Sexual Harrassment in Advertising/Tech
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- fruitsalad-3
Get him blind drunk, then get in a taxi to a love hotel, have a stern and strong ladyboy pre arranged to meet at hotel, swap with ladyboy. Let ladyboy do their stuff, take photos.
Blackmail.
- do him like the principle in the Vice Principles showmoldero
- sted2
Eh forge this HR crap at most places they are just servants.
If you really want to a fuck with his dignity find the most powerful woman at the agency and start a conversation with her. Believe me it will not be difficult to achieve what you want. But this won't change the man.The best is to ask a friend who you trust to kick his ass and leave a message. Nothing serious just that he will know that this is going to happen each time when he does something like that.
- HR are fucking dancing monkeys, in my experience.Continuity
- cannonball19780
I'm sorry you are facing harassment from this fellow, but it sounds like you know what to do about the situation. I would let him know that it's unwelcome attention and if he persists that you and other women have shared your experiences with each other.
You should expect him to be a petty bitch, that some sort of mild confrontation is inevitable, and to go from there.
- _niko0
What if your FB messenger got accidentally 'hacked' and his creepy messages were leaked to social media for everyone to see what a dirtbag he is hehe
Like what happened to Anthony Weiner
- yeah, just post those message. if he hasn't got his name as www .com, take it, and post his messages on there.fruitsalad
- Maaku0
Read something similar about a woman designer that worked for Uber.
And I personally have heard CEOs and clients bragging about young girls :-/ very uncomfortable.- Here's her story https://medium.com/@…Maaku
- I read that and i want surprised at all by her account.shellie
- _niko3
You should be able to go to HR or the higher ups and have him disciplined, I'm sure you're not the only one who's complained about him. If the company doesn't take action they could be held responsible.
Or just get some homies to scare the shit out of him.
- not worth a fig, this isn't about that assholes job, HR can't do crap about on what level a dickhead he is.
last line makes more sense...sted - Here's my real fear. I could make 50k+ in contracts if i tried. He could stop that, or the agency might want to put distance between them and this situation.shellie
- Stead is feeling me on this. Everyone says HR bit i think the system is set up to forgive and protect him and maybe fire him silently months later.shellie
- not worth a fig, this isn't about that assholes job, HR can't do crap about on what level a dickhead he is.
- sarahfailin1
I agree that you should do whatever you can to nail this guy while protecting yourself and the other women affected.
Can you take the facebook/text messages from you and the other women, redact the names (except his, clearly) and submit them to the proper authorities via an anonymous email address?
Tell them that none of you wishes to be identified (if that is the case) but that you can continue to communicate via email anonymously.
just an idea. nail the mofo.
- Fax_Benson0
that's a shitty and familiar story. Definitely speak to a legal bod with experience of similar situations first.
- ernexbcn0
I've heard some bad stories lately regarding taking stuff like this to HR, such as getting the complete opposite result that common sense would dictate on a situation like this.
- pango0
put his head on a stick!
- noneck0
"What the hell is wrong with my gender?"
We don't call out douchebag behaviour when we witness it, thereby giving it our tacit approval.
- Hayoth-2
So what exactly did he say?
Post screen grabs of the comments.
- feel2
sad to read this story Shellie, I work in advertising for years and I see it repeatedly, specially back in Brazil, and it is not something that can be solved just by calling out sexist comments, ad people are like that, i guess inherited from older people in the industry, but this has to stop.
that's a really tough situation when you're a vendor and not inside his working network, otherwise you could just report him to HR and he would face serious trouble.
I've read someone on your FB post saying that you should get in touch with some other woman that works inside his company to help dealing with it, I guess that's a great start
really hope he gets what he deserves and stop with this behavior with other/younger woman.
just wanted to add that no, you're not getting a stained name for doing it, it is your right to point out this situation
and if so, you're only filtering out horrible people from getting your amazing work talentyou don't need them, they need you, your expertise and talent, not the other way around, they're not the last company in the world
so just keep that in mind, that your work is valuable and appreciated <3
- bklyndroobeki2
One of the first things that popped into my head, shellie, was possibly mediation (finding a mediator?)...
although by the time I finished reading your post it was kind of sounding to me that this guy actually needs help- definitely displaying psychopath behavior, but I wouldn't rule out a mediator potentially, it might wake him up (and might very well be as effective as a lawyer)
Not certain, but can you get thoughts from freelancers union as well.
Sucks that this is happening, I hope that folks on his social media platforms do call him out on his behavior.
All else fails... I like _niko's advice!
- cannonball19782
One think I'd be careful about is to be certain that his behavior falls firmly in the workplace harassment bucket before taking him to the mat. That means that you have already communicated CLEARLY to him that you don't want the attention he is giving you, and that he is persisting after you have given him warnings.
Certainy, his behavior is unprofessional in a work place, but if this isn't happening in the work place then make sure you aren't bleeding personal life and professinal life. That means it would be harder for you to repremand him through work if his behavior isn't occurring at work.
I re-read your post and you insinuate two things without providing any information:
1) That his string of messages was gross. Sure. Guys sometimes say gross stuff thinking that it would be recieved well, and it isn't clear that this happened AFTER you told him to stop. Being gross doesn't necessarily mean harassment if he has no notion of how you are taking his advances. Be clear that he belongs in the harassment bucket ABOVE AND BEYOND the "all girls think he is gross" bucket. Although it's slight, there is a difference.
2) You mention that you took steps to protect yourself from physical abuse. Why? Did he physically harm you? Did he cause you to feel you need to do that by saying somethign menacing? Obviously safety is paramount in any situation, but it would be unfair to insinuate that you need to protect yourself from physical harm in the same breath as accusing him of being creepy if the guy isn't actually a physical threat. Be real about this, because if you aren't, you are painting a person as a physical threat when they aren't, and you get things like this thread where you have 20 responses of "OMG are you okay?" When you are clearly a woman capable of handling your shit.
Now, go forth and dish out justice.
- HAYZ1LLLA1
I don't have much to offer on the subject sorry but the back-seat-driver in me says definitely spread the word about him. we can always assist in making it viral as possible.
- Bluejam0
You could try getting into contact with this organisation? They might offer you some advice ...