family, I appreciate all of the kind words an d thoughts.utopian
    • my dear utopian, my sincere condolences and please feel hugged.oey
    • condolences, my thoughts are with you and your familyGnash
    • hugs bro.. my condolences.robotron3k
    • Sorry to hear about your lossfuturefood
    • so sorry, i hope you all find peace.BonSeff
    • So sorry utopian.mg33
    • :(BusterBoy
    • so sorry bro..autoflavour
    • really sorry - best wishesFax_Benson
    • Sorry to hear that :-( My condolences.riskunlogic
    • My condolences utopBennn
    • Stay strong, she will always be part of you and you a part of her.evil1
    • So sorry for you and your family.stoplying
    • I'm so sorry utopian, hope you've got some days to rest now. All the bestOBBTKN
    • That's heavy :-( So sorry, Utopian! Stay strong.chukkaphob
    • Really sorry. My condolences.Krassy
  • i_monk32

    I'm getting a promotion, switching from contract (4 years) to actual staff, 23 days vacation + bennies, and a 12.5% raise in the new year.

    Come on 2024!