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Weddings w/out family? 2020 Responses
Last post: 1 year ago | Thread started: May 9, 12, 8:51 a.m.
- mg33
Have any of you gotten married by yourselves with no family present? Was it in the US or out of the country?
Just curious if you caught any flack from family about them not being there. I'm getting a little bit of that in preparation for our wedding, but really trying hard not to feel bad about that. We've always wanted to get married out of the country, and our rule has always been that if any one family member can't go, nobody is going to go. We're going to have photos and a video though.
- May 9, 12, 8:51 a.m. – Permalink
- GeorgesII
I did kind off,
Me and my wife got married here in italy,
but only my mom could make it,
we did invite lots of people but being dispersed all over the world,
only a few of the people invited could make it,there was no hate as we sent photos + video of the wedding to everyone
plus don't forget that you are getting married for yourself,
not for your friends, familly or else.
- Dog-earMay 9, 12, 8:55 a.m. – Permalink
- aaux
Why the rule about no family going? I was married in Hawaii and anybody that wanted to fly out just bought their own tickets. Then we had a big barbeque when we came home to celebrate locally. Nobody really cared because we still were able to all celebrate the wedding at the party.
- Dog-earMay 9, 12, 8:57 a.m. – Permalink
- ArmandoEstrada
Who's getting married, you or the family? The whole thing is a show for everyone else. I say go get married at a chapel or Justice Peace, you and her, take the $$ you will save on a wedding and go take a good trip or two for the honeymoon.
- Dog-earMay 9, 12, 9:03 a.m. – Permalink
- ArmandoEstrada
Ive seen people get in major debt just getting married. Dumb.
- Dog-earMay 9, 12, 9:03 a.m. – Permalink
- fyoucher1
You're bringing two families together. I know if my bro did that, I'd be pretty disappointed that I wasn't invited. Not entirely sure why you'd be making rules like that. At the very least, mention it'll be out of the country and give them an invite. Just my 2 cents....
- Dog-earMay 9, 12, 9:04 a.m. – Permalink
- nocomply
Yeah that was kind of a pipe dream for my wife and I that never panned out. We caved and had nearly 150. Still, it was an amazing day that I wouldn't trade any other experience for.
My cousin did it though and then had a party for friends and family a few weeks after. Maybe that's a good compromise?
- Dog-earMay 9, 12, 9:12 a.m. – Permalink
- bjladams
man, when my wife and i got married we could only afford a single twin bed and were saving up for the other to push them together. at first it was romantic trying to share that tiny space, but i eventually got pushed to the floor and occupied a sheepskin rug. our kitchen table was a plastic crate and we had some mis-matched lawn chairs. we bought our wedding rings from a sale event in a parking lot outside a mall. everything we owned fit into 4 bags after we sold the car and bought one way tickets to the states. we ate a lot of fish, cause a fishing license and tackle is a lot cheaper than a hunting license and a gun/ammo. plus it was easier to clean and gut fish to bring back to the apartment rather than field dress a deer on the porch. she baked all our bread. still does. we got married officially by a judge. and then later on her parents gave us a real wedding. it was good. things are a lot different now. we've walked thru much together, gaining kids, house, plastic stuff from china... loosing my hearing, starting a business - hours spent trying to figure out whether we love or hate the dog... mostly, my wife is my best friend - if i could have afforded it, i would have given her whatever wedding she would have wanted. but all i could afford was a couple flutes of champaign and some m&m's. and she loves me anyway.
- Dog-earMay 9, 12, 9:33 a.m. – Permalink
- vaxorcist
great @bjladams....
For my lovely second wedding, we had my parents, her parents and a bunch of friends all barefoot on the beach in FLA, no church, no crazy wedding planner, no huge budget dinner, our official was a friend who's an ex-army drill sarge who's a notary, he had a loud clear voice, it was great....
- Dog-earMay 9, 12, 9:51 a.m. – Permalink
- mg33
Well, we're getting married in Italy, and just started planning this within the past few months. We've been together for over 9 years, engaged for 3 1/2 years, and Italy was what we always had our minds set on.
We are having a reception back in Chicago at the end of July to have family and friends celebrate with us. But it is just too logistically crazy to have had family with us on such a short timespan.
- Dog-earMay 9, 12, 10:03 a.m. – Permalink
- DaveO
Getting married in december. Saving and working feverishly to pay for it. Flying back to London to do it, rather than everyone spend and come to NYC. Having 120 friends and family to come. 90 to dinner then the rest later on. Crazy times, but happy and can't wait!
- Dog-earMay 9, 12, 10:19 a.m. – Permalink
- mg33
Yeah, we did NOT want to spend money on a big wedding with tons of people. We're still spending a bit on the whole thing for ourselves, but we're getting right in the middle of a two week vacation pretty much. Italy for the first week, getting married towards the end of it, then flying to Paris and spending a week there. Paris was the first vacation we took together 3 months after we started dating in 2003, so we're really excited to go back.
- Dog-earMay 9, 12, 10:55 a.m. – Permalink
- autoflavour
yeah we eloped to denmark..
the only people who knew before hand were people we knew in berlin.. apart from that, both families were in the complete dark until after the fact.why? we have family in germany and australia.. so one of them would inevitably miss out to some extent.. also, neither of us wanted a big expensive wedding.. they are bullshit.
did we cop flack for it.. of course we did..
none of our family gave us any presents, not that we were expecting them, but to be told straight out we arent giving you a present as we werent invited to the wedding.. its a pretty straight clue..
but yep.. best move we ever did..
funniest part was we barely had any money.. so we had to catch the local bus from our hotel to the registry office in the next town..
the bus we caught happened to coincide with school getting out for the day..it was a bus full of 12 year old kids.. and us, dressed to get married.. on a bus.. in denmark..
in a lot of ways, it was perfect..
- Dog-earMay 9, 12, 11:02 a.m. – Permalink
- fooler
"it's complicated. i have four parents, she has two that are divorced and don't even speak to each other..."
My parents hadn't spoke to each other in over 10 years. At my sisters 1st wedding they both went with their new spouses. There wasn't assigned seating and the only place for my mom to sit was at my dads table, He bit the bullet and invited them over to sit with them. I'm sure it was hard but now another 10 years have passed and they all go out to eat with each other and spend holidays together with their grandchildren. They even retired to the same city to make it easier for us to travel and see them. It's not like they're best friends but they tolerate each other for the sake of their children and grandchildren. Hopefully your family will have the same luck.- Dog-earMay 9, 12, 11:08 a.m. – Permalink
