girlfriend not supportive?

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    Sounds like she is in a different place in life, seeing as she has 2 children to care for, but to bring up being "more supportive" if you were engaged? It sounds like she is trying to trap you into staying with her/not leaving, or she isn't convinced that you'd come back if you left for grad school. (And no joke, I wouldn't blame you if you didn't want to leave NYC. It's amazing!)

    IMO, she is being selfish in trying to stop you from perusing further education, especially if it is your dream. We're not exactly in a field where a graduate degree guarantees more money in the field, so maybe she doesn't see the point, but using engagement as a way to keep you around is a mistake. I would think she would at least hear you out.

    I say, plan to visit, apply to the school anyway, and decide then, but don't let her derail your plans right now. For all you know, by Fall 2012, you two may be broken up, and you'll have closed the door or put the brakes your dreams for a relationship that no longer exists.

    Buy a ticket, at least for yourself, and go see what it's about. NYC is very easy to navigate so you can do the trip alone, and perhaps when December rolls around, she will have a change of heart.

    If you end up getting accepted to this school, you'll have all the cards on the table, and can make a decision then. At the very worst, you can decide not to go.

    Good luck!

    • It's Columbia, if I get accepted I'd be a fool to say no.HijoDMaite
    • holy shit man, get in Columbia if they accept you.k_temp

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