Sex, Booze > Kids, God
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- futuremongolian
Kids are said to fill our lives with poignancy and inexplicable joy, yet it appears many parents would rather be tossing back some bourbon and rolling around in their skivvies than taking care of their beloved offspring. A new study by Carsten Grimm from the University of Canterbury in New Zealand has found people rate sex as the top activity that brings them happiness, followed by drinking alcohol or "partying." Caring for kids (yawn) fell down the list at number five. God also got the cold shoulder, with people rating meditating and religion at number four.
- futuremongolian0
Though I am amazed drugs isn't up there, as MDMA makes me REALLY happy.
- mg330
Conflicts with a survey I saw in which solo masturbation ranked as the number one activity that brought people happiness. Because, you don't have to talk afterwards or acknowledge anyone.
- Was the survey conducted by you with a sample group of 1 person?ETM
- :DETM
- hahahahashapeaspect
- fredddddd0
Got to do something with your life. Having kids makes people feel important.
And why work hard then? We could all live in tents, have sex and earn money for for alcohol and food.
- yurimon0
Damn Pagans :P
- Horp0
The kids thing is far more complex an experience than a simple thunbs up / thumbs down could ever encapsulate. Its hard work, its frustrating, it means you have 24 hour responsibilities for the rest of your life that can kill a lot of activities and lifestyle choices that you previously held as definitions of yourself. There is a lot to mourn when you become a parent, but you don't. Not really. Occassional pangs at moments of fatigue or frustration when you might turn to your partner and say "I'd give anything to have the freedom to go on a nice long kids-free holiday with booze and clubs and nothing to think about". Truth is though, you know that stuff can't on forever. Nothing is as tragic as the 50year old partying singleton who looks like hell and has nothing but a drink problem to keep company.
Kids bring a whole lot of stuff along. Messy house, relentless subscription to routine, early morning starts, endless squabbles and upsets to resolve, but you can't evaluate it in a comparison to simple monotone pleasure stimulators like "drinking" "dancing" "sex". Its like deciding which is best between a zoo and a pencil.
Kids are great. Incomparably so. Good life is defined for me by the good humour that can be extracted from the day-to-day. When young and single, that good humour can be found in social stuff, drink, drugs, flirtation, crazy activities, freedom. When you have kids, the good humour comes from places you can't imagine. Its a much richer source of nourishment, more nuanced, ever changing, always suprising, and always magical.
But I'd do anything to have two weeks of my youth back.
- pango0
i choose sex and booze any day over god and kids.
- GeorgesII0
QBN Survey of the day
Would you chose between
(A) easy life of booze of sex(B) kids
>>>>>>>>> answers to the right >>>>>>>>>>>>>
- A+pango
- B+ A in the evening, after kids went to bed :-)riskunlogic
- < you should not be combining them.monNom
- B) no question. Once you have kids, that will always be the answer.
Being a dad is amazing. period.exador1 - yeah i have to admit Bautoflavour
- mind you booze and sex are also goodautoflavour
- pig0
- eoin0
I'm 39, am I too old for family and kids?
- Too old for lifeORAZAL
- Good point, well made.eoin
- no, but definitely pushing the upper envelope.. do you really want to be chasing after a 10 year old when you are 50?
autoflavour - Ohhh god, dont say that.
42, and my youngest is two, so...
Oh Fuck.Horp - Fffffffffpig
- coldarchon0
American Dad:
"A world without children. Future generations will thank us!"
- autoflavour0
i think i would be happy if twice a month i could go out, get completely shitbag trashed and not have to be resposible adult the next morning for my son..
if that was the case.. i think a lot of people would probably have a better time with being parents..
yep.. i am a complete selfish cunt
- that said, i am pretty happy as it is.. and i still manage to get part way shitcanned every few weeks..autoflavour
- its just the mornings which are roughautoflavour
- Horp0
^
My missus and I still managed to have a shit-faced night each, about once a month or so. Not often together... we arrange nights out with friends and arrange that the other one will take care of stuff in the morning, so we each get a night out, unlimited drinking/ deadline, plus the ability to suffer dull agony in a sweaty bed until midday on Saturday/Sunday. We even provide each other with cups of tea, coffee, toast, salty snacks, sandwiches and pain relief.
It works well. In all honesty once a month is about all I can personally manage these days. The only thing I ever have on my mind for about three weeks after a night out is 'I'm never ever doing that again'.
- yeah, we do sort of as well.. although the saddest part is we cant do it together..autoflavour
- We're glad to see the back of each other on those occassions when it happens.Horp
- That's how we do it too, but sometimes we take our kids to my mom and go out together.riskunlogic
- fredddddd0
Our brains are built to have kids, just not caring for them once they're able to walk.
- lowimpakt0
this is a bullshit study pushed out by a tabloid obsessed press team in a second rate university
- inteliboy0
creating life and having a family
vs
drinking boozereally?
- mikotondria30
One can never fully explain or impart the depth and breadth of joy of mdma and dancing to fantastic dark twisted music - the weightless, boundless oneness and joy, has to be top of the list of sensual experiences, leagues above any sex or booze. In the shortest term, spontaneous hilarity with close friends can be the most intense.
But nothing compares to the long-wave returns of loving a child and investing oneself in their growth and well-being. It's beyond any temporal joy or happiness - a lot of the time it's just effing relentless hard work. There's nothing like it, nothing that could take its place; it's like climbing a mountain for someone else, carrying their bags on your bag, in the rain, with the sense of accomplishment at arm's reach as you get higher and higher, and every now and again you come to a viewpoint and you can see for miles and it all makes sense, and you can see the work you've done for you to all reach this height and these happy moments you'd give your life and all in it for, without a moment's hesistance, they are your life, more than you ever thought it could be.
- scarabin0
just get a cat