WWYD?
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- SteveJobs
what would you do?
so i met this girl a few months back at a party. we had a few things in common - both into graphic design (which is rare where i live). i'm pretty sure i sensed something between us but blew it off since i thought i'd see her again at another party or something. well, a few months have passed and i haven't seen her and as it turns out, none of my friends know her. however, when we were talking that night i found out that she happens to work for the same company as a friend of mine, in the building adjacent to his. it's a huge company, if i named it, you'd know who them. anyway, i asked him if he knew her - i only know her first name. he doesn't know her but found one person with the same first name in the employee directory.
question: would it be creepy for me to email her? like i said, i thought there was something there that night, but i don't know for sure. plus it's been a few months.... i could email this person to see if it's her, and if she remembers me....
what would you do?
- dbox0
do it.
- brandelec0
Steve?? is that you?
It's me.. from the party..
you blew it buddy tsk tsktee hee jk
you'll be sorry if you don't make contact, but think of a better scheme dude, emailing is alright, but think of some more reason too
- mayo0
If it has been months since you met and you haven't contacted her since, I, as a girl, would feel a little weirded out by that.
However, if you let her see right away that you are not a creepy freak, which i don't know if you are or not, then it might not be so bad.
- brandelec0
...like wait in her office building lobby, and say you're waiting for your friend who works there, Art Vandalay
- mayo0
try an email that says something like:
I was thinking about some design stuff, really wishing that i had someone to talk about it with but i don't really know anyone who's into design. Then I remembered how much i enjoyed talking with you at that party [don't point out how long ago it was] and thought that maybe you would like to meet for coffee and talk.
- SteveJobs0
i couldn't get in her building. security is too tight. plus, as much as i'd like to see her again, i actually would feel creepy going to see her in person.
my friend got me a phone number as well, but i think that's too confrontational.
it's email or nothing.
- mayo0
^^^^
I've already written it for you. copy and paste!:D
- PostModernStuff0
iwmhrngdi.
that is, i would mail her right now god damn it.
- jevad0
Life is full of moments like these..and its the desicions you make regarding these moments that make your life what it is.
Do it.
- johndiggity0
this is where camera phones are useful. find someone who works there and get them to do some recon on said suspected hottie and have them shoot you a pic to confirm the target. then i would bust out the design-related email. that was a good call btw. you really have nothing to lose. who cares if some girl you may never see again thinks you're a creep. and if it works, you're in. life's to short not to take advantage of the opportunities.
- MLVR0
do not say that 'you want someone to talk design with'. Just be honest and ask her out, might be a good idea to tell her pretty much what you've told us, that you thought you'd meet at another party etc. but you didn't and hee we are. blah.
- Neuarmy0
do that shit. just say in the email, "i hope i'm not freaking you out here, but..." and then say something funny and lighthearted maybe...and then the design discussion?
- grafholic0
personally (i'm a girl, k?) if i get an email from someone i don't know (but know but never given my address to), it's pretty creepy. sure you have gone long ways to contact, but it doesn't trigger slight bit of romanticism in me but more like "wah stalker!".
why not go for lunch with the buddy of yours to a place she might also go to? or does the company have cafeteria? that way it's easier for her to remember you too.
or if you email her, make sure to include "i really don't do this often but i was given no other options..." type of thing.
- mayo0
i'm not for the "i don't do this often" part, though the rest of your suggestion, grafholic, was good. Whether it were true or not, it will always come off as a line. I think i like MLVR's idea best and admit that you thought you would meet her again.
- johndiggity0
"i don't do this often"
from every girl i've ever slept with. seriously. i have to try not to laugh sometimes.
- SteveJobs0
*remebering how indecive i am and how many and's, if's, or's and but's there are that i could use to chicken out. screw it - i'm not creepy, and if she's not interested, no big deal - i'll never see her again. i like her, and i'm going after her.
i'll report back as soon as contact is made.
- mayo0
good luck sweetpea
- brandelec0
good luck son. he's all grown up now.
*tear
- lilbabyarm0
shine it man. go find some other pussy elsewhere....
- brandelec0
what was that movie where these two guys were in a washroom and the one guy washes his hands before taking a leak then he tells the other guy.. 'you see i wash my hands before i piss, cuz i don't know where my dick's been'