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joelski
So here is the deal. I work as a freelance designer in sydney...i have my own studio and a handful of clients that gets me by and hire other contractors when I get more jobs then I can handle...the work is O.K but I feel I need to be inspired....local scene here is really adversing focused not design agency focused the industry is too small and there is only a handful of good design studios that wold expect you to work for peanuts...but thats another story
I have been seeing this girl for a year an a half...I am pretty sure i want to marry her..first chick in a long time I am sure about...I really do love her....... but we are at different stages of life....just before I met her I won a green card to the US lottery and i guess my dream was to work for 2 years in NYC for an experience...I am 30 years old she is 23....she just found out she might get in to medicine in canberra 4 hour drive from me....she doesn't know if she should take it...but I don't want her resenting me if she doesn't....I don't think I would move there as canberra is kind of a dead city and it would effect our relationship....So do I ditch the girl and move to nyc and try my luck there...even though this could be the love of my life....or stick around and try do the long distance thing seeing here every 2 weeks for the next 4 years and stay in sydney with my average job or move in to adversting...obviously NYC is a dream but not enough to resent her for making me stay though....
on another note can you guys send me some links to brand/design (across media) focused agencies based in NY I don't want to work in advertising doing banner campaigns i NY...places similar to method.com and hyperakt design group
thoughts???
Sep 3, 08, 7:58 a.m. – Permalink
PSYKHO
In this country, you gotta make the money first. Then when you get the money, you get the power. Then when you get the power, then you get the women.
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Dog-earSep 3, 08, 7:59 a.m. – Permalink
skt
unlucky mate, that's a shite decision to have to make.
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Dog-earSep 3, 08, 7:59 a.m. – Permalink
anairn
Plenty more fish in the sea.
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Dog-earSep 3, 08, 8 a.m. – Permalink
kelpie
not to be a cunt, but the 'every 2 weeks for 4 years' thing is unlikely to work. 6 months, maybe a year, but any longer and I reckon you're fucked mate. good luck on your decision.
- totally agree. I've been in such situation and it worked out just beacuse we saw each other quite frequently– Fariska
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Dog-earSep 3, 08, 8 a.m. – Permalink
mia_free
there may be a problem if your even asking yourself this (?)
- rubbish– Dancer
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Dog-earSep 3, 08, 8 a.m. – Permalink
TheBlueOne
Think of where you'll be in two years in either case..what will you regret most?
- You don't want to end up resenting her, even though it doesn't sound like she is stopping you– rodzilla
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Dog-earSep 3, 08, 8:01 a.m. – Permalink
amongthemasses
Money first. Play later.
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Dog-earSep 3, 08, 8:01 a.m. – Permalink
23kon
Hard decision
if its meant "to be" though then the living/studying/working apart and seeing each other every week or whatever will work.
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Dog-earSep 3, 08, 8:02 a.m. – Permalink
chossy
ask her to put it off for two years she is young, then once you have done the NYC thing if she does not have a new carreer in NYC move back so she can do her medicine job :) piece of piss good luck, love changes everything love makes all the rule love changes changes everything don't move too fast if you want your love to last love lasts love her.
- +1– alicetheblue1/8
  If she's in medicine, this is terrible advice, chossy - she'll need as much time as she can to make something of herself– anairn2/8
  and, quite why it should be her out of the two who has to put her career on hold, i just don't understand.– anairn3/8
  because she is younger that is why, it is only two years.– chossy4/8
  If she's intending to be anything 'above' nurse level, these are the years in her life she needs to get her head down.– anairn5/8
  ..er.. 'down'.
  
  – anairn6/8
  I disagree. She should get into it right away, or she'll be old by the time she is finished.– Jaline7/8
  bullshit old, she is 23, thats a good few years younger than me, get her to come with you homes :D– chossy8/8
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Dog-earSep 3, 08, 8:02 a.m. – Permalink
D_Dot
You're young, she's younger. Things will change, and you'll regret not taking the leap. End it on a good note, and maybe you can try again in a few years.
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Dog-earSep 3, 08, 8:03 a.m. – Permalink
Rushmore
A few of my thoughts in no particular order:
- Long distance relationships don't work in the long run.
- If you are unhappy with work you will be unhappy with your life and that will eventually strain your relationship with this girl.
- A girl is not worth giving up a dream for.
- And long distance can work. My wife and I did 2 years apart before marriage - we made it through.– TheBlueOne1/6
  thats a hard call– joelski2/6
  in general LDR's don't work most of the times.. of course you are an exception– Jordy3/6
  i did 4yrs away just after i started seeing my missus . been married for 8yrs now...– _me_4/6
  alright i'll give you that one.. i know plenty that broke up LDR, including me– Jordy5/6
  How did you meet your wife though, tBO? I seem to recall your circumstances were a bit different to hometown girl..– anairn6/6
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Dog-earSep 3, 08, 8:03 a.m. – Permalink
kezza_2
There are some great ad agencies in Sydney.
I would move to NYC personally. She is prepared to move away from you for her job, so clearly doesnt feel the same way you do anyway. I'd be a selfish as she's being. lots of women in NYC.
23 and 30 is a bit of a gap in terms of what you want out of life.
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Dog-earSep 3, 08, 8:03 a.m. – Permalink
Jordy
- don't even have to play it.– Imposeum
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Dog-earSep 3, 08, 8:03 a.m. – Permalink
joelski
thats some good advice rushmore....
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Dog-earSep 3, 08, 8:04 a.m. – Permalink
set
Careerfriend.
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Dog-earSep 3, 08, 8:04 a.m. – Permalink
SkyPoo
There's a practical limitation to your plan. If you go and work in NY you can expect only one working week off as holiday in any financial year for your first two years, then two weeks in your third and fourth. Not much time for taking 13 hour flights to Canberra and back.
Ditch her. Make the move. Look at it rationally, not with your heart. She's young and will change. You might follow her to a dead end town and get lost there forever.
- YOU ARE BEASTLY– chossy1/2
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Dog-earSep 3, 08, 8:04 a.m. – Permalink
digdre
pics of the girl please, so we can descide for you.
- decide*– digdre1/2
  lol– GiZounds2/2
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Dog-earSep 3, 08, 8:05 a.m. – Permalink
OSFA
Gosh! haven't you guys seen romantic movies or Sex and the City? Make the move dude, and love will reunite both somewhere one day and you'll live happily ever after...
OR, talk to her, after all, you have to know where she stands. She's probably made up her mind about leaving and you're going crazy thinking about this.
BTW, we need pics in order to elaborate....
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CALLES
flip a coin... it's the only logical way to decide this
- nope, ask the pvn. that's a much better idea.– skt1/2
  true– CALLES2/2
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Dog-earSep 3, 08, 8:05 a.m. – Permalink
dyspl
my advice is quite influenced by the fact I didn't get & H1B visa and missed a hige work opportunity.
I'd say there's so many people trying the green card lottery, and you have won one. Don't miss that.
- huge– dyspl1/4
  Hige are recruiting again right now.– SkyPoo2/4
  did you say HUGE?– CALLES3/4
  HUUUGE opportunity. I think about it everyday since I received the negative answer from the H1B lottery... :(– dyspl4/4
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